Playing Eso with bad depression is impossible.

FriedEggSandwich · June 2016

SlayerTheDragon wrote: »

Listen to Heavy Metal. It fixes everything.

I like your sentiment. House music and DnB do it for me; make me wanna move and moving helps you feel good.

Clerics1985 · June 2016

I hope you feel better soon, coming from someone who has been alone since I was 18 (30 now) because of illnesses I'd rather not speak on, and never made public to my family because I would never want to ruin their lives. As a bottom tier Worker in America where Obamacare costs more than my car payment I would pull my family into a Deficit that would rock the family Name for generations. I have been Gaming my entire life as well. most of my fond memories, the ones I can remember anyway are particular to gaming, When I was a little boy me and my brother used to sneak into our parents room to play the Nintendo while the parents where sleeping. we'd have to turn the tv so as to not cast shadow over the bed and turn the volume all the way down then it was off to the races for us. I can't personally imagine how you feel because as I said I have been alone for half of my life. I can't feel your personal pain but you are not alone man, Depression Runs rampant in the world today and people are Becoming more and more complacent. I hope you understand that your wife loves you and she doesn't say those things intentionally to hurt you. I Find my peace in video games as well. People don't understand that when you live with something for so long, it's almost necessary to create a distraction so that you can come back to the problem with a Fresh Mindset.

Again I hope you and your wife the best from the U.S we're not all "Muricans"

@Love_Daggerfall

Egonieser · June 2016

Love_Daggerfall wrote: »

Van_0S wrote: »

OP, spend more time with your wife and see some comedy or something that will make her happy.
Best of lucky to you and may your wife be healthy!

I am very good at two things
Doing housework.
Being a very good husband.
Question
Who cares for the carer when the carer breaks down?

I know how you feel bud. I am a carer of a badly disabled wife and we struggle every single day, on top of it we have 2 kids I have to look after. Funny coincidence that the age gap between our spouses is almost identical. I am always strong - i just have a very good coping strategy but the thought always crosses my mind - what happens when I go under, who will look after the family? We have no outer family to help so we are on our own. That thought always worries me. On top of it all I have lots of health problems myself that are progressively getting worse, but I do not let myself get weak. Can't afford it.

Word of advice, seek out a professional's help - do not be afraid to do so. We're all humans and we all need help. Asking for help is better than doing nothing, trust me. Not sure which country are you from but in the UK, there's carer's direct (i'm part of it) and it addresses problems such as this because a lot of people are in a similar boat. Caring after somebody who is badly disabled can be very taxing mentally and physically until there's just no strength left, we can only do so much in the end of the day.

Stay strong brother!

AmakarGranaen · June 2016

yiasemi wrote: »

I am listening to Electric Wizard...

Hear me Lucifer!

Cazzy · June 2016

OK...

@Love_Daggerfall I think you're taking things the wrong way. People are trying to help direct you to a safer and more supportive environment. MMO forums can be more damaging than helpful sometimes. Although it's beautiful to see so many helpful comments

Here is my opinion. Just an opinion.

ESO should be an escape to enjoy. Not to run away to. I haven't been able to play today because my health won't permit it, so instead I take time to look after myself. I understand depression, I do. But sometimes the big, dark hole we're trapped in can only be escaped by us finding our own way out. It takes effort, sure. But you'll reach the top eventually and loved ones will be waiting for you in the sun...with wine...and cake.

My partner cares for me so I make sure he knows he's appreciated and loved. He wants to play Overwatch competitively so I support him. However, during my bad days when I can't see or speak and I'm vomiting blood - he will put me first.

If I'm able to later, I will play ESO and enjoy it. Until then I will continue to take care of myself (and have a little chocolate)

Please understand our words are meant to help not harm

Acrolas · June 2016

I can't say whether medication would help or not. I'm not a psychiatrist.

But isolation is one of depression's power sources. It amplifies feelings of loneliness and helplessness.

Take a few days to review local clubs and organizations you don't have to put a lot of commitment or time into. Places you can get out to for an hour and examine a theme or a subject with others. I've been a member of a toastmaster's club for years, as well as Audubon. Even if you hate interactions, getting out around people with no intentions of judging you is good. No dress to impress. No competing for grades or titles. Just people coming together. And sometimes the refreshments are amazing. Sometimes.

Maybe you'll take a newfound interest in something. Maybe you'll find a cause or an idea that really excites you. Do you know who will feel it? Your wife. People change people, and if you can find a new reason for living life, maybe she can, too. Maybe she's been waiting for you to take the first step because she feels she can't change or feels like a burden. Maybe all it would take is a candlelit picnic on the porch while you listen to her talk to make her feel like there's still a future.

You're allowed to love video games and online entertainment. But they're not a substitute for social bond and belonging. They will increase that feeling of isolation without your permission. And I'm not saying that you have to become a social butterfly overnight and know the best jokes and the best places to hang out. Small steps. Find one place where you can go for an hour to know you're not alone in all this. Then share that hope with your wife.

Dark_Dread · June 2016

I know some people that suffer from depression, and music can be an amazing inspiration to lift you up.

I have a hobby. I play the native american flute. I realized that my music helped some of the people I know that have depression feel better, so I made a youtube channel and posted it up. This kind of music is not for everyone but it has helped some of the people I know.

I am hoping I can help no matter what small of an ammount. Put this music, get some nice scents going, and have a good talk or massage your wife if she feels ok for personal contact. She might just be lashing out because of how she feels. When changing your senses it can really help pull you out of it.

I am not making money from it, I dont even want commercials on the music as I think its disruptive to people just trying to relax. I hope I can help in some way. Do a search for "felix rivera red wolf music" and it should pop right up. I'll try a link and hope it works. (Can't link the channel but I will link a song I made for my wife when she was felling down. You should be able get to the channel as I have about 7 songs in there so far.)
Hope you can change your mood through self meditation and personal interaction with your wife. Re-share what made you two inseparable, I know sometimes we forget when we are with someone for a long time and have to deal with life's blows. But you both can take it on together.

Here is the link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0QWdtf5YGE

Armitas · June 2016

Just a few helpful ideas.

Check any medication you are taking for possible side effects of depression.
Vitamin B-12 supplements can help a lot.
Don't go to depression fourms, it will depress you.
Don't listen to any music that is depressive.
Help someone in game or in life.

ZOS_AlanG · June 2016

Those being helpful, or discussing ways ESO (and gaming in general) can help, are welcome to continue. But attacking someone is not appropriate. We've removed a number of posts from this thread, as well as any replies.

Edit: We've removed a number of additional posts. Given the continued problems, we are locking this thread.