Aelakhaii_De_Mythos wrote: »

People can deny it all they want but most human beings are actually genuinely disgusting.

They are rude on the net because they can get away with it.

Depends on how you personally define "rude"
Some people find it rude when someone simply talks truth which is perceived as rude by the other person because it hurts their feelings. Say the same thing to another person and they just take it as constructive criticism.

I've personally not encountered very rude behaviour in game in all my years playing. Just the odd idiot now and again who does or says silly things. Actually in most cases players have either been mutes who don't interact much or are the total opposite and are really helpful and friendly.

Coming from wow have not met many rude people here at all in the last 2 years!

Violynne wrote: »

You know, I'd like to know where these people are, because I've not run across one single rude person in this game.

Almost everyone I've spoken with or played with has been very helpful and nice.

I'm not saying rude people don't exist, I'm sure they do, but I can't believe for one second the game is filled with them.

So rather than harp one the few rude people, why not actually write a post about the many more nice people you've encountered.

I'll put up a box of donuts there are many more friendly people than rude.

Spend 10 minutes in cyrodil. Or on the pve side of things tell a pick up group to please wait because you need the quest.

People do seem ruder in general.... I’m lucky most people I’ve met in game have been lovely....

This post brings to mind one of my fav quotes by Prince Nuada when talking about the humans.... ‘Proud, hollow empty things that you are.... greed has burned a hole in their hearts that will never be filled’..... Sadly that’s how I feel about most people.... (myself included)....

x4livin wrote: »

Murkmire is the worst for just miserable, hateful people.

One of the best experiences I've had in game so far was fighting a boss in Murkmire. I had a boss daily to do and put a call in zone chat asking for help.

Two people replied, but for some reason I wasn't able to share the quest. I told them so and apologized for wasting their time. One of them left group, but the other person stayed. I asked for help in one of my guilds and another person joined the group. I couldn't share the quest with my fellow guild member either, but they too decided to stay and help.

There were 3 or 4 people in total fighting this boss (Walks-like-thunder - the one whose health regenerates). The fight lasted longer than normal and at some point someone in my group suggested that we should wipe and ask for more people to come help. We killed the boss soon after that.

It was an amazing fight, but what was even more amazing was that a complete stranger answered a call for help and decided to stay even after being told that I couldn't share the quest.

Yuffie91 wrote: »

Coming from wow have not met many rude people here at all in the last 2 years!

Yes, don't remember many rude players, had one back at launch
Had some salty ones, has been salty myself a few times. This it then the one carrying the group trying to explain mechanic the way you will do to an 5 year old, like saying that area effect don't hurt friendly players so they are safe to use.

If you are an ganker or bomber in PvP, well expect your foe to *** talk you.
If you are bad in PvP this never happens.
However if you try to pug an vet dlc dungeon with an fake tank or a <10K dps you might get it to.

Most toxic players are hardcore Pvp or hardcore Pve. A majority of the playerbase is pretty cool but sometimes you'll get yourself a character.
For example, the other day I died in PVP. Pretty common occurrence considering I'm a pretty squishy bomber. The dude messaged me saying I'm a pos zergling, that I just got exposed, and that he's gonna post it on social media.
When encountering a player like this you have a couple options:
1: Block and move on. That person has to wake up everyday, look in the mirror and see them self. That's bad enough.
2: Troll them. This one is much more fun. Be nice, but get em worked up. You might just get them to cuss at you which means a 24 comms ban.

Yes, the following is long. There's a lot to cover.

The massive amount of rampant toxicity and elitism from the players of this game is unbelievable. Mind you, I'm not talking about everyone. It's the majority, though. I don't throw around the term toxic or elitist lightly. If a max level wants to help someone out by giving constructive criticism about a low level person's build or something, then that's fine. But being vicious and mocking is not acceptable. Thinking you're better than someone because you're higher level, or thinking you know everything better and the lower level person is stupid and ignorant and should kiss your feet is elitist.

Toxicity is everywhere. It has stained every aspect of this game. I am max level. Frankly I am ashamed to be max level because of the huge number of 810's who treat people terribly. If I queue for a normal dungeon to get a quick daily in or try to get some gear, most people who are lower level are too afraid to tell me they don't know the mechanics of the dungeon. They have been mocked and humiliated and yelled at and told they're worthless and far worse things I'm not allowed to say here lest I be banned for even mentioning it. Tons of people have told me this. One guy was telling me how he had been mocked and humiliated in every single dungeon he did that day.

You know what I've seen MANY times? People apologizing for not being perfect or not knowing something. In a NORMAL dungeon. I have also had even max level people tell me that I should just kick them because they don't know the dungeon. In a NORMAL dungeon. The majority of people in this game are so toxic that they viciously humiliate and mock people who don't do things perfectly the first time. And Heaven forbid a person not know every single possible mechanic. People should not be acting rude and toxic like this in veteran dungeons either, but I mention the normal dungeon examples to highlight how truly toxic and ludicrous this is.

It's not just max levels who are toxic, though. I've seen a ton of toxicity from people of all levels. It's definitely not something defined by level in that respect. Like someone said, when some max levels try to help lower levels in a nice way, they are met with malice. So believe me, I know toxicity is from people of all levels. Quite heavily.

I'm even getting toxicity from simply just helping people. Someone in my guild was asking for help multiple times to kill a world boss. I went to go help him, and we died a couple of times. I was tired and was not in tanky gear and was forced to be tank. Anyway, we beat the boss after the third try, and he mocks me. I go out of my way to help someone and get mocking and vitriol from him in return. Unbelievable. Just stunning.

In battlegrounds, I was doing deathmatch the other day. I don't do deathmatch much, but I did pretty mediocre. I got several kills and many assists, and so on. One team member took it upon themselves to say to our entire team: "Don't queue again." This team member also decided it was his job to mock us and order us around rudely. I don't care how well or how badly a person does. You don't tell them to not play the game. People have the right to play BGS, IC, PvE, PvP, or anything they want because they purchased this game and they have the right to have fun and do what they want to do.

You might think perhaps that my entire team wouldn't have been belittled if we had been top players. You'd be wrong. I was first place in BGS land grab for several weeks. Things were worse at the top. I had people ordering me and everyone else around just as rudely, I had people telling me I was worthless and people would tell me and my pug teammates to kill ourselves on a regular basis. I had my own teammates do everything in their power to screw with me. They would stand right outside of the flag so they wouldn't contribute. I would be teabagged by teammates and the enemy alike. ALL. THE. TIME.

One time, when I was doing land grab back then, I was in the middle of an intense match, and my teammate started screaming at me and telling me to quit and that I should die and no one would miss me. He went on and on for the entirety of the match. I keep everything muted now. I will never unmute. Toxicity is just worse now than it was even then.

My most recent BGS deathmatch included lots of teabagging. One guy seemed to really despise me. He teabagged me for a full 19 seconds during the match; he almost got himself killed in the process. Toxicity at its finest.

Zone chat is full of toxicity. I see people mocking others, telling them to shut up over nothing, and I see countless violations of the TOS. Nothing is done about it. When a bad earthquake happened and people were injured and some even died, someone let everyone know on zone chat. The response? Just one response. The person said, "No one gives a ****". This is ESO toxicity. It is all-encompassing. ESO is full of people who act heartless and vicious and just horrible.

I've had guild members whisper me for support when they were devastated by someone being toxic to them. Real awful stuff. I would comfort them and tell them to ignore the person and let them know the awful stuff said to them was just bull. I've had this happen on a regular basis, as well.

You may think running with guildies would be better. Nope.

Recently, I had a guild member who disagreed with another about a simple issue. He was ganged up on by 15 guild members. All of them were attacking him and mocking him, they were calling him an idiot. They were saying he must have a terrible real life. They were insulting him in every way they could. All because he had a different opinion. He was then kicked from the guild.

I have left many guilds due to extreme toxicity in them. I have seen many guildmasters and officers expect to be damn near worshipped. I have seen cult like behavior. I have seen just pure rudeness. And once again, I have had several of my friends say they were too nervous to even ask for help from their guild with something because they were scared of being attacked and mocked.

I have seen so many incidents with guildies being cruel to one another. It's nonstop.

Everyone treats everyone terribly in this game. I did a public dungeon the other day. I was running with someone. We got to a boss that we both needed for the conqueror achievement. I died getting to the boss since we were just trying to hurry up and get there. The guy I was running with decided to kill the boss right in front of me while I was rezzing. So I had to end up waiting forever for it to respawn. This happens all the time.

People stealing other's nodes and chests. Just making the game unbearable to play. The design is bad for this, as well. It should be people working together, not a competitive environment where everyone is out to screw everyone else over. At least for non-PvP things. That's not fun. It's infuriating. I had another public dungeon where you had to work together to step on tiles. No one in my guilds would help, several people who came through the dungeon didn't want to take 5 seconds out of their day to help. One guy even stepped on one tile, looked at me, and then left. He did just enough to show me he knew how to help, but then he wouldn't finish the job so I couldn't beat the dungeon. Just being unbelievably rude.

I could write 300 pages of toxic incidents that have occurred in PvP in the last 3 months alone. Most filled with really, really egregious things. I can't even mention them or I will be banned from the forums because of how horrible they are.

Sheesh, the other day I was just getting an undaunted quest, and a person comes up to me and whispers me that he thinks I look disgusting. It's not a big incident, but it's just the toxic icing on a rotten cake.

If these things were isolated incidents that didn't occur often, I wouldn't be writing this post. These types of toxic incidents occur ALL. THE. TIME. For me and for many, many other people who have told me their experiences. I'd say it happens about 90 percent of the time. I'm being generous.

I am on PS4 NA.
Get some game masters on or something. I've seen many leave due to toxicity. I barely ever read zone chat. I try to limit interactions with people to an absolute minimum so I can enjoy small parts of the game like quests, etc. But I'm tired. I'm at my limit. And the forums have a lot of toxicity as well, sadly. I just wanted to get the truth of the matter out. Things need to get better, or the game will lose more people.

TL;DR
Tons of toxic people and incidents about 90 percent of the time. Need game masters. Game will improve if action is taken and people act decently.

SirAxen wrote: »

Meet one A-hole , it was a bad experience. Meet nothing but A-holes all day? IT's probably you.

Being an a-hole, or not, is a choice.

Saying that if everyone you've met all day has chosen to be an a-hole toward you because it's you, and not them, sounds like victim blaming to me.

Let's face it, there are a lot of a-holes in the world, as well as a lot of nice, friendly, helpful people. We tend to notice those people who stood out for one reason or other-- maybe they went out of their way to be nice, or maybe they went out of their way to be a-holes. And if we focus on the a-holes, it can be easy to lose sight of all the nice people who are right beside us.

LadyNalcarya wrote: »

xeha_arwen11 wrote: »

TL;DR
Tons of toxic people and incidents about 90 percent of the time. Need game masters. Game will improve if action is taken and people act decently.

Hmm sounds like console community is significantly more toxic than PC. That's a shame, PC/EU ESO is one of less toxic games I've played.
The only thing on your list that often happens here is chest stealing.

Console is always gonna have a more immature crowd. And I say this as a console player myself.

The other day I had some People insult me, because I fished in "their" Area.😆