Has anyone made any genuine friends in this game

Protossyder · July 2018

Oh yes, good friends

Lysette · July 2018

Uviryth wrote: »

Nope, but I´m 38. You dont make new friends at this age, mostly aquaintances.

In real life if someone is a friend you would just experience, if you were really in an emergency situation and your "friend" would have nothing to gain from helping you, but it would just cost him - and that over a longer amount of time. If he is then still your friend, then you have been having a friend - but before that time, pretty much everyone is just an "acquaintance".

blacksghost · July 2018

Nope, I can’t even find anyone to play with let alone get to know. The only friend here I had was someone I previously met through a different game and they no longer really play.

Lysette · July 2018

blacksghost wrote: »

Nope, I can’t even find anyone to play with let alone get to know. The only friend here I had was someone I previously met through a different game and they no longer really play.

To me this is the typical case - all people I'm currently playing with in ESO I have been knowing from other games for a longer amount of time. ESO just does not has the tools nor the environment to socialize, and eventually as well not the players . which would like this kind of activity. You cannot really be friends to people, you hardly know at all.

JellySunset · July 2018

A few people who I chat with occasionally through mail and whispers but nothing where we talk outside of the game, I do a lot on my own in game (:

Ragnarock41 · July 2018

I've actually had a few guild meetings. Other than that I have sooo many friends that my friends list can't handle it anymore.

starkerealm · July 2018

A few. Ironically, probably more from the testing event, than from four years in game. But, I have made a few in game. I've also had a couple friendships in game spiral out. So, it's all in context, I guess.

Cadbury · July 2018

Nope, just acquaintances.

None of my friends are gamers.

Beardimus · July 2018

Yeah i have. Some more just in game convos / context. But both here and on game met some great people to share the hobby with.

Then in game had a few that ive met that have become proper mates talking about all sorts.

I'm suprised as i entered the game no intention of interaction with non mates.

DanteYoda · July 2018

No i chat to my guild but as an Oceanic player i'm on at the US dead times so its hard to meet and do anything with them.

blacksghost wrote: »

Nope, I can’t even find anyone to play with let alone get to know. The only friend here I had was someone I previously met through a different game and they no longer really play.

Same here.. This game doesn't really promote friendliness either..

Lysette · July 2018

Cadbury wrote: »

Nope, just acquaintances.

None of my friends are gamers.

I wonder how you can possible live with them - they do not understand your world - assuming you are a gamer - and have no appreciation whatsoever for your spare time activity therefore. How imaginative can they be, if they do not see any benefit in playing a video game?- Aren't they extremely boring to you - so that you think, well, I would rather be not here now with them?- To me for example, I cannot stand these empty talks, which are so time consuming without any real content, which "normal" people are talking about. All they have is their family, their kids - who is interested into the kids of others?- but they don't grasp that. How can you put up with this kind of friends at all?- Normal people are incredibly boring.

Olen_Mikko · July 2018

I know a couple who met each other in my guild and are now in a relationship.

Tinder of Tamriel.

niawrathb16_ESO · July 2018

I have made some fantastic friends through eso, its a shame we live so far apart but we have a guild meet up once a year in different peoples's home towns I can't wait to see them again and meet some that havent made it to one before

LifenLemons · July 2018

I have one best friend, we've known each other for over 10 years. We met on FB lol. We talk every day via mobile and she introduced me to ESO. Now I'm on eso more than she is lolol. We play eso every sunday. We're in different time zones. Me in SAST, and her in Oz. Even though I have encountered awesome people on ESO, I wouldn't call us friends just yet

Cadbury · July 2018

Lysette wrote: »

Cadbury wrote: »

Nope, just acquaintances.

None of my friends are gamers.

I wonder how you can possible live with them - they do not understand your world - assuming you are a gamer - and have no appreciation whatsoever for your spare time activity therefore. How imaginative can they be, if they do not see any benefit in playing a video game?- Aren't they extremely boring to you - so that you think, well, I would rather be not here now with them?- To me for example, I cannot stand these empty talks, which are so time consuming without any real content, which "normal" people are talking about. All they have is their family, their kids - who is interested into the kids of others?- but they don't grasp that. How can you put up with this kind of friends at all?- Normal people are incredibly boring.

I'll answer this, but first allow me to reveal a little insight into my psyche (I'm loathe to reveal anything personal about myself, but I feel this will help you understand my thought process).

Growing up, I learned that people expect certain attitudes and personality traits from their peers. Let's call it Normalcy. When one deviates from Normalcy, they are ridiculed and ostracized. So sometimes, in order to "fit in" you wear a "mask" to hide your perceived flaws from others. My gaming hobbies were considered "weird", so I simply covered them up. When I make friends, I don't talk about games in front of them. I let them believe I'm "Normal" just like them...

Does it bother me?...sometimes. But I'm used to it. I don't begrudge them, though. It's nice to just talk to someone once in awhile. So I just accept it and move on.

This is partly why I find masks so fascinating. Every character I've made in an MMO wears one.

LifenLemons · July 2018

My family knows Im weird. I'm a 30 something, unmarried gamer with a lot of dreams (some already achieved, some in progress and some on my bucket list) and I honestly don't care what others think of my lifestyle. Never have, never will. This is who I am. And if you don't like it, or pull you nose up at the idea of this flavor of abnormalcy, you can kiss me where I fart. You shouldn't hide who you are to please other people. Those who love you and care for you will not judge. The rest? You don't need them. Appendixes, all of them.
You be you!

Xerikten · July 2018

none in this game but i brought two with me from an other game. i made several in three other mmos i played as i was in raiding guilds. this game is far too solo friendly to actually need to even talk to someone.

Violynne · July 2018

Once a week, I run throughout Tamriel looking for unsuspecting people, usually new players to the game.

I'll reach out and whisper them, something benign to get a response, so I can mail a gift to them (I'm not sure why we cannot mail people directly and please don't suggest their usernames, because I'm not going to remember XXlliiEValIsM3iillXX).

Within a few minutes, I get notification [person] has added me as a friend on XBox Live. Only about a third return a "thanks" in the game (not that I expect any reply, honestly - I wish I could do this anonymously).

I've more people following/added me as a friend than I do people I've added as a friend.

Perhaps it's my age, but I feel a friend is someone I engage with, at least often enough to know what's going on about them, not some carved marking in a growing list of people never to be heard from again.

That's the one thing I despise about social media: I should have a say who gets to add me as a friend to their lists.

Instead, I feel like I'm being trivialized for the sake of numbers.

Aurayna · July 2018

No ! When I am ingame I usually focus on the task at hand .. farming, killing plundering ..etc..

I rarely look at chat and occasionally a notice in the top right hand corner informs me I have declined something or other
which I didn't pick up on.

So on that basis I am Betsy No-Mates !

Aurayna · July 2018

Lysette wrote: »

Cadbury wrote: »

Nope, just acquaintances.

None of my friends are gamers.

I wonder how you can possible live with them - they do not understand your world - assuming you are a gamer - and have no appreciation whatsoever for your spare time activity therefore. How imaginative can they be, if they do not see any benefit in playing a video game?- Aren't they extremely boring to you - so that you think, well, I would rather be not here now with them?- To me for example, I cannot stand these empty talks, which are so time consuming without any real content, which "normal" people are talking about. All they have is their family, their kids - who is interested into the kids of others?- but they don't grasp that. How can you put up with this kind of friends at all?- Normal people are incredibly boring.

Just had to respond to this .. None of my friends game, knit have a passion for music, politics and cooking BUT that's OK with me

I don't EVER hide my hobbies from them ... why on earth would I !

We are all unique in some way and they have (or not) different hobbies they like to pursue.

I accept them for whom they are and they me, although I suspect they think I am a bit eccentric which amuses me but in no way would influence who I am !

I don't think others are boring because they don't share what I like doing . What would be boring is if we were all the same. Being diverse is interesting to explore

Defilted · July 2018

geekboy09 wrote: »

I’m am just trying to see what Tyler of social interaction in this game

Before I can answer the question I need the term "genuine friends" defined.

I know what a friend is in my life and what that term means to me, but I am sure there are differing opinions on the term.

DenniMyuu · July 2018

I've met a few people in the game that stopped playing 2+ years ago and I am still in contact with. And I also met someone who's more than just a friend. (:

EvilAutoTech · July 2018

ArchMikem wrote: »

I haven't made a real friend since 2007.

I haven't made a "real" friend since 1975.

AlnilamE · July 2018

Yes.

The_Protagonist · July 2018

I have made some very decent friends on a casual guild, met some extremely toxic people in trial guilds and saw some very strange people in PvP guilds.

I consider all of them to be very good gaming friends, but very few of them I consider very good friends.

SteveCampsOut · July 2018

Violynne wrote: »

That's the one thing I despise about social media: I should have a say who gets to add me as a friend to their lists.

Instead, I feel like I'm being trivialized for the sake of numbers.

I don't know what social media you're using but Facebook and Twitter both give you complete control over who can add you as a friend. Just sayin....

geekboy09 · July 2018

Olen_Mikko wrote: »

I know a couple who met each other in my guild and are now in a relationship.

Tinder of Tamriel.

Cool, I wonder if I can treat this game as tinder lol

vometia · July 2018

xxthir13enxx wrote: »

There are craaaazy people out there........

I would say there's not really. I've met a lot of people I first knew online in the past 30+ years and most are pretty much exactly as expected. And that includes the trying-too-hard ones, they never show up.

But the majority are just regular people. I've made a lot of good friends over the years (including my gf, from an email I almost ignored 20 years ago) from all over the place.

Uviryth wrote: »

Nope, but I´m 38. You dont make new friends at this age, mostly aquaintances.

Heh. I'm reminded of the guy who said he'd have to give up gaming as he was about to have his 20th.

I'm 50 and figure there's always time to meet new friends.

Turelus · July 2018

I've made a number of friends in the game, met one of them in real life so far. I also met my girlfriend through the game.

Overall I've got a lot of good friends I have found through MMO gaming over the years and met a number of them through events or holidays and staying with them.

Runschei · July 2018

Oh yes, several!

I've met several I keep in touch with outside of ESO and some I'll go visit next year ^^