Pretty! ...Creepy?

JanTanhide

No, that's sweet!

I have no problem with that kind of Whisper.

Danikat

ShellaSunshine wrote: »

Don't whisper complete strangers. That's just creepy.

How would you feel if someone walked up behind you in real life and whispered in your ear?

*shudders at the thought*

This is basically the reason why I always have /tell turned off in chat...

Bear in mind it's only called a whisper because just the one player can hear it. I think there's a big difference between using /tell in-game and literally whispering to a someone in real life, which I agree would be creepy, even if they're not a stranger.

I had this problem with someone I used to work with, if I had my headphones in her way of getting my attention was to walk up behind me and lean as close as possible to talk right in my ear. Somehow she was surprised that it always made me jump and that other coworkers walking up from the side so i'd see them and waving to get my attention didn't have the same effect.

But in games whispers or tells are just a way of directing your comments at one person, since it's not always clear who you're talking to if you use other chat channels and too many conversations going on at once can be confusing.

FanmaR

Other

I just say "nice outfit". Seems to please most people.

I get sad when they ignore me though :c

MornaBaine

No, that's sweet!

If I see a particularly striking character, I too, will whisper them to tell them what I like about them. Most people respond with a pleased, "Thanks!" and that's the whole exchange, as it's meant to be. I often enough get similar whispers and always reply with a happy "Thanks!" myself.

However, I have also gotten creepy whispers that are essentially the equivalent of being hit on by some sleazy guy at a bar. No one likes those. Thankfully, they are fairly rare.

Sailor_Palutena

No, that's sweet!

phaneub17_ESO wrote: »

/w you're hot
/r I'm a dude
/w wut...

/w you're hot
/r I'm a dude
/w I know!

^ now that would be creepy.

You could go further creepier:

/w awesome horse of yours
/r thanks, I think it matches my outfit
/w do you think my horse would match with yours as well?

Vinterskald

No, that's sweet!

I think that's really cute!! I've gotten friendly (and usually not at all creepy) compliments a few times when playing my main - which is lovely, because that means my character is giving off exactly the vibes I was going for

But I get the worry of coming off as predatory, which is exactly the reason why I usually just admire other people's characters from afar without actually talking to them - unless they're friends or at least guildies, that is.

PrimusNephilim

Yeah that's creepy...

None of my toons are chicks, so yeah, it'd be creepy

Nestor

No, that's sweet!

I would much rather them give me a compliment than a friend request. A compliment can be taken in passing and accept them for what they are.

Friend requests from someone I don't know? Yes, my female, and male, characters are hot, but wanting to be my friend based on the look of my toon is what is really weird.

Veinblood1965

I just wish we could wink and wolf whistle! Lol

rpa

Other

Seriously, my ideal MMO character might have aesthetic in tone with these folks:

Too bad the ESO character generator and costume system is not up to challenge.

Anyway creepy comments are not problem. Duels I ignore until I have build for it...

Seminolegirl1992

No, that's sweet!

I love it. Had someone come up to my character yesterday and comment on my dyes

Vlad9425

No, that's sweet!

As someone who spends a long time in character creation as well as making cool outfits for my characters I find it awesome when someone whispers me that my character looks great.

SeaGtGruff

Other

I think it depends on what you say and how you say it.

zaria

Prof_Bawbag wrote: »

Zulera301 wrote: »

Prof_Bawbag wrote: »

Imo, there's simply not enough custom options in this game to make any character stand out. Almost all races look similar to some extent. Yeah, there are differences and you can sometimes get an outlier, but I could count on one finger how many toons I've stumbled upon and thought they looked so much different from the majority of other race specific toons.

I think we all think our toon looks special if we have sank X amount of time into its creation, but the reality is, when viewed from someone else, they're just another run of the mill character. I think folk are confusing outfits/armours for actual character uniqueness. For example, there is only so much nose shaping you can do. It's the same nose all day long, just the slider is more to the left. Same goes for almost every other facial setting. I'm not shitting on the people creating these characters, it's the pretty limited character creator we have been given that is at fault.

well sure we can't all be unique individuals without a few bits of body and/or facial similarities, but that doesn't mean that there can't be pretty characters (heck, there's pretty NPCs even).

you don't have to be unique to be pretty; for me, a lot of times a certain couple of hairstyles can really make a character look pretty or not, and so a lot of my compliments get directed out towards them simply for having the pretty hairstyle, and a face that isn't butt-ugly or something.

If I compliment someone's armour, the first thing I usually ask is what motifs/style pages it is, especially since I'm kind of a motif-maniac in the game anyways. so usually, most of my friendly compliments are aimed more at the appearance/face of the actual character, rather than what they're wearing.

It's not about looking pretty. Looking pretty is subjective at best. There is next to no unique player made characters to be had. For every character you have made, take the costumes etc off, there will be 100's more that are more or less a carbon copy of your own. Whether it be a large bearded orc wearing a wedding dress, or a cutesy little female Bosmer, they all look the same relative to what others have made 1000's of times over in the game. Hair, the scars etc doesn't change that. Giving us options of actual stand-alone facial pieces (noses, eyes, lips etc) would change that to some extent.

Got a couple of comments for unusual stuff. Had people ask about the Clan mother title.
Also the Jorvuld's Guidance robe on my healer before it became an motif.

And yes had one who said, did not know you could make Khajiits so pretty

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Worst was one guy who tried to pick up on my female elf in some stupid F2P MMO many years ago after I helped him with an world boss or something and he asked about some skill use and so on.
As he was obviously an kid I told him I was an male and lots of the females in the game was males.
He was shocked

zaria

Vlad9425 wrote: »

As someone who spends a long time in character creation as well as making cool outfits for my characters I find it awesome when someone whispers me that my character looks great.

Yes that is another thing, if you design you character to look sexy and people comment, well it worked.

Now the coolest think I can imagine in ESO is an Nuzhimeh the merchant lookalike.
She is very cute and having an character looking very much like her would be fun in random dungeons

Araneae6537

It’s all in the delivery. I have told several people in this and other games that I liked their character design, usually receive a “thank you” and never a negative response, only sometimes no response which can of course be for any number of reasons. And I am likewise happy when others appreciate my characters. To use your example, “Pretty elfie” seems maybe a little odd and I always address the player about their character lest it be seen as trying to RP hit on them or something. I did have someone approach me with similar. It made me a bit uncomfortable but I don’t assume any negative intent on their part. I think they were using the drunk personality so I made some reply about how much they’d had to drink and transported away!

slicksteezin

Other

If you ever said that to my plump redguard, Fartrell Cluggins, he would take deep offense to the condescending tone. He knows he's not a looker - maybe like a soft 3 on a good day.

Chicharron

WeerW3ir wrote: »

Tbh. We all make our looks to show off to other players.

Speak for yourself, I make them to my liking.

Sylvermynx

No, that's sweet!

Chicharron wrote: »

WeerW3ir wrote: »

Tbh. We all make our looks to show off to other players.

Speak for yourself, I make them to my liking.

Yup. I turn them out the way they need to be. Sometimes it takes a while. I've got several still "talking to me" about the way they want to look....

dennissomb16_ESO

Yeah that's creepy...

Based on what OP described, I would call it creepy. Starts off sexist as I do not see him explaining that he whispers male toons "handsome". If he came up to complete strangers in real life and told them they were pretty I am sure we all know what the general reaction would be.

I know it sounds pretty cynical but lets face it, the internet drives a lot of questionable behavior since people can do it anonymously. It is hard for a complete stranger to know his intentions no matter how harmless they may seem.

Nevasca

No, that's sweet!

Honestly I don't mind it. I actually spend a few hours to get my characters with cool visuals on Fashion Scrolls Online, feels good to be recognized sometimes.

As long as you emphazise you're complimenting the char's looks I don't think anyone will find it creepy.

OneForSorrow

No, that's sweet!

I work hard on my characters’ looks, so it’s fun to get compliments.

Zulera301

No, that's sweet!

dennissomb16_ESO wrote: »

Based on what OP described, I would call it creepy. Starts off sexist as I do not see him explaining that he whispers male toons "handsome". If he came up to complete strangers in real life and told them they were pretty I am sure we all know what the general reaction would be.

I know it sounds pretty cynical but lets face it, the internet drives a lot of questionable behavior since people can do it anonymously. It is hard for a complete stranger to know his intentions no matter how harmless they may seem.

Firstly I'm a she.
Secondly, I've whispered male characters to tell them they are good looking. It's a bit rarer because "pretty" isn't often used for men, and calling someone "handsome" has a much more suggestive vibe to it, while "pretty" or even "beautiful" are more neutral, so to speak. (you can say things like "this is a pretty flower", "that is a beautiful house", "that's a really pretty dog", or "it's a beautiful day". you don't really say handsome that way).

I mean yeah I'm not about to go and whisper the big fat orc wearing nothing but boots and the Jester Personality that he's pretty [might say it made me laugh though] but I've seen some really attractive male characters, and am just as willing to compliment them when I see them.

richo262

You probably shouldn't compliment people, ever.

There will no doubt be some ugly ESO characters that will band together and start nagging the general public calling it 'objectification of characters' and it is just systemic of historical oppression against ugly characters.

MarrazzMist

Yeah that's creepy...

I don't like compliments At least calling my char pretty or cute. You can call my chars fun or creative, if you want to be nice

Raideen

Other

My characters are not pretty, nor ugly. They are cool or wicked!

Shadowasrial

No, that's sweet!

I can’t tell you how many times someone has walked up to my character and whispered me asking what I was wearing telling me my character looks awesome, sexy, cool, dope, etc lol. Iv never found it creepy. I love when people take the time to look at a character and appreciate the work that went into creating the physical appearance and the work put into an outfit

MartiniDaniels

Other

I don't find it creepy or sweet. I find it like an opportunity to troll a little

Zephard

No, that's sweet!

My wife and I put effort in making our characters look the way we want. She plays all female character, I all male. When together people normally see our characters have the same last names.

We always take statements as compliment until the person says something more to let us know differently.

The closest to "creepy" has been mostly her, with a couple of characters who wanted to ERP with her, but even the initial statement was more than just complimentary, and when she was on by herself. The funniest part about that was we didn't know ERP was a thing on the game, and it was a couple and offering a good bit of gold. She said no thanks then told me when I came home.

I been "hit on" on my male character, I tell them I am flattered but not interested. If it's just the odd big ork or overly hairy male in womens clothes dancing next to me, I might /say haha then /dance then let my wife go /dance on the other side of them. It all fun, then me and her normal go run off to do our adventuring.

But maybe we are strange, as I have had guys hit on me while we been out and obvious I was with her. I have handled it then like "I am flattered, but not interested."

essi2

Other

All in the wording, elfie is abit creepy.

But complementing people on their characters is fine I think.

Some people spend alot of time in Fashionscrolls Online.