Playing Eso with bad depression is impossible.

Love_Daggerfall

I fell slowy into more and more depression today as l tried to play Elder Scrolls.
Having a very sick wife say she does not care if she lives or dies can realy hurt me on the inside.
I lay on my bed all wraped in a blanket.
I was willing to get a early night.
Now depression is starting to lift.
I felling much better.
Its time to pick up Elder Scrolls and live again.
I don't know what l will get up to tonight.
Elder Scrolls online is like the whole planet plays this game but l play alone.
I looked in the mirror and l am a middleaged guy and games are my life.
I don't feel like working in Elder Scrolls tonight.
I just want to hear music, happy music that feels my heart with joy.
I should walk around like a lost sole until l feel better.
Yes thats what l will do in Elder Scrolls tonight. Bye

greylox

Chin up dude, always someone worse off than you etc.

Cazzy

Hey! I really appreciate and understand your struggle, but I feel a public MMO forum may not be the best place to talk about such matters. There are many, many forums out there who specialise in depression with many other people who can connect and support you.

I know it's a hard battle to fight. Take good care

RDMyers65b14_ESO

I know full well how difficult it is to live with depression as I have done so my entire life. ESO can both help you and hurt you. It can be the thing that can make you happier as in unlocking a difficult achievement and thus a feeling of accomplishment, but it can cause unhappiness as it can distract you from the truly important things in life. It sounds like your wife needs you to me. As far as playing alone, that can be rectified by joining a guild. It may take a while to find the right one but you do have five guild slots and there is no disgrace for leaving one that doesn't fit your needs. The choice is yours. If you want to listen to happy music, try YouTube. Although the music in the game is great, I would be hesitant to call it happy.

But, dude, take it from a 50 year old divorced woman. Get up from the game and go hug your wife. Just sit down and let her vent. Let her know that you love her. Really listen to her, not just pretend. Be there for her. She is far more important than the game. If it hurts you to hear that she doesn't care if she lives or dies then find out what it is that she needs. You chose her to be your life partner, now it is time to show her how much she means to you. Give her a reason to want to live. Relationships take work, but the rewards are worth everything. I hope she gets better soon. Illnesses are never easy. If it is something that won't get better, then make the most of every second that you have. However, don't smother. Even people who are dying sometimes need space occasionally. I wish both you and your wife the best.

And, as someone above said, try a support Forum. Www.dailystrenght.com is a good one.

Love_Daggerfall

RDMyers65b14_ESO wrote: »

I know full well how difficult it is to live with depression as I have done so my entire life. ESO can both help you and hurt you. It can be the thing that can make you happier as in unlocking a difficult achievement and thus a feeling of accomplishment, but it can cause unhappiness as it can distract you from the truly important things in life. It sounds like your wife needs you to me. As far as playing alone, that can be rectified by joining a guild. It may take a while to find the right one but you do have five guild slots and there is no disgrace for leaving one that doesn't fit your needs. The choice is yours. If you want to listen to happy music, try YouTube. Although the music in the game is great, I would be hesitant to call it happy.

But, dude, take it from a 50 year old divorced woman. Get up from the game and go hug your wife. Just sit down and let her vent. Let her know that you love her. Really listen to her, not just pretend. Be there for her. She is far more important than the game. If it hurts you to hear that she doesn't care if she lives or dies then find out what it is that she needs. You chose her to be your life partner, now it is time to show her how much she means to you. Give her a reason to want to live. Relationships take work, but the rewards are worth everything. I hope she gets better soon. Illnesses are never easy. If it is something that won't get better, then make the most of every second that you have. However, don't smother. Even people who are dying sometimes need space occasionally. I wish both you and your wife the best.

And, as someone above said, try a support Forum. Www.dailystrenght.com is a good one.

My wife has the worst athma l have seen any human in my whole life have.
I have been bannd from every forum in my life apart from Elder Scrolls Online and Destiny Forums. Concidering Xbox One NA servers are down l will visit www.dailystrenght.com now but there is a hell of a lot of people l don't fit in with.
I been married 22 years my wife is 67 and l'm all most 46.
Games are my life that's why l'm here.
Thanks for sharing.
For everyone else.
People like me have been playing games longer then you have been living.
When much older gamers get problems of cause its going ti come out in our game playing and forum talk.
Edler Scrolls Online forums are the most kindest and caring people l have ever experinced there even more understanding then any church.
Bye

SlayerTheDragon

Listen to Heavy Metal. It fixes everything.

Smileybones

Cheers, @Love_Daggerfall !

Van_0S

OP, spend more time with your wife and see some comedy or something that will make her happy.
Best of lucky to you and may your wife be healthy!

Love_Daggerfall

SlayerTheDragon wrote: »

Listen to Heavy Metal. It fixes everything.

At lest you can sing your heart out with heavy metal and when you cry everyone thinks its the music.
But who are we kidding....

Love_Daggerfall

Smileybones wrote: »

Cheers, @Love_Daggerfall !

I am happy now.
I been using the Radio app trunein to radio Jump 106.9 Cannada bet radio music ever.

Love_Daggerfall

Van_0S wrote: »

OP, spend more time with your wife and see some comedy or something that will make her happy.
Best of lucky to you and may your wife be healthy!

I am very good at two things
Doing housework.
Being a very good husband.
Question
Who cares for the carer when the carer breaks down?

Love_Daggerfall

RDMyers65b14_ESO wrote: »

And, as someone above said, try a support Forum. Www.dailystrenght.com is a good one.

I went to www.dailystrength.org
I tried joining but there online forms would not accept me.
I emailed there feedback suport.
I hope they will help....

Crowzer

Whereas post here, you should go see someone that can help you.

Cazzy

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better Maybe speaking to your doctor would be a good idea too? If you haven't already, that is.

Just remember that this is a forum where we discuss a game and there will be people who won't necessarily help with depression

Duiwel

Saw a video on FB last night ( just a random friend who shared it ) but I think it will help you mate:

The video basically said YOU ARE NOT DEPRESSED

You may have depression now, but you are like the sky and depression is like the clouds. They come and go, sometimes they are many, dark and grey sometimes they are few and little.

But you remain even on days where there are no clouds.

So just start the positive choice mate.

Turelus

@Love_Daggerfall although it's an EVE Online initiative please check this Reddit post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/eve/wiki/broadcast4reps

Breadcast4reps is an EVE community project for helping people with mental health problems or those that just need to talk with someone. They will have no problems if you reach out to them as a fellow gamer.

LiquidSchwartz

At least u got a wife

yiasemi

As a 50 year old who did a while back lose her love of many years but is currently in a much happier place, I am listening to Electric Wizard a lot for some reason right now and Liquid Schwartz will one day be a blushing bride/groom/both.. Just good to remember we are all here for different reasons, and sometimes I just stroll along an in-game beach, there's some good fishing among the shipwrecks of Khenarthi's Roost.
To the OP all the best to you and your wife, life can be really twisty sometimes. But you don't need us to tell you that. I hope I don't steal YOUR treasure chest.

Love_Daggerfall

yiasemi wrote: »

As a 50 year old who did a while back lose her love of many years but is currently in a much happier place, I am listening to Electric Wizard a lot for some reason right now and Liquid Schwartz will one day be a blushing bride/groom/both.. Just good to remember we are all here for different reasons, and sometimes I just stroll along an in-game beach, there's some good fishing among the shipwrecks of Khenarthi's Roost.
To the OP all the best to you and your wife, life can be really twisty sometimes. But you don't need us to tell you that. I hope I don't steal YOUR treasure chest.

Thanks for being nice to me.
I'm hosting Races on GTA 5 because the Xbox One NA servers are turned off.
Has the Xbox One EU servers been turned back on?
Yesterday they was turned off all day.

vyrusb23

General Discussion on the ESO forums in not the place for this. Look, I'm not trying to be mean or insensitive, but this is becoming a daily thing with you. Every day you come to this forum and have wild mood swings. You really need to see your doctor and get on some prescription medication to sort this out. And if you're already on medication, perhaps your regiment needs to be reviewed by your mental health professional. Be open and frank with your doctor, and he/she will hopfully be able to adjust your medication. There are also many resources out there for people who suffer from depression.

"Samaritans free, confidential, 24-hour emotional support and crisis response hotline service is available on an immediate and ongoing basis to help people who are dealing with every kind of problem, illness, trauma or loss as they try to cope with their difficulties."
http://samaritansnyc.org/24-hour-crisis-hotline/

This website also has some good resources as well as a hotline you can call under the "contact us" section.
http://familyaware.org/contact-us/

I noticed you said you listen to a Canadian radio staion. Do you live in Canada, or do you live in the US? Or perhaps you live in an entirely different country?

Here is a website that allows you to put your country in and find a crisis line near you.
http://www.yourlifecounts.org/need-help/crisis-lines

Question: You say you've been banned from every forum you've ever been to except for this one and the Destiny forums. There has to be a reason for this. Why do you keep getting banned from online forums? There must be some kind of behavior or action that you repeatedly do that causes you to get banned.

I'm truly sorry for your wife. I also have asthma pretty bad, so I know what it's like to feel as though you are suffocating with no recourse. It really sucks. Is her asthma medicated? Does she see a doctor for this? It sounds like maybe she should also be on some depression medication if she repeatedly expresses wishes to die.

These are all things that YOU have to take the initiative on. Who cares for those who care? My answer would be: professionals. Go see a professioinal. Get help for this. There are many resources at your disposal. You have to take the initiative on this or you will never see relief. Coming to the ESO forums and looking for pity from a group of gamers is not going to help you in the long run (or really even in the short term). It will only lead to trolls and worsening depression.

Go. Get. Help.

ArchMikem

Love_Daggerfall wrote: »

I fell slowy into more and more depression today as l tried to play Elder Scrolls.
Having a very sick wife say she does not care if she lives or dies can realy hurt me on the inside.
I looked in the mirror and l am a middleaged guy and games are my life.

Your wife should be your life.

Dude if she says things like that you need to be there for her and this game needs to take a VERY far back seat.

Get off this forum and go be with your wife.

Elsonso

Love_Daggerfall wrote: »

I fell slowy into more and more depression today as l tried to play Elder Scrolls.
Having a very sick wife say she does not care if she lives or dies can realy hurt me on the inside.
I lay on my bed all wraped in a blanket.
I was willing to get a early night.
Now depression is starting to lift.
I felling much better.
Its time to pick up Elder Scrolls and live again.
I don't know what l will get up to tonight.
Elder Scrolls online is like the whole planet plays this game but l play alone.
I looked in the mirror and l am a middleaged guy and games are my life.
I don't feel like working in Elder Scrolls tonight.
I just want to hear music, happy music that feels my heart with joy.
I should walk around like a lost sole until l feel better.
Yes thats what l will do in Elder Scrolls tonight. Bye

1. @vyrusb23 is right. You need to talk to someone about your feelings and situation, in person.

2. In a non-clinical setting, ESO can be effective as a stress reduction tool when doing things like farming fish and materials in an area where it is not necessary to fight, of narrowly evade, monsters.

Rex-Umbra

Hope you feel better soon. ESO can be a great escape when life has you down.

bloodenragedb14_ESO

greylox wrote: »

Chin up dude, always someone worse off than you etc.

saying that will never make a person that is depressed feel better, when you say that, all a depressed person hears is:

"your feelings are invalidated because they are trivial when compared to other peoples suffering, which is so bad it should make you feel even more depressed"

never tell a depressed person 'someone has it worse off than you' as it wont help and will only exacerbate the problem.

Love_Daggerfall

Ok ESO staff l know when l am not wanted.
How do l delete my account on these forums?
I have had enough.
I will remove my account before you bann me.

GreenhaloX

Hey man.. hope your days get better. I hear you. ESO just helps get through the rest of the day better, especially, after a long day at work, and I'm too lazy to go to the gym. You are a good man for staying by your wife's side and taking care of her the best that you can. My girlfriend left me recently because she complained a lot that I pay more attention to ESO than her. She finally got fed up.. after putting up with me from Dragon Age Inquisition, The Witcher 3. She finally had it with me with ESO. Hey, life goes on. I'm looking now for another good girlfriend. Maybe there is a good Barbie somewhere down under over there. Haaa! Yes, please do call and talk to someone. In the meantime, keep enjoying ESO and your fishing times. Definitely relaxing fishing in-game.. just like in real life.

vyrusb23

Love_Daggerfall wrote: »

Ok ESO staff l know when l am not wanted.
How do l delete my account on these forums?
I have had enough.
I will remove my account before you bann me.

1. You can't delete your account.
2. We are not ESO staff. We are customers.
3. Running away from your problems will only make them worse.

People are here trying to give you legitimate help and encouragement. Go get some professional help and then come back to the ESO community and let us know how you're doing. I genuinely hope that you can get your life together and get on the right track.

BlackSparrow

Love_Daggerfall wrote: »

Ok ESO staff l know when l am not wanted.
How do l delete my account on these forums?
I have had enough.
I will remove my account before you bann me.

What about this thread say you're not wanted? Everyone is being supportive, and what little criticism there is here in no way indicates you are not wanted.

As someone who also struggles with depression (and anxiety to boot... that's a fun combination), I really do think you and your wife should both talk to a professional. Not because you're not wanted here, but because we just don't have the tools to help you. A good therapist can help give you the tools to help you help yourselves... methods of coping outside completely burying yourself in video games. Video games are fine for catharsis and stress relief, but it sounds like both you and your wife need more than that. A professional can help you figure out what, exactly, is going on in your head and give you the help you need, because depression is a big black hole that you just can't be expected to pull yourself out of alone. And it's even harder to pull yourself out when your significant other is dealing with suicidal thoughts. Therefore, it's not derogatory to tell you that it sounds like you should look for a therapist. As someone who's been there, I cannot stress enough how much it helps.

Best of luck with it, in any case.

Love_Daggerfall

GreenhaloX wrote: »

Hey man.. hope your days get better. I hear you. ESO just helps get through the rest of the day better, especially, after a long day at work, and I'm too lazy to go to the gym. You are a good man for staying by your wife's side and taking care of her the best that you can. My girlfriend left me recently because she complained a lot that I pay more attention to ESO than her. She finally got fed up.. after putting up with me from Dragon Age Inquisition, The Witcher 3. She finally had it with me with ESO. Hey, life goes on. I'm looking now for another good girlfriend. Maybe there is a good Barbie somewhere down under over there. Haaa! Yes, please do call and talk to someone. In the meantime, keep enjoying ESO and your fishing times. Definitely relaxing fishing in-game.. just like in real life.

Normaly ESO forums are very understanding and kind.
Them them that are looking for reasons to hate me here is some everdance.
1 l am on a very dagerouse crasy persons pension doctors have said l am a danger to myself and others.
2 l have a lawbreaking record with the Nambour Police station.
3 l have been in trouble with the Xbox One Police so many times l have forgotten.
Thats all l can remember right now.

teladoy

Leave the games and help your wife get out of the hole. Do something.

Love_Daggerfall

teladoy wrote: »

Leave the games and help your wife get out of the hole. Do something.

My wife sits next to me of a night when l do fishing.
It gives us togetherness.
Its nice.