Pretty! ...Creepy?

EvilAutoTech

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InvictusApollo wrote: »

EvilAutoTech wrote: »

A random player once followed me for several minutes and offered me 10k gold to have my female character dance for him, even after after I told him that I was a fat old dude. That was creepy. My wife laughed and laughed at that.

@EvilAutoTech did you... take the gold?

I did not. I ported to my house, hid like a frightened rabbit and logged out.

Sorry it took so long to answer. You asked during a time when I was probably playing, if awake.

Vanos444

No! In ESO
But in WoW Goldshire.............it's creepy.
https://youtu.be/UfRtVuIuuZE

whitecrow

No, that's sweet!

I have gotten compliments and it is flattering. Only the most uptight feminista would find it creepy. People like that aren't even worth considering.

dcam86b14_ESO

Yeah that's creepy...

I've been the receiving end of these. For example, someone in voice in a random trial said "dang your eyeshadow is poppin"
thanks, I replied.

Then once in a random moon grave fane someone whispered "yo, can I use that mouth"......to which I replied hoping for a laughable response "how much gold you got" then they replied "what's your IG".....left the dungeon so fast

xeNNNNN

Dusk_Coven wrote: »

Some people are creepy though. Like the one time my toon completed a trade with someone and they called me "sweetie".
I imagine it'd be just as rude in real life.

Another time my female toon was out in the wilderness and talking to an NPC. A group of male toons came around and asked my toon wanted to join them to fight world bosses. I told them no thanks. But they hung around and started smashing AOEs.
You gotta wonder if this behavior is from their real life behavior.

"Sweetie" and "Dear" and things like that are endearing though and most of them time comes from female players when saying "sweetie" or both male and female players for dear when talking to newish friends or old friends. How X person grew up quite litterally matters when discussing the intent of others. It's also important to remember that not everyone uses todays "standards" of conversation set by whatevers mainstream at the time there are things that were said normally 20 years ago that aren't acceptable now to some people and many many different generations play video games especially MMOs so their interactions socially will differ.

I will say "Dear" to some of my female friends for example but only when I am about to ask them for some help in-game that they will probably say no to or something they can do to help me haha indicating i'd really appreciate their help.

Nirntrotter

No, that's sweet!

Generally I think it's really nice Whenever I do get one of those whispers it makes me smile. Exception being that one guy who opened with "damn mama you thicc".

deleted008293

Other

As long as both parties involved play nice i dont see a pb.

If the first person is being too scarry, follow, stalk, harass etc this person isnt cool. Especially if the second person is stating nicely and clearly she feel insecure, afraid, harassed.
If the first person is nice and the other act with ignorance, rudeness and fight back or trashtalk, instead of stating clear he/she want to be left alone, again isnt nice.

It is however nice that regardless who is talking to you, that if you dont like this person to be nice and talk directly and politely that you prefer to be left alone. And try not to fight back or argue and give attention. If situation repeat itsef for few times block and report.

If it happens that you two became friends and after some time you start to have divergences it is a different story in which borth parties has their own fault more or less visible. Again try to be as nice as possible regardless of the person who is talking to you.

Ye_Olde_Crowe

No, that's sweet!

None of my female chars could be described as pretty, but my (male) main received a compliment regarding his looks once, and I was both surprised and flattered.

As long as compliments and such are directed at the character, I don't see any harm in it.
I was on the receiving end of player-stalking once, though, and THAT was creepy.

I was alpha tester for a new tactical shooter back in the last millennium, and one of my co-testers (who lived on another continent) asked for some real-life article in voice chat, something he really wanted to have but for some reason couldn't find over where he lived. The thing he wanted - a specific local TV show merch item - was pretty common at (and specific to) the place where I lived back then, so I told him I could buy it and send it over. It wasn't expensive, and I didn't mind the 'effort' - a Kiwi guild mate had bought and sent me the (then) locally unavailable copy of Battlespire, for example, so I just saw it as another case of cross-oceanic guild mate/co-tester help.
The unfortunate thing was - TV merch guy got my address that way, and promptly started sending me unwanted presents and love letters, trying to convince me that I was unhappily married (which I wasn't), and so on. He didn't know me at all, just from test group voice chat. It was really, really creepy, and in the end I asked our test lead to transfer me from gameplay test to the core testing unit so I could avoid TV merch guy and the time he usually was online.

Monte_Cristo

Vanos444 wrote: »

No! In ESO
But in WoW Goldshire.............it's creepy.
https://youtu.be/UfRtVuIuuZE

Wait a minute.
They can do the Macarena in WOW? WHY CAN'T WE DO THAT!?
Forget fixing performance issues. Give me /Macarena emote. Maybe chicken dance and hokey pokey, too.

SeaWoodStage

No, that's sweet!

xeNNNNN wrote: »

"Sweetie" and "Dear" and things like that are endearing though and most of them time comes from female players when saying "sweetie" or both male and female players for dear when talking to newish friends or old friends. How X person grew up quite litterally matters when discussing the intent of others. It's also important to remember that not everyone uses todays "standards" of conversation set by whatevers mainstream at the time there are things that were said normally 20 years ago that aren't acceptable now to some people and many many different generations play video games especially MMOs so their interactions socially will differ.

I will say "Dear" to some of my female friends for example but only when I am about to ask them for some help in-game that they will probably say no to or something they can do to help me haha indicating i'd really appreciate their help.

Agreed, and it's often hard to read intent in text. My best friend and I call each other sweetie as a matter of course. And certain words are just in the vernacular, depending on when and where people grew up, as you point out. In real life there’s a huge difference between a friendly “You’re welcome, sweetheart’,” and a patronising “Listen sweetheart’, you’d better let me handle this”.

If someone I barely know in-game calls me “love” in a casual way, e.g. “Thanks for the mats love,” I’d assume they were being friendly, and would respond in kind.

If someone swaggers up during an encounter and whispers “Looks like you’re struggling with that loadout, love. You shouldn’t be using dual wield against Grogmaglith the Fairly Easy,” when I’ve got Grogmaglith down to 11% anyway, well I’m going to look askance at the fellow, and ignore their ensuing whispers along the lines of “you did well, love, but you should really rethink your fighting style. I’ll show you sometime.”

To specifically answer the OP, I would personally like it if more players felt comfortable complimenting each other on character appearance. The examples Zulera301 gives are flattering and inoffensive in my opinion, illustrating that it’s an easy matter to compliment respectfully. (I sound like Mr Collins in that last sentence, lol).

The creep factor comes in only if you use creepy language (“mmmm, gorgeous char you have there”) or if you push after being given the brush-off or ignored. (“Hey, I was only trying to be friendly!”) So if you’re a reasonable gamer giving appropriate compliments, I think you should continue to do so. The couple of times I’ve received compliments in-game, it’s boosted my mood for the whole day. And I’ve never once had a compliment on anything aesthetic, probably because my main is designed to look practical, fairly nondescript, and “pretty enough for all normal purposes”.