@gatekeeper13 Honestly, while it is 100% on the healer to not be a ***... Even as a PUG, the group still really should've had your back and kicked that healer. Unless it was in whispers and they didn't know.
gatekeeper13 wrote: »@gatekeeper13 Honestly, while it is 100% on the healer to not be a ***... Even as a PUG, the group still really should've had your back and kicked that healer. Unless it was in whispers and they didn't know.
Nope, it wasnt whisper. It was visible by all group members.
The rest of the group didnt care because he was a good healer and they just wanted to complete the dungeon.
nordmarian wrote: »I'm not really complaining about not getting paid, I was only stating out a situation that can occur. What made me feel bad was that I was in a team whom split the money unfairly and some did not received it. That caught me in the middle. Imagine yourself that you invite some good friends into your team and you get paid and they not. Drama. And second part was the fact that I was unable to raid with few of my good friends I've met through this game, whom got more interested into carry runs and less into raiding for progression scores and fun.
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As for getting replaced, yes, it happens everywhere, but what happened with me was that last year I was bullied, on my birthday, after only 2 raids on the PTS in a new trial for all of us. To make the situation worse, I was told in face that they simply used me because their other tank did not wanted to join the test server, and also conveniently enough for them I was bringing new people to the team. People whom I got split from and I was not able to raid with them anymore. People whom eventually left the game sooner or later and I miss them! They never gave me the chance to progress, improve, learn, and play with my friends, not even as a backup even if they had free spots. They rather invited some randoms or cancelled the raid. It is simply common sense that if a group of people whom are close friends come to you together, they both stay or leave. You do not split them! Toxic team behavior, not explaining and understanding that everyone need to learn and adapt a new content.
I was part of many end game teams whom took me as an applicant and I left without causing a scene or drama because people were much more clear from day one about how the things are going. You are joining for a trial period, you are trained, tested, evaluated, told about your mistakes in a very calm and polite way, and I could go on. I did had a raid team once whom were nicely enough to farm sets for me the day before the raid! Guided me step by step and told me the importance of staking adds in a certain way or playing a mechanic in a specific manner. Helped me farming certain gears from that trial as well etc.
And I was part of teams whom simply stated you are a bad tank, you are not doing x mechanic, but they did not know HOW to explain or HOW to help you to play that specific mechanic. There is one thing to tell your tank to "stack two adds" and a hole different thing to tell your tank where he should position himself, where he should move the adds and how, or explained mechanics in a much more understanding way.
Also, when two people whom had a problem in the past are meting eachother again they should simply move on, make peace with eachother and raid in peace together and not cause scenes like. I'm out. I don't want to play with x or y. Or replace this person from team causing drama.
nordmarian wrote: »Also I still think it will be very nice to have a counter on how many times we cleared a specific content. That will actually show a player skill in front of someone who did a new content hard mode, whom might got carried or not.
gatekeeper13 wrote: »I got "cyber-bullied" too, once and in a very bad way. You re not the only one. Because I am red-green color blind, I had trouble seeing the aoe field in Weeping Woman in vet DoM (first run) and died 2-3 times. The healer harassed me badly and ofc I was kicked from group. Couldnt understand the reason why I had failed so misserably since I was good at tanking, then watched a DoM guide by Xynode. In the video, I noticed that he used a different color for the aoe field and suddenly all seemed pretty clear to me. Joined a pug again the next day and guess what? In the group, there was the same healer again. He started calling me names, asked for the other members to kick me but one dd refused. Passed Scavenging Maw easily again, then went to Weeping Woman. This time, the boss fight was a piece of cake and didnt die once because with a different color, the aoe field was clearly visible. But no, the healer wouldnt stop. Till the completion of the dungeon, (although I didnt die once) he kept harassing me, asking me to get cancer, to die, he dissed my family and he just wouldnt stop. Every single second I had my chatbox filled with curses, insults and hate speech. And this sociopath is still in the game, probably harassing other people.
It was the last time I did a vet DLC dungeon with a pug. After that, I joined some guilds and now do dlc dungeon runs only with guildmates.
As for ZOS... There are hundreds of trash like that guy but the company wont give a damn... They will only claim how "nice and wonderful" this community is... Not saying there are no good guys. Most of the guys are nice but there is a pretty big number of toxic trash that gives the game a bad name.
gatekeeper13 wrote: »@gatekeeper13 Honestly, while it is 100% on the healer to not be a ***... Even as a PUG, the group still really should've had your back and kicked that healer. Unless it was in whispers and they didn't know.
Nope, it wasnt whisper. It was visible by all group members.
The rest of the group didnt care because he was a good healer and they just wanted to complete the dungeon.
That's pretty damn sad. Again, it's not technically their fault... But watching someone get harassed to *** because you don't wanna queue for another 5 minutes is pretty gross.
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