When should I tell them I'm a guy?

MaxwellC · September 2016

Well if they don't realize that on the internet GIRL = Guy In Real Life; then it's best to break it to them immediately..lol.

Maotti · September 2016

Haha, reminds me of the time i was on with my female Nord. (R-I.P). And we did the Scorpiongrind in Upper Craglorn, and some dudes demanded to see my character naked and dance because she was so pretty. And i did tell them that i was a gay man, but that did not matter they said.

Sunver · September 2016

Most of the time, when I join a group, I introduce myself. Having a masculine name(Konrad) is enough to tell people I just have a female character but I'm not a woman IRL.

I never role-play and rarely make fun of people pretending to be female, but at the end I'm always telling like it is.

I think that profiting from someone's else presumption that you are female(when a lot of people do that) hurts the reputation of our honorable ladies in the community and make their gaming experience worse, because they are, in most cases, treated as they were scammers pretending. Don't do that.

And yes, I think that ladies deserve special treatment(for the love of God please don't take it as sexist comment - I don't discriminate women negatively). We are equally valuable as human beings, but we are not the same. That's why I kiss ladies' hands as a greeting and always let them pass first through the door

(two little examples, there are more of course).

Seratopia · September 2016

Funny, I get the opposite. My name in game is Seratopia (character name and psn), I use a girl character but males refer me to as a guy. I don't use mic chat, only text so that could be it or as my boyfriend says I play like a dude so one of the two could be the reasons.

But seriously, my name isn't enough to tell? What guy wants to be named that? Lol. It's all good though, they apologize afterwards and we carry on like normal.

Haquor · September 2016

Let them know just as they come.

xilfxlegion · September 2016

scorpiodog wrote: »

My main is female and I'm male. 99.99% of the time it's irrelevant. We do our dungeons, pvp, or other group content and go on out way.Maybe we group again maybe not.
It would seem a bit strange if every time I join a group I announce "oh hi everyone, I'm a guy. Just thought you should know that."

It would be weird.

But yesterday was the 5th time in 6 months I've had to deal with someone who somehow developed a crush on my toon and somehow for some reason thinks they are interested in knowing more about my real life, who they assume is a girl.

I see the humor in it but also feel sorry for the guys. Here they are at home probably [CENSOR] to a cartoon character but if I tell them I'm a bald 46 year old 240 pound man at that point in time it turns into a scene from the crying game. Suddenly the tables are turned and they think I've been grooming them for a gay harm or something.

Dudes, I'm just grinding content and you wanted to group ...

Maybe I should tell them when they see me online and are all eager to invite me to their activity every day, but at that point I'm just thinking they're being cool.

By the time they gather the courage to give a signal like invite me to join their twitch or Facebook it's already too late. God only knows what they are thinking at that point.

The whole thing is amazing to me. Obviously people don't play lizards because they are looking for partners irl who are attracted to lizards or because that's how they look in real life. No one has to say "oh by the way I'm not a kitty cat in real life". I just assume people are living out a fantasy that has no connection to real life. I assume no one is really an assassin ...

What do you think? When should men with female toons tell people they arent really female, or should they even have to?

havent you heard ? it's 2016. simply tell them you identify as a girl. problem solved.

ConeOfSilence · September 2016

Just roll with it :P

Pinja · September 2016

If your on Xbox you can have them send you point cards then give them BK Pornhub noods of a specific actor. Crop the the image a bit to have it only revel certain portions, that way you don't run out of material all to soon. Then you can can have them check out my all new Duel Wand suggestion, before you tell them it was all a hard lesson in cat fishing & online sexual harassment. Before you block them forever.

Conquistador · September 2016

I have never had an issue playing a female character and having people attach a gender to my real being. I call bs on this one.

JD2013 · September 2016

When you get enough gold!

Nah, seriously though I mean why on earth would anyone be attracted to someone's toon, be they male or female? I find that pretty sad, tbh.

Lokey0024 · September 2016

10/10 content. Dude you have to record this. The moment it happens you have to use your best James Earl Jones voice to say "whats up gents" just akward silence will follow. Golden

Lightninvash · September 2016

just be like dude I'm a guy... every now and then you will be screwed and find someone who is into that then you just gotta pick up and dip out haha

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