Calm down fella...
As a support class, every member benefits from my gaining 20% SP, also as I was dual resto, are you suggesting that I should stand idle when no heals and buffs are needed?
Look anyone can misrepresent a situation to make theirselves seem the Good Samaritan, but... The language and tone u use in this post goes along way to prove how your behaviour was in said dungeon...
Shame on me for picking 2.
Truly.
Shame on me.
No wonder we have so many unskilled players when nobody wants to mentor, and even those that do get shunned for doing so.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »daedalusAI wrote: »anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »@Ozstryker : nice post ! There's always two sides to any story, and whether a dungeon run is going "well" or "awful" is also very subjective. One more reason to avoid giving advice without being asked for it.
Can I quote you in every random dungeon I run as low-level healer if I come across people who stand 24/7 in red, pull half the dungeon or just light/heavy attacking: "One more reason to avoid healing them without being asked for".
Sadly it's hard to not heal such particular entities due to aoe heals or smart heals.
My position is about giving advice.
You can meme my phasing however you want but it's your responsibility. I don't think it makes sense. Either you heal people and you can complete the dungeon in spite of pending L2P issues in other players (where's the problem then ?), or you heal people and you still cannot complete the dungeon (in which case you can try to give advice or leave), or you don't heal them at all and you cannot complete the dungeon and you leave (at least you know it's your own fault).
It looks like judging and lecturing others is more important to some players than completing the actual content.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »I could have soloed the dungeon.
They would not know I was doing 95% of the damage.
And they wouldn't have learned anything.
WOW. Didn't think you'd prove me right that quickly.anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »It looks like judging and lecturing others is more important to some players than completing the actual content.
Yes.
You're right.
Have a cookie.
There were three options I could have done.
- carry them as DPS
- try to teach them to DPS
- leave
Shame on me for picking 2.
Truly.
Shame on me.
No wonder we have so many unskilled players when nobody wants to mentor, and even those that do get shunned for doing so.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »Shame on me for picking 2.
Truly.
Shame on me.
No wonder we have so many unskilled players when nobody wants to mentor, and even those that do get shunned for doing so.
Thanks for the cookie.
And no, of course there's no "shame" in trying to teach people. Of course players of any level can always use mentors, help and advice. It's just that there's a mindset for it (we're not 24/7 ready for "advice and learning"), and a place to do it. PU groups are simply most times not the right place to do so. Guilds are.
Look at how most people react on any forum when anyone tries to teach them a thing or two about grammar and spelling. It's the same. They could learn, but they don't want to. Not here, not now, or both. Or maybe not ever. It's their choice.
Calm down fella...
As a support class, every member benefits from my gaining 20% SP, also as I was dual resto, are you suggesting that I should stand idle when no heals and buffs are needed?
Look anyone can misrepresent a situation to make theirselves seem the Good Samaritan, but... The language and tone u use in this post goes along way to prove how your behaviour was in said dungeon...
I am actually glad I have at least that one screenshot, otherwise this would be your word against mine.
Since you are quick to "prove" my behaviour in said dungeon.
Let's revise it again, shall we?
How's that for language and tone?
Calm down fella...
As a support class, every member benefits from my gaining 20% SP, also as I was dual resto, are you suggesting that I should stand idle when no heals and buffs are needed?
Look anyone can misrepresent a situation to make theirselves seem the Good Samaritan, but... The language and tone u use in this post goes along way to prove how your behaviour was in said dungeon...
I am actually glad I have at least that one screenshot, otherwise this would be your word against mine.
Since you are quick to "prove" my behaviour in said dungeon.
Let's revise it again, shall we?
How's that for language and tone?
Now we've heard a reasonable defence from Bill, it's difficult to really call this bad form on behalf of either party without seeing the chat beforehand to give context, do you have this? This is only a cropped snippet of a screenshot, the rest of the screengrab probably shows more.
It's a bit like those dashcam videos of someone driving like a twit, yes they are a twit but there's a feeling of something having happened before that could have provided a foundation for the small bit we see.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »The bottom line is that unwanted advice is horrible at worst and wasted at best.
I was with guildies on TeamSpeak on sunday night and they asked me to join them on the Arx Corinium pledge. I warned them that I was on my newly created DK - and since it's my first DK ever, I have no clue yet what I'm doing when playing it. With the current XP boost, you can have a full-blown CP561+ character within a couple of hours, and still have to learn to play it from scratch. Also, I lacked skill points and gear.
They needed undaunted keys so they insisted on doing it on vet HM. I warned them again that I was nowhere near optimized but I said OK, knowing that the other DPS was an excellent player around the 30K+ DPS. And so we went through the dungeon tank and healer were good, other DPS pulling 30K and me pulling around 8K. It was a little bit slower than usual but we completed the pledge without major issues.
While nobody was mad at me for performing quite poorly (they had been warned), they couldn't help "teaching me" during the entire dungeon on "how to play a mDK DPS" !! I said nothing because I didn't want to hurt them, but I wish they had just shut up. I know I need gear, I know I need skill points, I know I need to do some research, and I know I need practice. It's an entirely new class for me, you don't master that in a couple of hours. It was late and I wasn't ready for advice. It was annoying and wasted. Simple as that.
OP, in your story your intentions were good and all, and you've been very patient, but you tried to give advice to people who did not ask for it and did not want it. That's annoying and wasted.
But don't generalize. Next PUG you might stumble upon people who need advice and are ready to receive some, and in that case, the experience will be positive for the whole group.
Not really here to take anybody's side, I would like to add my experience to the discussion and maybe it will help future occurrences.
I am no pro or expert, but I managed to put together a pretty decent CP 517 healer without recurring to meta (which I care nothing about, to be honest). I have a lot of fun doing group dungeons with that char and, when nobody from the guild is available I use the random group finder without problems.
One time I was grouped with a good tank, a decent dd and the other dd seemed to struggle a lot, both in damage dealing and damage avoidance.
"No problem, that's what I'm here for" - I thought, and did everything to keep the group alive.
The second DD died a few times, yes, but we did finish the dungeon all together. Not once did I tell the second DD what I may have though they were doing wrong, nor did I suggest any changes in skills or armor. I did chat with that second DD midway through the dungeon as I was whispered by he/she, apologizing about the troubles and I just said something to this effect: "Hey, you're doing great, can you just help get those mobs off me, so I can heal better, please?"
From that moment on, guys, I can just say it was a whole different story. Dodging AoE's, using more efficient skills against the boss' side mobs and more useful to the group. Maybe all he/she needed was to feel useful and to have a purpose, a task, in the group.
At the end we were able to exchange a few ideas about strategies and such.
If you find yourself among lower levels or if you believe you are a better player, be adaptive, first of all, and also make sure you think of the group as a unit. It is the group, not one player, that beats the challenge. I, myself, expect nothing preset from a random group I get through the finder and am able to adapt as much as I can for the group victory, regardless of my level in relation to the others. I've had extraordinarily skilled players, I've had strugglers and I've had nice people and obnoxious too, in random groups. The thing is if you are worried only about the drop and not about enjoying the game (which is, being a MMO, playing with others in a group) then I believe, personally, that there may be something wrong with the way you approach the game. Regardless of how many videos or meta is available, there isn't just one way to run a dungeon or to work as a team.
Some teams are easier to work with, some harder, but that's the game too, in my opinion.
daedalusAI wrote: »I agree for the most part except this one bit: the group beats the challenge but if 1 player out of 4 isn't performing on a certain level that means the group as a whole isn't beating the challenge but the other 3 players are compensating for that 1 person - something you even pointed out and labeled as "adapting".
Some people don't mind having to drag such a person trough a dungeon while others - myself included in a lot of cases - find it almost insulting to join a dungeon while you clearly lack basics like understanding of skills, weapon swapping once unlocked, avoiding red, difference between light/heavy attacks etc.
Some things like avoiding red or skill rotations you can only learn on a higher level while doing dungeons but if you join a dungeon and don't ask questions or point out at the start that you're new to the game and/or dungeon and give me a chance to explain certain things I expect that you know the basics - and if you prove to me that you don't understand basics while practicing silence I feel insulted and my motivation drops to below 0.
It all comes down to delivery, sure offer advise.. But if u tell someone they are *** berate them and then use a condescending tone in that advise, then u come off as as a know-all bully!
I believe that u think u were doing these lower lvl guys a favour, but actually they were not half as bad as you have made out here, you did not really offer any solid advise... Other than L2P
Also your screen shot... Please...... I can't work out why u used that snippet, sure i lowered myself and you certainly said worse to everyone else in the group... But I guess that it would not have served your purpose to show any more?
I wish you luck, enjoy the game... It's S'posed to be fun champ
daedalusAI wrote: »I agree for the most part except this one bit: the group beats the challenge but if 1 player out of 4 isn't performing on a certain level that means the group as a whole isn't beating the challenge but the other 3 players are compensating for that 1 person - something you even pointed out and labeled as "adapting".
Some people don't mind having to drag such a person trough a dungeon while others - myself included in a lot of cases - find it almost insulting to join a dungeon while you clearly lack basics like understanding of skills, weapon swapping once unlocked, avoiding red, difference between light/heavy attacks etc.
Some things like avoiding red or skill rotations you can only learn on a higher level while doing dungeons but if you join a dungeon and don't ask questions or point out at the start that you're new to the game and/or dungeon and give me a chance to explain certain things I expect that you know the basics - and if you prove to me that you don't understand basics while practicing silence I feel insulted and my motivation drops to below 0.
Thanks, Daedalus.
Well, I think those are quite extreme cases, although I agree that they do occur (as I have witnessed that too), it is not at all the majority of the experience.
In those few cases, what eventually happens is that that person will either actually understand what the AoE circle is and jump or run out of it and see others interrupt and do the same, trying to catch up or they themselves will leave the group instance. I've very rarely had complete silence.
Still, like I said, from my experience these are a tiny minority of cases. Maybe I've just been lucky most of the times
It all comes down to delivery, sure offer advise.. But if u tell someone they are *** berate them and then use a condescending tone in that advise, then u come off as as a know-all bully!
I believe that u think u were doing these lower lvl guys a favour, but actually they were not half as bad as you have made out here, you did not really offer any solid advise... Other than L2P
Also your screen shot... Please...... I can't work out why u used that snippet, sure i lowered myself and you certainly said worse to everyone else in the group... But I guess that it would not have served your purpose to show any more?
I wish you luck, enjoy the game... It's S'posed to be fun champ
Not half as bad?
It was a damn NORMAL DUNGEON.
The boss has 1,6 million health.
Fact.
The boss fight lasted 5 minutes.
Fact.
Do the math.
They were terrible.
And I was as polite as I could be, but you simply cannot go around the fact that they sucked.
I mean, the NB literally just planted himself on the side during the Keeper fight, and spammed bow light attacks.
The sorc DD spammed resto heavy attacks.
The mob spawns did not die in the time frame before the boss reappears, and we had both mobs and the boss at the same time.
IN A NORMAL BANISHED CELLS 2!
We are not talking about veteran dungeons and people not following mechanics.
These people don't have a clue!
And if you think they do, I might be inclined you don't either.
And, I could not give them any solid advice because YOU interrupted and started being rude and trying to hurry up the dungeon.
YOU think you know it all, YOU are the one that didn't want to listen.
As I said before, if only there was one more newbie player instead of you in the dungeon, those three players might have learned a thing or two.
daedalusAI wrote: »Or you're more tolerant towards such people who stay silent and wait for someone to pick them up and explain things.
It all comes down to delivery, sure offer advise.. But if u tell someone they are *** berate them and then use a condescending tone in that advise, then u come off as as a know-all bully!
I believe that u think u were doing these lower lvl guys a favour, but actually they were not half as bad as you have made out here, you did not really offer any solid advise... Other than L2P
Also your screen shot... Please...... I can't work out why u used that snippet, sure i lowered myself and you certainly said worse to everyone else in the group... But I guess that it would not have served your purpose to show any more?
I wish you luck, enjoy the game... It's S'posed to be fun champ
Not half as bad?
It was a damn NORMAL DUNGEON.
The boss has 1,6 million health.
Fact.
The boss fight lasted 5 minutes.
Fact.
Do the math.
They were terrible.
And I was as polite as I could be, but you simply cannot go around the fact that they sucked.
I mean, the NB literally just planted himself on the side during the Keeper fight, and spammed bow light attacks.
The sorc DD spammed resto heavy attacks.
The mob spawns did not die in the time frame before the boss reappears, and we had both mobs and the boss at the same time.
IN A NORMAL BANISHED CELLS 2!
We are not talking about veteran dungeons and people not following mechanics.
These people don't have a clue!
And if you think they do, I might be inclined you don't either.
And, I could not give them any solid advice because YOU interrupted and started being rude and trying to hurry up the dungeon.
YOU think you know it all, YOU are the one that didn't want to listen.
As I said before, if only there was one more newbie player instead of you in the dungeon, those three players might have learned a thing or two.
You're lucky that they caught some of the balls. I earned CPs between 300-500 (was the cap at the time) just queuing for a dozen dungeons a day in the tool with random groups. As tank the queue was quite short. With some groups Rilis was immortal, because they didn't bother to read the chat and actually break the balls. I think with one group it lasted for ~20 minutes before I gave up and left
There is no tutorial for the dungeon. Inexperienced players are clueless about what it takes to get through most of these dungeons.
Heavy armor sucks badly at both resource management and damage dealing. I can't figure out why some people pick it for PvE. They probably don't bother to read the tool tips.
ESO has nothing
Yes, I do quite a lot as a tank. Usually heavy attack with heroic slash to also maximize ultimate regeneration. But a DD that does that half the time will not pull enough DPS for any normal dungeon, let alone veteran. And heavy armor has neither the weapon damage and critical that medium has, nor the penetration and spell critical light does. Not to mention the regeneration passives for stamina and magicka respectively. Constitution passive doesn't work on DD or healer, because they should get hit a lot to proc it. Which they don't want to, because being hit with 5-7K from trash mobs and 20K from boss is not pleasant, even in heavy armor, when your health is ~17-18K.