Has anyone made any genuine friends in this game

Jaimeh · August 2018

Lysette wrote: »

Cadbury wrote: »

Nope, just acquaintances.

None of my friends are gamers.

I wonder how you can possible live with them - they do not understand your world - assuming you are a gamer - and have no appreciation whatsoever for your spare time activity therefore. How imaginative can they be, if they do not see any benefit in playing a video game?- Aren't they extremely boring to you - so that you think, well, I would rather be not here now with them?- To me for example, I cannot stand these empty talks, which are so time consuming without any real content, which "normal" people are talking about. All they have is their family, their kids - who is interested into the kids of others?- but they don't grasp that. How can you put up with this kind of friends at all?- Normal people are incredibly boring.

None of my IRL friends are into games either, and when I talk about ESO, a lot of things go over their heads. I don't mind, because I understand it's an unknown world to them, and at least they make the effort of listening to me yapping about PvP and Maelstrom Arena, while probably a dozen question marks pop in their head

But I wanted to comment on what was written above, because if you are not interested in your friends' children, how do you expect them to be interested in your video-game? It goes both ways, otherwise it's not really a friendship.

To get back on topic, I have made friendly aquaintances at most, during my time in ESO, but not actual friends. This probably more to do with my own social interaction behaviour, and the fact that I solo a lot, rather than a reflection of the community's openess. I actually think the ESO community is very friendly as a whole.

Coatmagic · August 2018

Being older and married and more relaxed about gaming than most of the people I run across has left me out in the cold (unless someone needs something lol my friends list of full of people who've 'needed' things).

Made a friend 'questing buddy' back at start, but don't know what's become of her (I do hope she is off playing Witcher or whatever and not well, she was older and had health issues...).

Not met anyone in RL from ESO, have become FB buddies with some, not especially chatty ones, just screen shares and photos from vacations and the like.

Due to the title, there are a lot of non-MMO peeps in the ESO world and I think they are less inclined to be interested in making friends?

Also, EU server is a damn 'chilly' place.

emilyhyoyeon · August 2018

don't want to go into detail but yes

SafiyerAmitora · August 2018

Yup, definitely. I met my husband here on ESO in April 2016. Been married since Sept. 30th, 2016. Besides him, I've got several buddies who I met on ESO friended on social media.

Lysette · August 2018

Jaimeh wrote: »

Lysette wrote: »

Cadbury wrote: »

Nope, just acquaintances.

None of my friends are gamers.

I wonder how you can possible live with them - they do not understand your world - assuming you are a gamer - and have no appreciation whatsoever for your spare time activity therefore. How imaginative can they be, if they do not see any benefit in playing a video game?- Aren't they extremely boring to you - so that you think, well, I would rather be not here now with them?- To me for example, I cannot stand these empty talks, which are so time consuming without any real content, which "normal" people are talking about. All they have is their family, their kids - who is interested into the kids of others?- but they don't grasp that. How can you put up with this kind of friends at all?- Normal people are incredibly boring.

None of my IRL friends are into games either, and when I talk about ESO, a lot of things go over their heads. I don't mind, because I understand it's an unknown world to them, and at least they make the effort of listening to me yapping about PvP and Maelstrom Arena, while probably a dozen question marks pop in their head But I wanted to comment on what was written above, because if you are not interested in your friends' children, how do you expect them to be interested in your video-game? It goes both ways, otherwise it's not really a friendship.

To get back on topic, I have made friendly aquaintances at most, during my time in ESO, but not actual friends. This probably more to do with my own social interaction behaviour, and the fact that I solo a lot, rather than a reflection of the community's openess. I actually think the ESO community is very friendly as a whole.

Why would I have to care for their children. It was their decision to have them and I would just have a bunch of arguments about what a stupid idea that is to set children into a world which is overcrowded in the first place already. A reasonable debate with parents about these issues is not possible - they are too much into selfishly producing even more children.

I don't care about them nor their children - they are just not my kind of people.

Bam_Bam · August 2018

Absolutely! Haven't met any of them in real life yet although a few guildies from Trials and Errors met up in London recently. I'd have joined them but had to work that weekend. We're hoping to do another later in the year.

BlueViolet · August 2018

Coatmagic wrote: »

Being older and married and more relaxed about gaming than most of the people I run across has left me out in the cold (unless someone needs something lol my friends list of full of people who've 'needed' things).

Made a friend 'questing buddy' back at start, but don't know what's become of her (I do hope she is off playing Witcher or whatever and not well, she was older and had health issues...).

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I feel the same about being left out in the cold, so to speak. I find it a little difficult to socialise until I get to know someone, or feel comfortable, and it takes me a while to come out of my shell, and by that time most people just don't bother.
I had a couple of friends playing for the first two or three years of the game, but they no longer play anymore and I've never found any other questing buddies. I don't ask because I am a slow quester and like to stop and read or look at everything and always feel like I'm holding people up.
I left the NA server and moved over to EU and I like it much better ,though I haven't really made any friends and do most things on my own. It's calm and quiet over there though and I like it.

On a nicer note, my son met his girlfriend in ESO and she has just returned to the States after spending 4 months visiting with us here in Aussieland.

d3adkid · August 2018

Why do you need friends when you can be a PetSorc.

theyancey · August 2018

I've lost a couple

NordSwordnBoard · August 2018

Yes. Pax East is nearby, I'm bummed out I missed the meet up last year.

paulsimonps · August 2018

Oreyn_Bearclaw wrote: »

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I have made several friends back from when the game first launched that I still talk too all the time, proper friends I would say. As well I meet my now wife on the game 2 years ago, now that is a friend for life I tell you

wenchmore420b14_ESO · August 2018

Yes, definitely!
I have a few that havent played in over 2 years who I still keep in touch with on FB on by phone.
I know of several who met their spouses in ESO. I have a few friends that I talk to every week or so out of game.

Actually, I consider every member of our guild to be "real friends"!..

Shout Out & Huzzah to all my friends and FaAmily in "Conclave of Shadows".

Yes, real friends are out there in Tamriel if we look and want them..

My 2 drakes!!
Huzzah!!!