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Girls and boys in the game

  • waterfairy
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    All of thi
    MornaBaine wrote: »
    I actually think a pretty fascinating psychological genders study could be done about the choices players make regarding the gender of their characters.

    I don't think I would be all that fascinating for such a study. I'm a masculine, heterosexual man who's completely secure in my sexuality and I play both genders simply for the spice of variety. I relate slightly more to the male characters because I put more of myself into them and know what it's like to be a man but that doesn't mean I can't get into my females beyond pixelated boobs and butt (weird that people do for that reason but I don't judge). If you ask me they should study the people who play the opposite gender because they feel weird staring at their own gender character as if they're naked and real...that's just bizarre.
  • newtinmpls
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    Vigarr wrote: »
    I don't think I would be all that fascinating for such a study.

    The fascinating part to me would be to get a grasp on what the various people consider "normal".

    Tenesi Faryon of Telvanni - Dunmer Sorceress who deliberately sought sacrifice into Cold Harbor to rescue her beloved.
    Hisa Ni Caemaire - Altmer Sorceress, member of the Order Draconis and Adept of the House of Dibella.
    Broken Branch Toothmaul - goblin (for my goblin characters, I use either orsimer or bosmer templates) Templar, member of the Order Draconis and persistently unskilled pickpocket
    Mol gro Durga - Orsimer Socerer/Battlemage who died the first time when the Nibenay Valley chapterhouse of the Order Draconis was destroyed, then went back to Cold Harbor to rescue his second/partner who was still captive. He overestimated his resistance to the hopelessness of Oblivion, about to give up, and looked up to see the golden glow of atherius surrounding a beautiful young woman who extended her hand to him and said "I can help you". He carried Fianna Kingsley out of Cold Harbor on his shoulder. He carried Alvard Stower under one arm. He also irritated the Prophet who had intended the portal for only Mol and Lyris.
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    Order Draconis - well c'mon there has to be some explanation for all those dragon tattoos.
    House of Dibella - If you have ever seen or read "Memoirs of a Geisha" that's just the beginning...
    Nibenay Valley Chapterhouse - Where now stands only desolate ground and a dolmen there once was a thriving community supporting one of the major chapterhouses of the Order Draconis
  • Oryctolagus
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    newtinmpls wrote: »
    Vigarr wrote: »
    I don't think I would be all that fascinating for such a study.

    The fascinating part to me would be to get a grasp on what the various people consider "normal".

    Aside from very rare, very deviant instances of psychological issues, I think you're pretty safe in assuming that whatever you're doing, someone else is also doing. Extrapolate that to your friends/buddies and you'll see that the spectrum for "normal" is pretty darn wide.

    It's only narrow-minded and immature folks who assume that what they think is weird is truly weird (not you specifically, just speaking generally). Nothing new under the sun.

    Most of us are cursed with the idea that we are somehow different, strange, weird. Then you find someone to chat with about it, casually or otherwise, and figure out you're perfectly normal. Pretty soon you get more accepting of yourself and insecurity kind of floats away (or at least lessens).

    'Course, far as I know there's no way to just skip all the intermediate learning/realizing/epiphany stuff.

    Eeeeeyeah. Too serious for this thread, nevermind. Insert tush joke.

  • rb2001
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    Vigarr wrote: »
    All of thi
    MornaBaine wrote: »
    I actually think a pretty fascinating psychological genders study could be done about the choices players make regarding the gender of their characters.

    I don't think I would be all that fascinating for such a study. I'm a masculine, heterosexual man who's completely secure in my sexuality and I play both genders simply for the spice of variety. I relate slightly more to the male characters because I put more of myself into them and know what it's like to be a man but that doesn't mean I can't get into my females beyond pixelated boobs and butt (weird that people do for that reason but I don't judge). If you ask me they should study the people who play the opposite gender because they feel weird staring at their own gender character as if they're naked and real...that's just bizarre.

    I like when other people get it. Cheers.

    I write characters, and any good writer has to "get behind" or into the shoes of the characters they are writing--feel what they feel, think how they think, to a degree.

    We are all human, and we all possess this seemingly magical ability to intuit what someone other than our selves might be thinking and feeling.

    The people who are so scared to play x character for how they will look to others, or whatever weirdo reasons, or those that assume it's just a package of graphics and not a character you can get into.. those are the ones who haven't learned yet.
  • waterfairy
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    newtinmpls wrote: »
    The fascinating part to me would be to get a grasp on what the various people consider "normal".

    "Normal" is relative, what's normal to me might be odd to you and vice versa.

    @rb2001 I see it along the same lines...I create characters then act them out accordingly. I don't live them nor bring them into the real world but I try to make them seem real in the world they live in....that's about the extent of my RPing in games.
  • rb2001
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    Vigarr wrote: »
    newtinmpls wrote: »
    The fascinating part to me would be to get a grasp on what the various people consider "normal".

    "Normal" is relative, what's normal to me might be odd to you and vice versa.

    @rb2001 I see it along the same lines...I create characters then act them out accordingly. I don't live them nor bring them into the real world but I try to make them seem real in the world they live in....that's about the extent of my RPing in games.

    Yep.
  • Bromburak
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    Moonscythe wrote: »

    I don't do shooters at all.

    Jager bombs are awesome. :p

  • Fhaerron
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    What I actually find weird is the fact that guys fall in love with female chars ... pixels on a screen ...

    I much more prefer a real body then some pixel on a screen.
  • Flamingoseeker
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    I'm a female with one of each character.
  • MornaBaine
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    MornaBaine wrote: »
    I actually think a pretty fascinating psychological genders study could be done about the choices players make regarding the gender of their characters.

    Theres no need for a psychological study. Its kind of evident why male players enjoy playing female characters. One of the most common reasons will be something nice to look at while you play. Of course their will be outliers that do it because theyre creepers, others will do it because others give them things. But theres nothing particularly mind blowing about it.

    Ive got two male characters and a female character. For me the female character was just to do something different. Its quickly becoming one of my favorite characters but thats because its a class that in past MMOs Ive typically taken up.

    While you are undoubtedly right regarding the majority of players I happen to know you are wrong for quite a few of them. There's no small percentage of players who use opposite gender characters to explore any number of facets of gender curiosity. It can be a "safe" way to experience what it might be like to be a gender other than your own for those who feel they may have gender identity issues or a way to gain insight into how the opposite gender is treated and perceived from a first hand experience. Is that "weird" or "creepy?" Not really. Humans are weird. Weird is the norm. We just like to pretend it's not.
    Edited by MornaBaine on July 3, 2015 1:48PM
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  • Reeko
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    I asked a guy in WoW years ago why he played a female toon. I will never forget his answer.

    "Well if im going to mainly be looking at the backside of somone for hours on end it may as well be a female backside right?"

    :D
  • FilthyMudcrabs
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    I'm a female player with a female argonian. Crazy, I know.
    Saw a mudcrab the other day. Dreadful creatures.
  • PBpsy
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    I'm a female player with a female argonian. Crazy, I know.

    Are you sure ? Maybe you are a female Argonian playing a female. :*
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  • ericburns
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    My favorite guy that plays as a girl was in the quest prisoner of jathsogur with me (still haven't been able to complete it. Check out my fix option I have on my post). We were just talking and decided to trade. I didn't know he was playing as a girl until this point because he had the DEEPEST voice I've heard on a mic. Hahahahahahahaha was so funny
  • xeneblaze
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    Welcome to the modern era of video gaming where women join in and play too! #sarcasm
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  • Tolmos
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    xeneblaze wrote: »
    Welcome to the modern era of video gaming where women join in and play too! #sarcasm

    I was in college when WoW first came out, and I remember that my university had a ton of WoW players... almost all women. In fact, it got to the point that I became desperate to find guys who played besides me and would react to finding a guy gamer at my university much the way men stereotypically react to girl gamers.

    To this day, I still know more women than men who game.
  • Banky71
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    @Tolmos I as well know way more lady gamers than gentlemen gamers.
    If you chase two rabbits, you will lose them both.

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  • newtinmpls
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    MornaBaine wrote: »
    Humans are weird. Weird is the norm. We just like to pretend it's not.

    I work in psych and I'll totally back you up on that.

    Conventional wisdom is that there is a qualitative difference between someone "mentally Ill" and a "regular person".

    Nope.

    Dream on.
    Tenesi Faryon of Telvanni - Dunmer Sorceress who deliberately sought sacrifice into Cold Harbor to rescue her beloved.
    Hisa Ni Caemaire - Altmer Sorceress, member of the Order Draconis and Adept of the House of Dibella.
    Broken Branch Toothmaul - goblin (for my goblin characters, I use either orsimer or bosmer templates) Templar, member of the Order Draconis and persistently unskilled pickpocket
    Mol gro Durga - Orsimer Socerer/Battlemage who died the first time when the Nibenay Valley chapterhouse of the Order Draconis was destroyed, then went back to Cold Harbor to rescue his second/partner who was still captive. He overestimated his resistance to the hopelessness of Oblivion, about to give up, and looked up to see the golden glow of atherius surrounding a beautiful young woman who extended her hand to him and said "I can help you". He carried Fianna Kingsley out of Cold Harbor on his shoulder. He carried Alvard Stower under one arm. He also irritated the Prophet who had intended the portal for only Mol and Lyris.
    ***
    Order Draconis - well c'mon there has to be some explanation for all those dragon tattoos.
    House of Dibella - If you have ever seen or read "Memoirs of a Geisha" that's just the beginning...
    Nibenay Valley Chapterhouse - Where now stands only desolate ground and a dolmen there once was a thriving community supporting one of the major chapterhouses of the Order Draconis
  • Tolmos
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    newtinmpls wrote: »
    MornaBaine wrote: »
    Humans are weird. Weird is the norm. We just like to pretend it's not.

    I work in psych and I'll totally back you up on that.

    Conventional wisdom is that there is a qualitative difference between someone "mentally Ill" and a "regular person".

    Nope.

    Dream on.

    Not to derail the discussion, but I would be interested to hear your take on that, because I have had the misfortune of knowing several people who went through the slow decline into mental illness. The change in their personalities, often to the detriment of themselves and the people around them, definitely felt like a 'qualitative difference between someone "mentally Ill" and a "regular person"' to me.

    For instance, my neighbor who suddenly lost himself to mental illness a year ago. He was a really friendly guy who just talked a lot, but had a job and a condo and while overly friendly wasn't really someone you'd find yourself avoiding. Then one day he just changed... lost his car and cell phone (literally lost them... no one knows where he put them to this day), did things like pulling the building fire alarm at 8am on a Saturday morning because he locked his keys in his condo, and then proceeded the following weeks to leave dishwasher capsules on everyone's doorstep each day as some form of apology. During all this he lost his job and alienated himself from most of his friends, including his best friend whom he started accusing of being possessed by a ghost of some building they frequented as children.

    That seems like a pretty qualitative difference, to me. :-\
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    Tolmos wrote: »
    I would be interested to hear your take on that, because I have had the misfortune of knowing several people who went through the slow decline into mental illness.

    I appreciate that you take the time to acknowledge that it is a journey (of sorts) from an ability to function in local consensus reality, to a place of ... well for lack of a better term I'll just say that the person is not able to function safely.

    It is easy after the fact to look at the person who has started on the ... well the "sane" end of the continuum (and that includes the ability to fake it "well enough") and then look at the non-functional, sometimes odd, occasionally dangerous (though not necessarily by any intention of theirs) and say well they were at A, and now they are at Z and there is a drastic qualitative difference.

    But the rest of the alphabet was there. It was a journey, not a wayshrine (see, I can mix ESO metaphors in here).

    It is similar (and possibly related to) the way that relatives who only see "aunt" or "grandpa" at holidays say that "everything seemed fine" until one day someone is making battery soup on a cranked up gas stove in their underwear (to combine some actual examples). Most people have developed (or maintained) enough social habits; and most of our society interacts on such a shallow level that the changes aren't visible - unless you are looking - and you know how to see - and you are willing to see (to quote Aslan the trouble with trying to make yourself stupider is that you very often succeed).

    My point is ... well what is my point?

    I guess in part that we are not that different; and the "qualitative difference" ends up being "can you function safely - and can anybody see it".

    I think there are a ton of people who with the right care, social support, whatever (maybe luck goes in there too) could be ... brought back, diverted, rescued - whatever you want to call it. And some of it doesn't matter. When I have a patient that "hears voices" and they give him good advice and remind him to brush his teeth - how is that bad? Heck most people have a superego with a slightly less shrill voice that tells them the same sort of things.

    So going back to boys and girls and gaming ... there has been some recent use of Avatar therapy where folks who have troubles with the voices they hear relate to them with avatars that are allegedly similar in some respects to gaming/computer avatars - and in some cases it really helps.

    So maybe on a certain level being able to "be someone else" (however different from or similar to "you") is a form of therapy. Isn't there some literature that correlates psychopaths with not having been able (or been allowed, or learned how) to play. And isn't a lot of play different versions of "let's pretend".

    So Play ON - cause it's probably good for you.

    YMMV ... just have fun!
    Tenesi Faryon of Telvanni - Dunmer Sorceress who deliberately sought sacrifice into Cold Harbor to rescue her beloved.
    Hisa Ni Caemaire - Altmer Sorceress, member of the Order Draconis and Adept of the House of Dibella.
    Broken Branch Toothmaul - goblin (for my goblin characters, I use either orsimer or bosmer templates) Templar, member of the Order Draconis and persistently unskilled pickpocket
    Mol gro Durga - Orsimer Socerer/Battlemage who died the first time when the Nibenay Valley chapterhouse of the Order Draconis was destroyed, then went back to Cold Harbor to rescue his second/partner who was still captive. He overestimated his resistance to the hopelessness of Oblivion, about to give up, and looked up to see the golden glow of atherius surrounding a beautiful young woman who extended her hand to him and said "I can help you". He carried Fianna Kingsley out of Cold Harbor on his shoulder. He carried Alvard Stower under one arm. He also irritated the Prophet who had intended the portal for only Mol and Lyris.
    ***
    Order Draconis - well c'mon there has to be some explanation for all those dragon tattoos.
    House of Dibella - If you have ever seen or read "Memoirs of a Geisha" that's just the beginning...
    Nibenay Valley Chapterhouse - Where now stands only desolate ground and a dolmen there once was a thriving community supporting one of the major chapterhouses of the Order Draconis
  • Moonscythe
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    I did not say anything about men because I was addressing the criticism of women being only casual players of games like Candy Crush as if that was all they were really interested in. It applies equally to anyone, man or woman, who must work outside and work at home afterwards. Not everyone has the time or energy to devote to a game which requires some effort in both to play successfully.

    As for you specifically, I congratulate you and, though you may not believe me, I understand completely. I have a young man who does work for me as I can afford it. I choose to use him whenever possible because he is a single dad who can't work a full-time day job because he has two young daughters both with disabilities. He games on Saturday nights when his family takes his daughters to give him a breather.
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  • skillastat
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    I'm a little grey ET
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  • Banky71
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    I'm a little grey ET

    You startled me when I was a kid in the movie theatre and I accidentally launched popcorn over the 5 rows of people in front of me. nice work.
    If you chase two rabbits, you will lose them both.

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  • Soulshine
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    I have repeatedly had the same experience in every MMO I have played.. started with EQ, later in LotrO, then Rift, then GW2, now here. First time I pop into TS and speak, response is always the same: "oh, wow. Thought you were a guy." Meh...

    I like raiding, I am female... so shoot me : P

    Regarding character creation, I am not sure why people place so much self identification into it. I mean, I get the reasons all listed by everyone. I just don't especially relate.

    My way of going about it has nothing to do with what I can identify with, enjoy looking at, "explore," or otherwise self ID with. I make characters based on the vision in my head of the class type, race and role they would hold and what they might look like on the field. Never always the same.

    I can picture a powerful sorc as a super tall Altmer male, or coversely a super dark, tiny Dunmer female... DK tanks could be a slender Imperial males or stocky Redguard female, a short male Orc... Templars female Breton or Altmer, maybe Nord... Nightblades as a Bosmer of any type, Khajiit males or Redguard females... mostly just dependent on the picture I can conjure up in other words... could be anything. I guess my only exception is Argonian. For some reason I just can't seem to picture them as anything... judging from the passives, ZoS has the same issue? lol Not sure, they could use more definition in my head...
    Edited by Soulshine on July 10, 2015 3:40PM
  • DenMoria
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    I play either gender. Generally it's males for the warriors and females for the magic users.

    In ESO, it's the same (with the Nightblades being about equal - generally archers are female and knife wielders are male, but not necessarily).

    What I find odd though is that I am playing non-humans exclusively on the NA and humans only on the EU.

    That's weird to me. Maybe I'm weird. Maybe...
  • Banky71
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    @DenMoria We are all weird in our own way. Life is all about finding people that like your brand of weird.
    If you chase two rabbits, you will lose them both.

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  • jkemmery
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    Banky71 wrote: »
    @DenMoria We are all weird in our own way. Life is all about finding people that like your brand of weird.

    Yeah, that's more of a challenge for some of us than others :)
  • Milktray
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    by now it will be 'almost' 50/50 with men being more but by about 6% or so

    Has been waaaaaaay more women gaming than most think for quite awhile
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  • Snowgoons
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    god i hate when some hot high elf chick looks like she's checking me out and then the mic activates and i hear heavy man breathing









    or i simply don't really care.
    Rollin' round Tamriel on that skooma wasted like a failed Grand Theft Auto mission.
  • NovaMarx
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    I'm a flesh-and-blood female with all female characters. Woop-woop!

    And my hubby @KanedaSyndrome is male with all male characters. We like our real-life genders, plus it makes it more immersive :blush: But "work it!" to all those who gender-bend :wink:
    "Feet are for walking. Hands are for hitting. Or shaking. Or waving. Sometimes for clapping."
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