Addicted to eso

darthsithis

yodased wrote: »

Coming from someone who has been with a non-gamer wife for 15 years, this isn't an issue with you playing a video game.

Obviously she understands the time-travel effect that games have and can sink hour upon hour into it.

The thing to test here to see if this is an irrational and hypocritical reaction to you gaming is to play a single player game within the same time frame you play ESO.

I believe this is a jealousy issue with you spending more time with people rather than a game. Remember you are choosing 11 people on the internet over her, not a video game.

The real issue comes from your choice of people over your girlfriend, not the game.

Tried this, and you're right it's only eso. I believe it is a jealousy thing as well.

rotaugen454

psychotic13 wrote: »

Waffennacht wrote: »

The definition of an addiction is where your life suffers (financially, medically, etc) because of what you're giving up to continue said activity.

If there are no draw backs, you aren't "addicted" lol

That being said, in the same boat, however my gf is more like, "stop playing video games and come watch tv with me" at which point im like, "...?"

That's what my partners like, i don't want to watch your BS reality tv programs leave me in tamriel!

Though I do love a good TV series, iron fist is good watched it all already now though

My wife wants me to watch the various "Real Housewives of" programs. I bought a gaming laptop just for tv watching in bed.

yodased

darthsithis wrote: »

yodased wrote: »

Coming from someone who has been with a non-gamer wife for 15 years, this isn't an issue with you playing a video game.

Obviously she understands the time-travel effect that games have and can sink hour upon hour into it.

The thing to test here to see if this is an irrational and hypocritical reaction to you gaming is to play a single player game within the same time frame you play ESO.

I believe this is a jealousy issue with you spending more time with people rather than a game. Remember you are choosing 11 people on the internet over her, not a video game.

The real issue comes from your choice of people over your girlfriend, not the game.

Tried this, and you're right it's only eso. I believe it is a jealousy thing as well.

Well, i'm not a professional in these matters, but you are going to run into these problems regardless of the medium. The real test is to see if actual time with people has the same reaction as virtual time with people. If it does you are in for a world of hurt in a co-dependent relationship with a time manipulator.

but....

dpencil

The ESO forums are my nicotine patch.

bg22

darthsithis wrote: »

This is my first mmo. Got it opening day, got all the achievements (except master angler lol), and know a crap ton about the game. I LOVE the ppl, the gameplay, just the 'x-factor,' the satisfaction of a good build and rotation, never getting sharpened vma staves etc.

But my gf thinks I play too much, and kinda hates it. I stopped playing but think about it like A LOT.

Can someone make me feel better about cutting back/quitting? I really wanna farm tel var and check out ppls houses and duel them and be a raid leader.

My sorc has 170 days logged, maybe she's right idk. I'm just sad I think I loved this game, or at least got addicted to the gameplay and social atmosphere of likeminded ppl.

Someone make me feel better plz...why should I be glad eso won't be part of my life anymore?

I got my gf addicted. Problem solved.

Browiseth

do what you enjoy and makes you happy and anyone who looks down on you clearly has problems of their own

i see no shame in playing video games all day (disregarding important things like work/school/uni)

Ghettokid

darthsithis wrote: »

But my gf thinks I play too much, and kinda hates it. I stopped playing but think about it like A LOT.

This is the reason why I only date orcs...

Molydeus

If your girlfriend made you stop playing ESO but then goes and plays Skyrim for 6 hours straight then that is what I call a spoiled brat with control issues, and you should sit down with her and have a serious talk about boundaries and what a relationship is.

She doesn't get to decide what your hobbies are, she's not your mother. I hate to say it but you two are probably not in love like you think are--a real woman would get to know her man's hobbies because she loves him, and a real man would include his woman in the things he does for fun because he loves her. You guys owe it to each other because you are partners and should be a team.

Nip this in the bud now or it will just be something else later she gets hissy about. If she doesn't care about your joys then she's not the one for you. My wife plays this game with me and there are many other couples who also play this game together, so there are plenty of wonderful women out there who will embrace your hobbies with you.

Floki_Vilgerdarson

We all have addictions, the question is does your addiction to ESO cause you and/or family members harm.

If you are harming yourself or others with your ESO addiction then seek help.

If not, you have a great hobby that keeps you home and safe.

Best Wishes!

Floki

seaef

darthsithis wrote: »

Haha, got a life tho, straight a student, got money, spoil the gf, watch her play skyrim for 6 hours but I can't play eso? And I miss it.

It's just like...I looked forward to playing it, fuggin Netflix is nowhere near as rewarding or engaging, and in terms of everything else we do have a life.

I miss my sorc

Just realize that the game is just a game, your girlfriend won't be your wife, and someday you'll graduate and get a life where gaming is just another hobby and not your primary focus in life.

BTW, if your girlfriend plays Skyrim for 6 hours but thinks you play ESO too much then you need to trade her in for a new model.

rotaugen454

I think that my wife likes the game when she and friends go away for a "girls' weekend". Instead of worrying that her husband is cruising bars looking for a hookup (some of her friends actually worry about it), she is confident I am in ESO every possible moment running group content because I finally don't have to worry about interruptions.

Floki_Vilgerdarson

"Be good, or be good at it."

Absalon

My ex-girlfriend once said I should choose between her or ESO.

Beardimus

The problem isn't just the game time, its the thinking about it. I suffer that too, its my first MMO and I think about it a crap ton, drive to work, work etc but also at home.

It does take over as its so complex, then there is the addict sounding noises we make like "can I just / after this dungeon / 5 more minutes / but I gotta do the daily" etc etc

Limiting play time is the best thing you can do, set Windows and then not obsessing about Golding that shaft every 5 minutes out loud haha

Ihatenightblades

darthsithis wrote: »

This is my first mmo. Got it opening day, got all the achievements (except master angler lol), and know a crap ton about the game. I LOVE the ppl, the gameplay, just the 'x-factor,' the satisfaction of a good build and rotation, never getting sharpened vma staves etc.

But my gf thinks I play too much, and kinda hates it. I stopped playing but think about it like A LOT.

Can someone make me feel better about cutting back/quitting? I really wanna farm tel var and check out ppls houses and duel them and be a raid leader.

My sorc has 170 days logged, maybe she's right idk. I'm just sad I think I loved this game, or at least got addicted to the gameplay and social atmosphere of likeminded ppl.

Someone make me feel better plz...why should I be glad eso won't be part of my life anymore?

Get her addicted too

ProfesseurFreder

Can't you ration it -- enjoy the game, but in moderation? Limit yourself, say, to an hour a day when the girlfriend is Not Looking?

Sibenice

ProfesseurFreder wrote: »

Can't you ration it -- enjoy the game, but in moderation? Limit yourself, say, to an hour a day when the girlfriend is Not Looking?

Why should he have to limit to an hour a day when she plays for 6 hours?

AtraisMachina

Hahahahahha gfs

KingYogi415

Does she pay your rent, food etc.?

I'f not i'd tell her to kick rocks!

DHale

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

Molydeus

DHale wrote: »

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

"A curfew" smh

Indigochild3rdi

Man do what you gotta do but also don't let her walk all over you. What kind of bs is that. You can't play eso but she can binge on Skyrim for 6+ hours. Sounds like she's upset that she can't control your life in eso so she's going to throw a fit about it. My fiancé lets me play games whenever I want. As long as my end of the responsibilities are taken care of. Do my chores, take care of what I have to do and in my free time if I want to play games go for it. Cause she's watching tv or whatever. Sure if I'm ignoring her for games she might make a comment but that rarely happens. You have to make time for her and all that good stuff. Don't let her take advantage of your kindness and love for her.

rotaugen454

Molydeus wrote: »

DHale wrote: »

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

"A curfew" smh

You aren't married, are you?

DHale

Molydeus wrote: »

DHale wrote: »

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

"A curfew" smh

Obviously, you are not married. When you have been with your partner for over 20 then we will see how fast your shaking head gets smacked. The good news is every married guy... knows.

Jemcrystal

I am glad to be FREEEEEEEE of relationships.

Molydeus

rotaugen454 wrote: »

Molydeus wrote: »

DHale wrote: »

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

"A curfew" smh

You aren't married, are you?

Married with kids. Try again.

Sibenice

DHale wrote: »

Molydeus wrote: »

DHale wrote: »

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

"A curfew" smh

Obviously, you are not married. When you have been with your partner for over 20 then we will see how fast your shaking head gets smacked. The good news is every married guy... knows.

Honestly, I think that's ridiculous. I've only been with my man for a year and half but I've also been in other long term relationships. And at no point have I felt the urge to control them. A curfew seems absolutely ridiculous to me. As does the idea of controlling their hobby. Obviously it would be a problem if gaming habits were so bad I never saw them but they've always made time for me because they wanted to. Not because I imposed time limits and ***.

Molydeus

DHale wrote: »

Molydeus wrote: »

DHale wrote: »

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

"A curfew" smh

Obviously, you are not married. When you have been with your partner for over 20 then we will see how fast your shaking head gets smacked. The good news is every married guy... knows.

As noted above I am very happily married and have a wonderful family.

[snip]

[Edit to remove bait.]

rotaugen454

Sibenice wrote: »

DHale wrote: »

Molydeus wrote: »

DHale wrote: »

My wife and I have been together over 20 years hate that I play this "stupid game" so much. She told her mother he plays this game every day she said so what you watch tv every day. Now we have worked out a curfew but still okay every day for 3.5 hours on week days.

"A curfew" smh

Obviously, you are not married. When you have been with your partner for over 20 then we will see how fast your shaking head gets smacked. The good news is every married guy... knows.

Honestly, I think that's ridiculous. I've only been with my man for a year and half but I've also been in other long term relationships. And at no point have I felt the urge to control them. A curfew seems absolutely ridiculous to me. As does the idea of controlling their hobby. Obviously it would be a problem if gaming habits were so bad I never saw them but they've always made time for me because they wanted to. Not because I imposed time limits and ***.

A curfew applies to both sides. Basically it is an agreement on setting times. It avoids confusion and getting upset. We had two kids (one is still home) and busy careers. If we didn't set limits, we'd rarely see each other. Since I don't care what time I game, we set it around any shows she wants to watch so we get both alone and together time and time with our son.

akl77

For me I don't call it addiction, when I have things to do, I do them first, but when I have spare time I have to play games to keep my mind occupied and get the creativity going, instead of letting your brain idle and rut.
My advice to you op is to do what you gotta do first, your gf, job, family etc, and gaming last. Just prioritise a bit.