Girls and boys in the game

Victus · June 2015

Leandor wrote: »

Roselle wrote: »

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

This is, quite frankly, really terrible advice.

This is not meant as any form of advice. It's meant as an anecdote saying it may happen in a game and that it is no stranger than in school, in a supermarket, via Facebook or any other way of meeting.

Why do people judge on this? If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Life happens irrespective of prejudice. Why wouldn't one be interested in meeting a significant other that has similar interest in spare time activities?

I've seen quite a few suggestions about meeting people in supermarkets, or laundromats, but I always wondered how the heck would you approach someone in that environment?

"Hey, those are some nice melons you have there!" *slap*

So I guess selecting your words carefully would be a start

Seriously I would feel like a creep if I said anything resembling conversation to a stranger there.

newtinmpls · June 2015

Rosveen wrote: »

I might be alone in this, but I look at my character's arms, not her ass. She really has lovely arms. It's a shame that as a tank, she has so few opportunities to show them.

I have a dunmer female, first character I rolled up and this was early in my ESO gaming - she isn't the prettiest gal by any means, but she has the most attractive walk I have ever seen. Sometimes I slow her from run (most of my characters run most of the time) just to show it off (I mostly game with my husband, but hey, I admit I'm watching her too).

Raash · June 2015

JD2013 wrote: »

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

Lol since when have games been thought of as acceptable dating/looking for date interaction?

Lol yeah I wonder the same thing. It was really wierd to me how something could change in an instant like that.

Raash · June 2015

Banky71 wrote: »

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

That's very sad. I almost want to buy you a gift now.

Hehe well i feel more sad for him tbh. Poor guy.

Psychobunni · June 2015

Psychobunni wrote: »

TommyGoodgone wrote: »

Your gender doesn't matter unless you want to use it.

Girls in game gets more treat from fellow guildies, more popular and advance in guild hierarchy faster. A lot of guild die because they choose officers by popularity and not by suitabilty. Girls are popular from day 1. A guy have to proove he is useful.
Theres a stereotype that girls in gaming are nicer but that's not true. They are the same race: human and there are just as many not nice girl as guy.

Want to be an officer or just extremely popular in a guild?

- Post an unknown teen modells picture on the guild forum.
- Mention in guild chat that you not used to these games cos u r a girl

You will get more advice, people will be more patient with you with your mistakes, they will not try to lecture you how to play your game. You will get more bargains, free stuff, presents, you may win the guild lottery more etc.

You think this is miserable? I think it is but I know many player doing this. Even real girls doing this by not realizing they really using their gender to gain popularity.

Playing the other gender in a role playing game has never been my cup of tea. I know all the excuses. I heard it all. Boys don't play with dolls period. (No! Not that kind of period.) But that's just my conservative nature. I can take it that other people think else.

In MMO's I don't care what gender is the player I met. Onyl thing I usually ask is nationallity (for language barriers). And threads like looking for girl guild and how many girl gamer...
Come on!

I would like to think that most "real girls" at least *women* (I'm 35) want nothing to do with any of that. Maybe a young teenage girl who hasn't quite found herself yet or needs attention, but most female gamers I've talked to just want to *game on*

If a guild wants to be anything more serious than social and are giving out officer(s) based on popularity alone, they are doomed to fail anyway (imo)

IrishGirlGamer wrote: »

Rosveen wrote: »

BlueViolet wrote: »

I've noticed a few folks in zone chat making "corrections" when someone calls them dude, or man, and they're female. They typical response seems to have been "so?" or "no one cares".

I stopped correcting people. I guess I adopted their "who cares?" attitude. Unless it's guild/friend chat, then I'll mention I'm female to avoid the awkward situation when you know someone for a year and assume they're male, only to discover by accident that they are, in fact, a woman. It's so much easier in my native language with gendered verbs.

I don't throw out my gender or shove it down people's throats, but I have no problems identifying myself as a female.

Awhile back, on this forum, someone called me out because of my forum name. They felt like it was a "cry for attention" or some such nonsense because I put the word "girl" in it.

What made that interesting is the forum name I originally wanted wasn't available. I contacted Zeni's CS and they told me why, then suggested I submit a few possibilities for them to check. I submitted three, of which only one had the word "girl" in it. Zeni then chose this name for me and that's how I got it.

But I did choose the name - and I didn't think more than a half a second about doing it. Why shouldn't I be able to identify myself as a girl in the same way that a man might identify himself as an ironman or a superman or caveman or whatever. And if I do that, and then someone insists upon calling me a guy (because that's oh so funny right?), then yes, I'll probably correct them and I still won't think more than a second about it.

It's a trap! an attempt to shame into silence if you will. For instance someone I'm arguing with keeps calling me "bro" and I set him straight that I'm not a "bro" and stop calling me that....then he changes tactics to "oh you just want to be treated special" blah blah.... it's simply to avoid the fact they were losing the point and want to shame instead

however, the key answer to this may simply be to refer to everyone you meet along the way as female, even after they say otherwise (the annoying ones that is)

Banky71 · June 2015

I'm actually really shy and intimidated in games and in real life I make a living in front of crowds of people singing and performing. It's weird. When ever I play games I always feel like I am invading other peoples space that somehow understand that world more than I ever will. I have a hard time talking to anyone in a game at all mush less worry about if they are a man or woman. My girlfriend asked me the other day why I don't talk to anyone and thought it was weird I can get in front of groups of people and give my heart and soul yet am scared to talk to people on a video game.

IrishGirlGamer · June 2015

JD2013 wrote: »

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

Lol since when have games been thought of as acceptable dating/looking for date interaction?

Honestly? I've had more interaction with, and know more about, some of my guy friends who I've met in this game than some of the guys who have hit on me in bars or on airplane flights.

The only real difference in games is we communicate and play together for a bit before we do the big visual reveal, which I find oddly comforting. When a guy I don't know starts hitting on me on an airplane flight, I feel like I pretty much know what he likes about me.

Banky71 · June 2015

IrishGirlGamer wrote: »

JD2013 wrote: »

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

Lol since when have games been thought of as acceptable dating/looking for date interaction?

Honestly? I've had more interaction with, and know more about, some of my guy friends who I've met in this game than some of the guys who have hit on me in bars or on airplane flights.

The only real difference in games is we communicate and play together for a bit before we do the big visual reveal, which I find oddly comforting. When a guy I don't know starts hitting on me on an airplane flight, I feel like I pretty much know what he likes about me.

Is it your selection of inflight snacks?

IrishGirlGamer · June 2015

Banky71 wrote: »

IrishGirlGamer wrote: »

JD2013 wrote: »

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

Lol since when have games been thought of as acceptable dating/looking for date interaction?

Honestly? I've had more interaction with, and know more about, some of my guy friends who I've met in this game than some of the guys who have hit on me in bars or on airplane flights.

The only real difference in games is we communicate and play together for a bit before we do the big visual reveal, which I find oddly comforting. When a guy I don't know starts hitting on me on an airplane flight, I feel like I pretty much know what he likes about me.

Is it your selection of inflight snacks?

LOL!!! I read that and had this visual pop into my mind:

Man sitting next to me on an airplane says, "Excuse me, your peanuts are looking particularly enticing."

Banky71 · June 2015

IrishGirlGamer wrote: »

Banky71 wrote: »

IrishGirlGamer wrote: »

JD2013 wrote: »

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

Lol since when have games been thought of as acceptable dating/looking for date interaction?

Honestly? I've had more interaction with, and know more about, some of my guy friends who I've met in this game than some of the guys who have hit on me in bars or on airplane flights.

The only real difference in games is we communicate and play together for a bit before we do the big visual reveal, which I find oddly comforting. When a guy I don't know starts hitting on me on an airplane flight, I feel like I pretty much know what he likes about me.

Is it your selection of inflight snacks?

LOL!!! I read that and had this visual pop into my mind:

Man sitting next to me on an airplane says, "Excuse me, your peanuts are looking particularly enticing."

HAHA! That is hilarious. Your inflight snacks bring all the boys to the yard!

Merlin13KAGL · June 2015

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

@Leandor, is that a mouse pun?

A gaming spouse is an awesome spouse.

(Same for GF/BF). If you can't share what you love, what's the point, right?

jkemmery · June 2015

I'm a male and my main is a female. The reason for me is that it's far more interesting when I'm creating the character to see if I can make a really pretty female than some dude. It's awkward and stupid when male characters (presumably played by males) "hit on" the toon. I mean seriously guys, even if the person sitting at the computer controlling the character was a female, she probably wouldn't look like the toon anyway!

Leandor · June 2015

Merlin13KAGL wrote: »

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

@Leandor, is that a mouse pun?

A gaming spouse is an awesome spouse. (Same for GF/BF). If you can't share what you love, what's the point, right?

Nah, just a germanized saying, probably

Ten times yes to the second part. Imagine my surprise and delight that by now she shares my love for the PvP in ESO...

Moonscythe · June 2015

Vulsahdaal wrote: »

Moonscythe wrote: »

Vulsahdaal wrote: »

Female player here..
6 out of my 8 characters are male. I do play them all, but this is my main-

Well, dang, he's pretty, of course you want to follow him around!

Of course
But back on subject, and not being male I could be wrong, but I always figured this was the reason why so many males play female characters. Why not have a 'pretty' and/or otherwise attractive character that you would want to follow around for many hours? I dont see anything weird about this at all..
Honestly I probably dont think much about whether that large muscular hairy nord guy in front of me is actually a female, or whether that pretty petite young bosmer girl is actually a guy. It really just doesnt matter to me, I deal with each character as they are presented in game and thats all..

When I was playing Dragon's Dogma I made myself female but my pawn was a gorgeous hunk of man because easy on the eyes is better than ugly.

I always make myself young and pretty in a game (and an elf if that is possible) because I am living a fantasy. I always turn off chat so I don't know about any questionable comments. I'm on console now though and I think it has to cause some problems for the guys who want to play gals because it is hard to believe that some of their gamer tags can be attached to a female character without having some disconnect. I was following a big Nord with a horned helmet the other night who's gamer tag was BigBalz4U. Just imagine if he was a cute wood elf. I mean really, the mind boggles.

pumpkingirl · June 2015

I am female and I play as female characters.
Just keep in mind that women make up just little less than half of gaming consumers, so it's unfair to assume women are like diamonds on this game or something.

jkemmery · June 2015

pumpkingirl wrote: »

I am female and I play as female characters.
Just keep in mind that women make up just little less than half of gaming consumers, so it's unfair to assume women are like diamonds on this game or something.

In my experience it seems to be like maybe 10% are actually women. Where did you find that statistic? I'm sure my experience could be completely skewed.

Banky71 · June 2015

pumpkingirl wrote: »

I am female and I play as female characters.
Just keep in mind that women make up just little less than half of gaming consumers, so it's unfair to assume women are like diamonds on this game or something.

I read an article recently that women gamers are at 52%. That seems accurate looking at my xbox friends list.

DenMoria · June 2015

Gay guy who always plays female characters.

I can play a female, but gay guy characters are just to swishy for me.

Psychobunni · June 2015

jkemmery wrote: »

pumpkingirl wrote: »

I am female and I play as female characters.
Just keep in mind that women make up just little less than half of gaming consumers, so it's unfair to assume women are like diamonds on this game or something.

In my experience it seems to be like maybe 10% are actually women. Where did you find that statistic? I'm sure my experience could be completely skewed.

washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2014/08/22/adult-women-gamers-outnumber-teenage-boys/

Edit: they are counting more than mmo's though

jkemmery · June 2015

Psychobunni wrote: »

jkemmery wrote: »

pumpkingirl wrote: »

I am female and I play as female characters.
Just keep in mind that women make up just little less than half of gaming consumers, so it's unfair to assume women are like diamonds on this game or something.

In my experience it seems to be like maybe 10% are actually women. Where did you find that statistic? I'm sure my experience could be completely skewed.

washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2014/08/22/adult-women-gamers-outnumber-teenage-boys/

Edit: they are counting more than mmo's though

Thank you. Although this is games in general and not necessarily ESO ... it also includes mobile devices and based on my Facebook feed it seems things like "Candy Crush Saga" are played primarily by women. I wonder what the ratio is in ESO.

Vikova · June 2015

I have both male and female characters. I assume nothing about the person behind another character because it is simply silly to do so.

Kazzy56 · June 2015

PS4 EU

Proud female who has been gaming for 25+ years...yes of course we exist but I'm not sure why it matters??

3 female characters
1 male...hes my mule

Anyone remember the days when you wandered into a chat room to be instantly bombarded with, 'ASL...??' I don't do chat rooms now, but maybe they still do it.
Can't tell you what my response used to be....but needless to say it was rather, ummmm profane.

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Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

HobnailedBoots · June 2015

Vigarr wrote: »

It's pretty easy to tell by the characters appearance and gamertag name (on console) if the girl character is played by a girl. If it's an overly gaudy girl with max boobs, min slim and not wearing pants then you know that's a boy playing her.

Guilty.

Whendim_ESO · June 2015

Old lady gamer here. I have both male and female characters. From my first MMORPG I've been in male/female allegiances/guilds so the gender thing has never affected me. Well, that's not true. I met my husband in my first MMORPG - we just had our 14th anniversary!

Banky71 · June 2015

Whendim_ESO wrote: »

Old lady gamer here. I have both male and female characters. From my first MMORPG I've been in male/female allegiances/guilds so the gender thing has never affected me. Well, that's not true. I met my husband in my first MMORPG - we just had our 14th anniversary!

Congrats and I wish you many more years!

Vikova · June 2015

Another note, that I just thought of, is that there is a benefit to playing a female character. I have noticed a significant increase in others helping me with content or giving me better prices in trading when I am on a female character in games. So thank you, white knights -- I appreciate someone tagging along to help out with world bosses wherever I go.

And considering I typically ignore all chats unless I want something, I don't have to deal with the downside of harassment.

newtinmpls · June 2015

Merlin13KAGL wrote: »

A gaming spouse is an awesome spouse. (Same for GF/BF). If you can't share what you love, what's the point, right?

YES absolutely. BFF!

k2blader · June 2015

Darn, late to this thread. Will be fun to scroll through. :-)

I don't have any guy characters; I think it's weird if a girl chooses to make a guy character, but it's more weird to me when guys make girl characters.

edit: lotta typos today, lol

Pchela · June 2015

I am female IRL but I play mostly male characters.

DenMoria · June 2015

k2blader wrote: »

Darn, late to this thread. Will be fun to scroll through. :-)

I don't have any guy characters; I think it's weird if a girl chooses to make a guy character, but it's more weird to me when guys make girl characters.

edit: lotta typos today, lol

Why? In TESO, I'm creating a female character (recreating actually since I'm a little more familiar now) and I want her to be a sorcerer. I've always played mages as females in all the ES games. It's just a little thing for me.

I love playing male melee characters as well as female melee characters, but with mages/sorcerers, for some reason I almost always play female.

And, of course they have to be drop-dead. I have never in all my years created any male of female character that wasn't easy on the eyes.