Addicted to eso

darthsithis

This is my first mmo. Got it opening day, got all the achievements (except master angler lol), and know a crap ton about the game. I LOVE the ppl, the gameplay, just the 'x-factor,' the satisfaction of a good build and rotation, never getting sharpened vma staves etc.

But my gf thinks I play too much, and kinda hates it. I stopped playing but think about it like A LOT.

Can someone make me feel better about cutting back/quitting? I really wanna farm tel var and check out ppls houses and duel them and be a raid leader.

My sorc has 170 days logged, maybe she's right idk. I'm just sad I think I loved this game, or at least got addicted to the gameplay and social atmosphere of likeminded ppl.

Someone make me feel better plz...why should I be glad eso won't be part of my life anymore?

Wrecking_Blow_Spam

Same boat here, I'm curious to what the remedy is apart from "get a life".

darthsithis

Haha, got a life tho, straight a student, got money, spoil the gf, watch her play skyrim for 6 hours but I can't play eso? And I miss it.

It's just like...I looked forward to playing it, fuggin Netflix is nowhere near as rewarding or engaging, and in terms of everything else we do have a life.

I miss my sorc

Milvan

I'm addicted to games as well, not only ESO tho, but MMORPG are my weakpoint indeed.

Did you stop playing solely because your partner told you to? This is kind abusive don't you think? You have your own individuality and you should keep it.

On the other side, if your gaming habits are really making you miss important stuff, you do need to cut back a little bit. You will feel better when you start to enjoy other things other than solely ESO.

My experience: I'm addicted to games as well, I can easily play 18 hours a day or 40 hours during weekends if I have a game that hook me up to. Tho, I'm a adult now with two kids, a career and also a wife and I don't want to miss that. I realized that I love them so much that they are the only reason that makes me stop gamming and enjoy life out there. It's not easy, but I do it because I don't want to miss real life, tho I still enjoy large doses of gaming after the kids and wife go to sleep.

TL;DR: Have your priorites, gaming can always wait, wife, kids and your career comes up (not necessarily in that order).

jlboozer

I would drop the girl friend tbh...why does she not want you to have a hobby? People always trying to change others really gets on my nerves....my ex had the same issue trying to change me, now she's single!!

nine9six

darthsithis wrote: »

spoil the gf, watch her play skyrim for 6 hours but I can't play eso?

That'd come to a screeching halt...

ThePaleItalian

Get her the game

darthsithis

Milvan thank you...

I watch her play skyrim for 6 hour intervals, but she feels excluded when I eso.

I do have a life, great grades, but once a week I'll spend a few nights playing eso for 7 hours and it drives her nuts to the point where she's like 'no more'

I love and respect her so much that I did it, but now I'm on the forums, daydreaming of maelstrom of all things lol, and frustrated that other games are just meh in comparison.

Yeah gaming addict I'll admit it too.

I chose her (she's being a bit irrational honestly), and I am confident in that decision. Just wondering if the need or the longing gets better or not...

UppGRAYxDD

If she needs convincing the positives, show her this. There is a direct correlation between increased IQ and problem solving.

http://www.apa.org/monitor/2014/02/video-game.aspx

lots of study's on this actually, for me the best thing was to set gaming hours and limit those. Make time for your gf/spouse and set apart time for gaming, but most of all communicate. Hope this helps.

rotaugen454

My wife despises this game. I remember posting on Facebook (before this game even launched) that it would probably be the cause of my getting divorced.

psychotic13

If she can play for 6 hours and be fine with it but if you play for 7 has a hissy fit you need to get rid mate, equality is everything in a relationship

darthsithis

nine9six wrote: »

darthsithis wrote: »

spoil the gf, watch her play skyrim for 6 hours but I can't play eso?

That'd come to a screeching halt...

Lol. In her defense though I'm sure I play too much when I do go all out. But sh!t I enjoyed it.

I am NOT here to blame her though, nor justify my frustration.

Just wondering if it fades. I've never loved a game more in my life. I loved being a raid leader, guild leader, flawless conqueror, respected among my peers, friends with my guildies...I don't get that working my day job you know. Eso filled a need in my psyche and it really got in there...

nine9six

Get her to play ESO with you.

Ironically, she's feels excluded when you play a multi-player game....yet is okay with going to town on a single-player game.

Women...

darthsithis

rotaugen454 wrote: »

My wife despises this game. I remember posting on Facebook (before this game even launched) that it would probably be the cause of my getting divorced.

Did you get divorced lol? I'd choose her over a game. It is just a game...that I think about a ton lol.

RapidUrsa

My GF did the same to me! I said to her play for an hour and if you still don't want me to play ill give it up! She is now CP 450 on her Nightblade

Jitterbug

Make a youtube channel and make a few bucks uploading content.

Call it a part time job

rotaugen454

darthsithis wrote: »

rotaugen454 wrote: »

My wife despises this game. I remember posting on Facebook (before this game even launched) that it would probably be the cause of my getting divorced.

Did you get divorced lol? I'd choose her over a game. It is just a game...that I think about a ton lol.

Still married. Buying her the multi-thousand $ "tiger" cat helped, as the cat distracts her enough for me to get in an hour or 90 minutes a day before any complaining.

darthsithis

nine9six wrote: »

Get her to play ESO with you.

Ironically, she's feels excluded when you play a multi-player game....yet is okay with going to town on a single-player game.

Women...

She leveled a dk to 50, and hated that she felt 'obliged' to play every day (dailies etc). But missed out on the social stuff, the joy of making your build great, perfecting technique...I mean she can short hop down-air fast fall l-cancel dashgrab shine spike with Falco in melee but missed the fun of eso skill setups.

I do love her and she gets mad when on my days off, I play from like midnight to 7am (after watching her play andromeda or skyrim for hours).

Whatever I'm done venting

Sheezabeast

You could take a hiatus until Morrowind is released, give your lady a few months of attention, it'll be easier to score brownie points with her

Milvan

darthsithis wrote: »

Milvan thank you...

I watch her play skyrim for 6 hour intervals, but she feels excluded when I eso.

I do have a life, great grades, but once a week I'll spend a few nights playing eso for 7 hours and it drives her nuts to the point where she's like 'no more'

I love and respect her so much that I did it, but now I'm on the forums, daydreaming of maelstrom of all things lol, and frustrated that other games are just meh in comparison.

Yeah gaming addict I'll admit it too.

I chose her (she's being a bit irrational honestly), and I am confident in that decision. Just wondering if the need or the longing gets better or not...

Okay, since you state that you manage your real life and your gamming life well, we have two solutions here:

- Keep your mind busy with other stuff, you will eventually find something that will hook you up;
- Invite your girlfriend to play ESO with you, show her the trials, the house, the content etc.

Let us know the outcome of your struggle comrade!

darthsithis

So will it fade? Will I stop craving eso and be content with normal crap again? This game is just unbelievably enthralling to me. It cc'd me for 170 days, I worry I won't be as satisfied or as hooked on a game again, and that is scary cuz I loved being hooked on it

CasNation

I took a break from ESO recently to play some single player games. When you are in a relationship, I noticed there was a big difference between your SO coming in wanting you attention and saying "I'm in a trial, give me between 20 min and 2 hours" vs. "Sure, what'what's up? <hits pause button>"

ESO is and lot of fun, but a multiplayer game intrinsically demands time in a different way compared to single player games. Focus on the fact that stepping away from ESO will allow you to share the little things with your GF. Maybe she saw a funny article on FB she wants to share with you. It isn't a large chunk of time, but if you were in a pvp siege of something, you wouldn't be able to really pay attention to it.

Not sure if I got my point across, but by stepping away from the game a bit, you will be able to share some small moments that you didn't know you were missing. And you won't be pissed off by her pestering to hang out becausee you can just pause your game.

All of this assumes that you and your GF actually love each other and that she isn't some nasty materialistic pain that pesters you for your time because she can't stand to not be the center of attention. If that is the case you have bigger problems than ESO addiction.

Danksta

I knew my girl was the one for me when she told me she'd never get between me and my video games. 5 years in and she's been true to her word. Though I'll admit I try my best to keep the gaming sessions from getting too long when she's over since we don't always get to see each other.

darthsithis

Ok I'll update later haha. Thanks so much everybody, may rng bless you all

t3hdubzy

darthsithis wrote: »

This is my first mmo. Got it opening day, got all the achievements (except master angler lol), and know a crap ton about the game. I LOVE the ppl, the gameplay, just the 'x-factor,' the satisfaction of a good build and rotation, never getting sharpened vma staves etc.

But my gf thinks I play too much, and kinda hates it. I stopped playing but think about it like A LOT.

Can someone make me feel better about cutting back/quitting? I really wanna farm tel var and check out ppls houses and duel them and be a raid leader.

My sorc has 170 days logged, maybe she's right idk. I'm just sad I think I loved this game, or at least got addicted to the gameplay and social atmosphere of likeminded ppl.

Someone make me feel better plz...why should I be glad eso won't be part of my life anymore?

I found that you have to have a balance between family and gaming. I typically play while my wife sleeps and the kids are in bed. On weekends i play while we watch tv and have 2 tvs in the bedroom to make this possible. I make sure not to do any or little talking in groups while i play so she barely notices im playing.

Its not perfect but it works.

darthsithis

CasNation wrote: »

I took a break from ESO recently to play some single player games. When you are in a relationship, I noticed there was a big difference between your SO coming in wanting you attention and saying "I'm in a trial, give me between 20 min and 2 hours" vs. "Sure, what'what's up? <hits pause button>".

Your point is clear, and you're my hero. U get it my dude.

She's not materialistic we are in love, she just hates the whole 'lemme finish this trial, it's a p.u.g. But I'm sure it won't last 4 hours' and then it does lmao.

I feel better already. It's just a game, break will be nice.

Cpt_Teemo

darthsithis wrote: »

rotaugen454 wrote: »

My wife despises this game. I remember posting on Facebook (before this game even launched) that it would probably be the cause of my getting divorced.

Did you get divorced lol? I'd choose her over a game. It is just a game...that I think about a ton lol.

And give up your free will? Pff.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUFKJoCJ3Mc

darthsithis

Kyle1983b14_ESO wrote: »

darthsithis wrote: »

rotaugen454 wrote: »

My wife despises this game. I remember posting on Facebook (before this game even launched) that it would probably be the cause of my getting divorced.

Did you get divorced lol? I'd choose her over a game. It is just a game...that I think about a ton lol.

And give up your free will? Pff.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUFKJoCJ3Mc

I meant I'd choose my gf, wasn't telling him what to do sry it came across like that haha.

And hey, free will is what made me quit. She expressed herself and I chose to respect her! Just needed some perspective from mmo players in the same or similar situations is a godsend rn

Cpt_Teemo

darthsithis wrote: »

Kyle1983b14_ESO wrote: »

darthsithis wrote: »

rotaugen454 wrote: »

My wife despises this game. I remember posting on Facebook (before this game even launched) that it would probably be the cause of my getting divorced.

Did you get divorced lol? I'd choose her over a game. It is just a game...that I think about a ton lol.

And give up your free will? Pff.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUFKJoCJ3Mc

I meant I'd choose my gf, wasn't telling him what to do sry it came across like that haha.

And hey, free will is what made me quit. She expressed herself and I chose to respect her! Just needed some perspective from mmo players in the same or similar situations is a godsend rn

Maybe she chose for you, never know

darthsithis

^touche, a valid argument.

Ur kinda right just don't wanna admit that.

But I CAN say that if something causes a rift, it just has to go. i really was addicted tho, had such a hard time turning the damn Xbox off even at like 6am. This game really clicked with me. Maybe mmo's are just like that, I feel like it is designed to be addictive and then prey on that while giving you a sense of great accomplishment haha

Wrecking_Blow_Spam

darthsithis wrote: »

nine9six wrote: »

darthsithis wrote: »

spoil the gf, watch her play skyrim for 6 hours but I can't play eso?

That'd come to a screeching halt...

Lol. In her defense though I'm sure I play too much when I do go all out. But sh!t I enjoyed it.

I am NOT here to blame her though, nor justify my frustration.

Just wondering if it fades. I've never loved a game more in my life. I loved being a raid leader, guild leader, flawless conqueror, respected among my peers, friends with my guildies...I don't get that working my day job you know. Eso filled a need in my psyche and it really got in there...

When you figure out how to get this game from your mind, let me know