Girls and boys in the game

Pallmor · June 2015

pablinski wrote: »

Hi, I´m curious to know how many women are actually playing the game

118,528.25

coryevans_3b14_ESO · June 2015

demendred wrote: »

Couple of women in my guild. Thankfully they haven't been swarmed on by horny creepy guys.

This whole thread creeps me out.

Merlin13KAGL · June 2015

coryevans_3b14_ESO wrote: »

This whole thread creeps me out.

I assure you, @coryevans_3b14_ESO , I've ran unto plenty of equal opportunity Crazy in the game, plenty of times.

demendred · June 2015

Merlin13KAGL wrote: »

demendred wrote: »

Couple of women in my guild. Thankfully they haven't been swarmed on by horny creepy guys.

...until now.

You shouldn't think that of yourself

coryevans_3b14_ESO · June 2015

Merlin13KAGL wrote: »

coryevans_3b14_ESO wrote: »

This whole thread creeps me out.

I assure you, @coryevans_3b14_ESO , I've ran unto plenty of equal opportunity Crazy in the game, plenty of times.

Crazy I'm ok with. Creepy I'm not.

Danikat · June 2015

I'm one of the people who doesn't understand why other people find it weird for people to play characters of the opposite sex.

To me they're characters, they're not my attempt to insert myself into the game (idealised or otherwise). A man playing a female character or a woman playing a male one is no more weird to me than an author or script writer including characters of both sexes in their stories.

I actually wouldn't want to be any of my characters. Especially not in ESO where you start off dead and imprisoned and end up roped into fighting off demons from hell. I love fantasy but I'm under no illusions about my own chances in a fantasy world.

Pman85 · June 2015

I got a guild of around 85 members, and i have a few women who play women characters. Also have women who play men characters.

Vorpal_Spork · June 2015

pablinski wrote: »

Hi, I´m curious to know how many women are actually playing the game, and for that I´d like to survey:
How many men have actually girl characters in game?

I'm a guy. I have 2 male characters and a female character.

Vorpal_Spork · June 2015

MMORPG stands for Many Men Online Role Playing Girls.

Merlin13KAGL · June 2015

Vorpal_Spork wrote: »

MMORPG stands for Many Men Online Role Playing Girls.

And for the non-MMO crowd / general internet usage:

"GIRL": "(G)uy (I)n (R)eal (L)ife"

Maotti · June 2015

26 year old male here,

Usually play male character, but i do have one female.

AhPook_Is_Here · June 2015

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

Merlin13KAGL · June 2015

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

@AhPook_Is_Here, you discount people that love the sausage...

You know, like chefs and stuff.

Iselin · June 2015

Male or female character means nothing and very few people exclusively play characters that match their RL gender.

Going by what I hear in PVP voice chat, I'd say that roughly 15% are RL female.

traigusb14_ESO2 · June 2015

Iselin wrote: »

Male or female character means nothing and very few people exclusively play characters that match their RL gender.

Going by what I hear in PVP voice chat, I'd say that roughly 15% are RL female.

Maybe in PVP. In PVEthe % is much higher.

A5ko · June 2015

As long as they can play and not get me killed, I don't care if they're an antelope.

nastuug · June 2015

Pallmor wrote: »

pablinski wrote: »

Hi, I´m curious to know how many women are actually playing the game

118,528.25

@Pallmor dat 1/4 female doe...

Banky71 · June 2015

A5ko wrote: »

As long as they can play and not get me killed, I don't care if they're an antelope.

I am Anti antelope in the game. They are just rude and selfish.

Leandor · June 2015

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

Victus · June 2015

Egonieser wrote: »

Northern_Eve wrote: »

I'm a woman and I only play female characters. I don't fully roleplay my characters, but they all have a backstory and personality. I simply find it too difficult to properly relate to a male character .

I like making my characters attractive looking, but not overly so. When I first joined this game over a year ago, my first character seemed to be "too pretty" because she got some unwanted attention. My current main has heard only one very weird suggestion in game, but that was an exception, not a rule.

But I am not excluding the possibility that sometimes I get treated more "gently" when people realise I'm a female in real life as well. Sometimes it feels I'm not expected to perform quite as highly as male players - or that at least my mistakes can be more easily overlooked and forgiven. I don't know if that's a good thing or sexism - I guess it depends on how you look at it. But I personally don't find it offending. Sometimes a little amusing, most times just polite. I don't want to be patronised, of course, but it doesn't really go that far.

Well, it's not always a bad thing.
I am all for gender equality and would never look at a woman as inferior in any way, but I was also taught as a boy to treat a woman like a queen, to always open the door for her or to offer to pay off the dinner bill etc etc. You know... the classic.
And not because a woman can't do it herself - no, if she insists - i'm not going to refuse, but because it's a polite thing to do and to make her feel special. Gender defining features is not to be mixed with gender equality like some feminists make it out to be. It's just a nice thing to do, but people tend to take it too far. I remember my ex-girlfriend took great offense when i tried to open the door for her. She shouted stuff like: "What, do you think i can't do it myself? I don't need someone to do it for me!"
And I was like "Bloody hell, i was only trying to be nice, hoping you would take the hint that i actually like you enough to do something like this for you.."
But hey - each to their own.
My wife loves being treated with love and feel like a queen and that's all that matters to me now.

That reminds me of the Scrubs episode with the "butterfly effect". The first part, Carla gets into an argument and Turk stands by, after which she turns to him and was like "why didn't you stick up for me?!". The second part (where they go through the series of events again) happens, and this time Turk intervenes, after which Carla turns to him and says "what, don't you think I can't fight my own fights?" lol

IrishGirlGamer · June 2015

Rosveen wrote: »

BlueViolet wrote: »

I've noticed a few folks in zone chat making "corrections" when someone calls them dude, or man, and they're female. They typical response seems to have been "so?" or "no one cares".

I stopped correcting people. I guess I adopted their "who cares?" attitude. Unless it's guild/friend chat, then I'll mention I'm female to avoid the awkward situation when you know someone for a year and assume they're male, only to discover by accident that they are, in fact, a woman. It's so much easier in my native language with gendered verbs.

I don't throw out my gender or shove it down people's throats, but I have no problems identifying myself as a female.

Awhile back, on this forum, someone called me out because of my forum name. They felt like it was a "cry for attention" or some such nonsense because I put the word "girl" in it.

What made that interesting is the forum name I originally wanted wasn't available. I contacted Zeni's CS and they told me why, then suggested I submit a few possibilities for them to check. I submitted three, of which only one had the word "girl" in it. Zeni then chose this name for me and that's how I got it.

But I did choose the name as a choice - and I didn't think more than a half a second about doing it. Why shouldn't I be able to identify myself as a girl in the same way that a man might identify himself as an ironman or a superman or caveman or whatever. And if I do that, and then someone insists upon calling me a guy (because that's oh so funny right?), then yes, I'll probably correct them and I still won't think more than a second about it.

Roselle · June 2015

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

This is, quite frankly, really terrible advice.

Oryctolagus · June 2015

Roselle wrote: »

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

This is, quite frankly, really terrible advice.

I don't know about that. A surprising number of friends and family (and myself and the spousal unit included) found their partners right at the point when they decided they were content with being single. When I really, truly didn't care about dating or finding a wife or being alone etc etc., that is the exact moment I met my wife. Same for her. Maybe the confidence of being right with yourself is attractive, I dunno, and it's certainly not correlation = causation, but it's frequent enough that I do not think it is terrible advice.

Roselle · June 2015

Oryctolagus wrote: »

Roselle wrote: »

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

This is, quite frankly, really terrible advice.

I don't know about that. A surprising number of friends and family (and myself and the spousal unit included) found their partners right at the point when they decided they were content with being single. When I really, truly didn't care about dating or finding a wife or being alone etc etc., that is the exact moment I met my wife. Same for her. Maybe the confidence of being right with yourself is attractive, I dunno, and it's certainly not correlation = causation, but it's frequent enough that I do not think it is terrible advice.

Or you can watch this video instead:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bI5hi4c4y9k

IrishGirlGamer · June 2015

AlienSlof wrote: »

Vulsahdaal wrote: »

But back on subject, and not being male I could be wrong, but I always figured this was the reason why so many males play female characters. Why not have a 'pretty' and/or otherwise attractive character that you would want to follow around for many hours? I dont see anything weird about this at all..
Honestly I probably dont think much about whether that large muscular hairy nord guy in front of me is actually a female, or whether that pretty petite young bosmer girl is actually a guy. It really just doesnt matter to me, I deal with each character as they are presented in game and thats all..

^ This. ^

It really doesn't matter what we as the gamers have between our legs or what gender characters we play - as long as we all have fun with it. Why is someone 'weird' if they play the opposite gender or even the same gender? We'd certainly all be pretty boring if we were the same.

I play males for the same reason a lot of men play females - I play in 3rd-person and I'd rather look at the opposite sex. ...

Which is why I've seen every episode of Sherlock twice and the first season of MI5 like three times. (And aren't video games supposed to be entertaining?)

I identify with my characters and not with their gender. It's like writing a book. Can a female author not accurately relate to a male character and vice versa? Thankfully, yes ... or there would be no Arya Stark.

Leandor · June 2015

Roselle wrote: »

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

This is, quite frankly, really terrible advice.

This is not meant as any form of advice. It's meant as an anecdote saying it may happen in a game and that it is no stranger than in school, in a supermarket, via Facebook or any other way of meeting.

Why do people judge on this? If it works, it works. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Life happens irrespective of prejudice. Why wouldn't one be interested in meeting a significant other that has similar interest in spare time activities?

Oryctolagus · June 2015

Roselle wrote: »

Oryctolagus wrote: »

Roselle wrote: »

Leandor wrote: »

AhPook_Is_Here wrote: »

The sadness of people trying to find love in a video game and finding sausage instead would make Buddha laugh.

What does that make me? I met my wife in WoW 11 years ago without even trying, it just clicked. We've been together since, now happily married since 6 years.

Morale of the story? Stop searching and it may happen?

This is, quite frankly, really terrible advice.

I don't know about that. A surprising number of friends and family (and myself and the spousal unit included) found their partners right at the point when they decided they were content with being single. When I really, truly didn't care about dating or finding a wife or being alone etc etc., that is the exact moment I met my wife. Same for her. Maybe the confidence of being right with yourself is attractive, I dunno, and it's certainly not correlation = causation, but it's frequent enough that I do not think it is terrible advice.

Or you can watch this video instead:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bI5hi4c4y9k

I'm not sure Commander Taggert, or Shia LeBeouf for that matter, are ideal relationship counselors. Willpower is hard to impose on someone else. I'm not exactly Dr. Ruth, though. My wife lives by the saying that she married Mr. Right, first name Always.

Raash · June 2015

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

JD2013 · June 2015

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

Lol since when have games been thought of as acceptable dating/looking for date interaction?

Banky71 · June 2015

Raash wrote: »

Back in vanilla wow I played a female human warrior on the Moonglade server(had friends that were into RP that wanted to play there, dont RP myself but enjoyed the added immersion and met alot of awesome people) and I met this guy paladin that was extremely nice and awesome and we tagged along from low level all the way up for months. We never RPed or really spoke other then gameplay stuffs.
One day he bought me this epic sword and a few days later he asked me if I really was a girl. And I told him that no I wasnt and why he asked... He logged out never to be seen again.
I lost what I though was a real gamer pal that day and learned that some take games far to seriously. I will never play a female char in an RP enviroment again lol.

That's very sad. I almost want to buy you a gift now.