I miss her... ZoS please take a moment to read

MagicalLija · March 2019

Please ZoS, Even if they don't make anything know that you've got all of us which are here for you

mystfit · March 2019

May I suggest you visit all the housing in ESO and find one that speaks of your mother and build a memorial to her. If you aren't a crafter, perhaps guildies could assist in crafting whatever you need.
Make a beautiful spot to think on and remember her.

IzzyStardust · March 2019

Kalgert wrote: »

I was feeling sympathy for this thread... Until I came to this part:

dovakiin5574 wrote: »

I ask you to help memorialize my mom.

Why is it that whenever someone's friend, loved one or pet passes away, they immediately go to their nearest favorite videogame, and start asking for memorials? It kinda strikes me as disrespectful to their memory, and really tacky in a sort of "Cashing in" way (I don't know if my grandparents would feel happy or anything, if I decided to go to WoW and started asking for memorials, for example). Why can't you somehow imbed her memory by yourself, without having to get a needless NPC in to a game? And I say this because it really is something of a floodgate conundrum, in where people can easily look at an NPC and say "Hey! You added someone's parent who didn't play the game with them, so why aren't you putting in my dog in to the game!?"

It's how I always say it when I see threads like these: My parrot passed away in August, and I miss him dearly. Please put him in the game, and anyone who denies this to me is a heartless cur.

danno8 wrote: »

Just a suggestion. Why not make a character with a likeness to your mom, give her an ESO style name with similar qualities and run her through the game for a while?

She could have all kinds of adventures and you would be right there with her.

This is a perfect suggestion. It's remembering your mother in your own way, without having to litter the world with more NPCs that are there simply for "Memorial Purposes"

Juponen wrote: »

So, it's up to me to be the heartless *** and say to ZOS: keep ESO fantasy world and RL separated. What individuals do within the game in this respect is their business but the company should stay out.

I don't see this as heartless, more like you being a realist. It'd be heartless if you decided to say "Who cares if she's dead, shame on you for mourning".

I agree; my brother died last Thanksgiving and I made him a memorial at my house.

Tan9oSuccka · March 2019

Hugs, friend.

Cherish the memories. PS4 NA if you want to jam.

FleetwoodSmack · March 2019

Hiruda wrote: »

Sylvermynx wrote: »

@IndyWendieGo - in the games I've played, there are MANY memorials that I don't personally understand (as in, I don't know who they remember), but I give the game devs lots of props for doing that.

Your post is cold and heartless. If you can't simply say something kind and move on, shame to you.

I lost my father like 2 years ago, i lost one of my closest friend the same year, last year i lost my grandpa

i didnt made a post asking for a memorial ingame for them, if every player were doing that, we would be flooded with only post about that

Exactly. Hell, I work in the death industry. I'm not even a funeral director and I get flooded with requests that not only put my job in jeopardy, but the entire establishment depending on the state due to various ethics and state laws. So I'm used to being called 'heartless' for not allowing someone to put cremated remains of someone's spouse in their casket. While this is something vastly different and under different circumstances, the answers in the end are quite similar in the sense that they're just requests that most likely won't happen due to obvious reasons.

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Hello everyone,

Recently we've had to remove a few off-topic posts that were causing a bit of derailing. For further posts please be sure to stay respectful and civil with the Forum Rules in mind, condolences.

Thank you for understanding.

BretonMage · March 2019

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I don't see why there is opposition to this request. Not everyone would appreciate having their loved one memorialised in an MMO, and ZOS would be under no obligation to do it for every single request.

Also, one certainly doesn't need to be famous to be extended a compassionate gesture

Whatever ZOS decides to do, I actually think it would be a lovely idea for them to write a quest honouring the mother and child bond. Some of the most memorable quests have featured meaningful and loving relationships.

ArchMikem · March 2019

BretonMage wrote: »

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I don't see why there is opposition to this request. Not everyone would appreciate having their loved one memorialized in an MMO, and ZOS would be under no obligation to do it for every single request.

Also, one certainly doesn't need to be famous to be extended a compassionate gesture

Whatever ZOS decides to do, I actually think it would be a lovely idea for them to write a quest honouring the mother and child bond. Some of the most memorable quests have featured meaningful and loving relationships.

It's special treatment, and it'd create animosity. How many people do you think play the game? How many of those people do you think suffer loss in life, and how many do you think would feel equally deserving of getting the same treatment if they see ZOS do it for someone?

In 2015, I was dying of late stage Hodgkins Lymphoma. I was still able to be treated and I'm still breathing. But what if I had died? In 2015 I was in love with this game and my mother knew that. What if she somehow came on to my account and made a thread asking the devs to memorialize her son somehow? Would you support it? Would people also claim I, even though at the time was practically just another no-name player, be deserving of the extra special work ZOS would need to put in?

I feel for the OP. Tremendously as a loving Son myself. But there are many other ways to memorialize their loved one that doesn't involve special treatment by a video game developer.

Morgha_Kul · March 2019

I am sorry for your loss.

That said, I'm not certain putting her likeness into the game is healthy. When we lose loved ones, we need to be able to let them go. It's an important part of life. I worry that putting her likeness in the game would impair your ability to let her go, and might encourage you to spend all your time playing rather than living, so that you can remain close to "her."

I understand the request, and sympathize, but I don't think it's a good idea, and I encourage you to work with your family and friends to memorialize her in another way.

Sylvermynx · March 2019

ArchMikem wrote: »

BretonMage wrote: »

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I don't see why there is opposition to this request. Not everyone would appreciate having their loved one memorialized in an MMO, and ZOS would be under no obligation to do it for every single request.

Also, one certainly doesn't need to be famous to be extended a compassionate gesture

Whatever ZOS decides to do, I actually think it would be a lovely idea for them to write a quest honouring the mother and child bond. Some of the most memorable quests have featured meaningful and loving relationships.

It's special treatment, and it'd create animosity. How many people do you think play the game? How many of those people do you think suffer loss in life, and how many do you think would feel equally deserving of getting the same treatment if they see ZOS do it for someone?

In 2015, I was dying of late stage Hodgkins Lymphoma. I was still able to be treated and I'm still breathing. But what if I had died? In 2015 I was in love with this game and my mother knew that. What if she somehow came on to my account and made a thread asking the devs to memorialize her son somehow? Would you support it? Would people also claim I, even though at the time was practically just another no-name player, be deserving of the extra special work ZOS would need to put in?

I feel for the OP. Tremendously as a loving Son myself. But there are many other ways to memorialize their loved one that doesn't involve special treatment by a video game developer.

Well, Arch - I'd memorialize you somehow. You're one of my favorite people who post here.

BlueViolet · March 2019

I am so dreadfully sorry for your loss

danno8 wrote: »

Just a suggestion. Why not make a character with a likeness to your mom, give her an ESO style name with similar qualities and run her through the game for a while?

She could have all kinds of adventures and you would be right there with her.

I think this is a truly wonderful idea, alongside the idea for perhaps creating a special corner of your in game house or garden dedicated to your Mum.

GLP323b14_ESO · March 2019

Well I'm very sorry to hear about your loss, however... if gaming companies made it a precedent to oblige such appeals made from players in the forums sections, they would be inundated with such requests.

If they could oblige all those people, every background character in a game would be somebody's lost loved one.

So... I don't suspect you will get your wish on this. Perhaps if there was something very unique about your situation it would have a better chance. But a lot of young adults lose an elderly parent.

I was 30 when my mother passed away from colon cancer at 54. Which of course made my doctor tell me I should start getting colonoscopy's starting at age 35!

As opposed to the standard 50.

DarcyMardin · March 2019

So sorry to hear that you lost your mother. Deepest condolences. It's very hard to lose our parents--I'm 70 years old and I still miss mine.

I like the idea some folks have suggested of making a memorial in your ESO house...that could be a lovely way to do it.

Whatever happens, it will probably hurt for a long time. Go easy on yourself for a while, if you can. Hugs.

Girl_Number8 · March 2019

I am very sorry for your loss and your family and you have my deepest condolences. Losing loved ones is the hardest part about life but I am sure she was very proud and happy to have such a loving person as her son.

Zos, has memorialized a real player in the game in Cyro, so I hope you get your wish. *hugs*

BretonMage · March 2019

ArchMikem wrote: »

It's special treatment, and it'd create animosity. How many people do you think play the game? How many of those people do you think suffer loss in life, and how many do you think would feel equally deserving of getting the same treatment if they see ZOS do it for someone?

In 2015, I was dying of late stage Hodgkins Lymphoma. I was still able to be treated and I'm still breathing. But what if I had died? In 2015 I was in love with this game and my mother knew that. What if she somehow came on to my account and made a thread asking the devs to memorialize her son somehow? Would you support it? Would people also claim I, even though at the time was practically just another no-name player, be deserving of the extra special work ZOS would need to put in?

I feel for the OP. Tremendously as a loving Son myself. But there are many other ways to memorialize their loved one that doesn't involve special treatment by a video game developer.

I understand your point. Speaking only for myself, I personally wouldn’t mind if they gave special treatment to a fellow player’s grief, even if it was someone I didn’t know. So would I support it? Why wouldn’t I? Perhaps it may not possible for them to respond individually to hundreds/thousands of requests like this if it came to that, and especially not if, as you claim, it would create animosity, but as I said before, that would be their decision to make.

But you know, I would love to know that ZOS cared enough for their players to make gestures like this - and not just the famous ones. And if they could find an inclusive way to do it, then so much the better.

Nisekev · March 2019

I lost my dad to cancer less than 6 months ago, he was only 61. My condolences.

OutLaw_Nynx · March 2019

Some of these comments are truly something else...

OP, I’m very sorry for your loss. You should make a character in her name. I did the same for my grandmother on Bloodborne. You best believe that there is a mad grandma hunter roaming the streets of Yharnam. She was always so supportive of my gaming even though she understood little of it. I decided to name my hunter after her in her memory. I wish you the best.

-hugs-

GLP323b14_ESO · March 2019

Here's a thought.

Give players the ability to personally inscribe a plaque or a statue they could put in their houses that says "In memoriam" and whatever name you specify.

I'd say also provide some way to do a 3D rendering of the person's face onto the statue, but that would likely result in massive amounts of data if they accommodated every person that would want to do that. (If you were to put it into a massively multiplayer game for everyone to see). Nobody would want ESO to become a 500 GB download. (Well unless it was playable content).

wishlist14 · March 2019

I lost my mum and 2 years after, my youngest sister died. I can relate to your grief. What I did to remember my mum who was an amazing, loving mum and my everything was I made her my own memorial in eso. I bought a house I thought she would love and I made a lil garden and placed a little table and chairs outdoors with glasses etc and when i miss her I go and sit out there and pretend she is sitting next to me on her chair i placed for her. I also placed a chair for my baby sister...I sit with them and listen to the bird sounds or the beautiful rain. Sometimes going there makes me sad but mainly it helps me feel like I created my own space for them in a world I love. Eso has helped me get through some intense pain.

Im hoping to created the maze garden I love for my mum ...the one in summerset. I'll get there. I know I'll make a special place for my sis too but atm she is happy with mum. I miss them both so much but they live in my heart and noone can ever hurt them or take them away from my memory. Im very sorry for you loss. 💜

Vasoka · March 2019

Ah yes, all those *** not realizing that adding ONE random NPC with the name of the guy's mother takes literally about 10 minutes of work, if not less.

What do you care if there's a completely random NPC that you probably won't even be able to talk to somewhere in the world named after the dude's mother? Literally how does it concern you or bother you? Or did you just crawl out of your mothers' basements in order to spit your daily dose of bile so that you may feel better?

This is what separates a good company from a PoS company which simply doesn't give a *** about it's customers. There's no need to add a NPC for "every parent who dies", seeing as only about 1% or even less of the players who lose someone close would even request such a NPC, thus I assure you the game won't be flooded by "millions of NPCs".

If OP actually took it to the forums and spent the time to write out the request, I see no issue with his mother being added somewhere in the giant world of ESO.

This guy's got my vote. Also, sorry for your loss.

mayasunrising · March 2019

I'm so sorry for your lost Dovakiin. I wish you what peace you can find during this time of challenge and transition.

ItsMeToo · March 2019

Remember there is always someone worse off than you are. I'm an orphan. My mom's head got chopped off as she was thrown from a car crash when I was one year old. I never got to know my mom.

My dad died when I was 6 years old.

Do I still miss them? Yes

Death is a part of life, no matter how it gets you. We all will die some day.

Take time to morn for her and then move on. You need to heal and the pain will start to go away over time.

Tigerseye · March 2019

Sorry for your loss, OP.

I also lost my mum at a similarly young age (having lost my dad, when I was a baby), so I know how you feel.

16BitForestCat · March 2019

While I agree that making your own character of your mother so you can control how she's memorialized, or planting a tree in her name, or putting up a sign about her, etc. would all probably be better memorials than having a game company make an NPC of someone they've never met...some of y'all are being inappropriate, rude, and cruel here. My block list grows many sizes this day, and it's only 4:30 AM.

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idk · March 2019

ZOS_AntonioP wrote: »

Hello everyone,

Recently we've had to remove a few off-topic posts that were causing a bit of derailing. For further posts please be sure to stay respectful and civil with the Forum Rules in mind, condolences.

Thank you for understanding.

This is very disappointing in a thread like this. It takes nothing to be civil even if you disagree about the suggestion.

To OP, sorry for your loss.

My mother visited often and enjoyed watching me raid and I miss that. I am not sure she actually understood what I was doing, but she enjoyed watching.

Eldartar · March 2019

To the OP I am sorry for your loss, you never get over the loss of a parent and at such a young age too, My thoughts are with you. I lost my Mum just over a year ago now and I miss her so much and I'm nearly 59 years old with 3 kids of my own. You will always have your memories of her, the pain will ease with time but never go away. stay strong and live your life, make your mum proud of her son.

Monte_Cristo · March 2019

Mettaricana wrote: »

Hiruda wrote: »

Im sorry for your lose but come on, if every players who lost a parents asked for a memorial ingame, every npc ingame would be named after someone parents

World would be alot more lively

Yeah, but then instead of the guards, my character would be getting a clip round the ear from me Mum for pickpocketing.
Mine died a couple of years ago, at 59.

SantieClaws · March 2019

What server and platform are you on traveller?

Just thinking that if you don't have the time and space for a memorial garden right now I can put a little vase or something for her in the Hall of Ancestors at Claws Temple Spa Resort (PC EU).

Yours with paws
Santie Claws

MartiniDaniels · March 2019

OP, sorry for your loss..

But this thread is sick, at least in my religion/national culture such thing like death of somebody from family is deeply personal and mourning is shared only with close relatives, friends, long-time co-workers, not with ton of random people from forum and named NPCs..

Tasear · March 2019

I lost my father when I was 23. I never got to meet him in person, but one day we found each other on Facebook. What helped me get through was realizing he wasn't actually gone as his memory and his genes are still with me.

My father though we never meet. I found we shared many things. Everyone talked about his kindness and gentle soul. We played Diablo 3. He liked anime. We both are a person not to call in months or maybe even years but never felt like any less of a realitionship though grandma would say differently...😓. Often saying how much, I am like my dad. I only ever had 3 phone calls with my father but he called me his baby girl and while he might not be with me anymore and our connection was short with all my heart and soul I am my father's daughter.

So take pride in lessons your mother taught you. How you affected person you are and will become. Make her proud to say that is my son. She isn't gone as long as you live up to your potential. Be strong for her.