So I don't know if this the proper section to post a thread like this in(mods feel free to move it if it fits somewhere else) but I just need to vent a little.
To be clear, I'm not mad, Just upset and very confused.
I was in this guild called [snip], it was a very social guild with daily events both in game and out. I actually enjoyed participating alot in them and everyone seemed friendly and open with me. Then I think it was 4 or 5 days after I joined after just finishing a guild pvp event, I was suddenly kicked from the discord server and guild with ZERO EXPLANATION.
To say i was confused would be an understatement. I tried PMing the guild leader on discord to ask what I did wrong only to find none of my messages going through even though we had at least one server in common which meant he/she outright blocked me via discord. This confused me even more so and I began trying to go over in my minds eye the entire event trying to find SOMETHING I may have said or done to warrant being kicked only to draw up a weak explanation of possibly sounding like I was trying to run things since i would often suggest event ideas.
Yet this didn't seem to add up in my mind since I was merely suggesting, not trying to tell anyone in some tone or way that made it sound like i was trying to sound as if i was in charge. At least to my knowledge I wasn't. Desperate for at the very least, an explanation to get some kind of closure to the confusion and sadness i was feeling since I really did like the guild, (it was fun, social and the event ideas while not exactly perfectly executed, still were fun to take part in.) I asked a friend who was in the guild to ask around for an explanation.
The explanation I got DID NOT give me closure, in fact, it confused me even more. According to my friend, the guild leader supposedly had gotten several reports of me annoying other guild members, making them not want to take part in events and after the supposed 4th report they said they kicked me. This as i said, confused me even more, because in voice chat NO ONE gave even the slightest hint of sounding annoyed or even a subtle remark that I had annoyed them. In fact I was in mid-conversation with some guildies when I was suddenly kicked from the discord and shortly after, the guild itself.
With all this said, I am still a little depressed and upset. It would have been one thing if people had openly told me I was being annoying or "too negative" but there was no warning and no explanation. So I'm just left here almost completely losing my drive to continue playing eso due to this less than pleasant experience.
If you've read this far, thank you. I don't expect any sympathy from anyone who reads this, in fact, that would probably make me feel worse. I just needed to vent somewhere people could see my feelings and thoughts.
[Edit to remove guild name.]
ZOS_GregoryV wrote: »Greetings!
While we can understand that it can be rather upsetting, getting removed from a guild. However, we ask that said guild not be mentioned by named as it is considered Naming and Shaming. Naming and Shaming is a violation of the Community Rules, and is stated as follows:If there may be any questions in regards to the rules, please take a few moments to review them here.
- Naming-and-Shaming: We do not allow posts or threads that are created for the purpose of “naming-and-shaming” other community member(s). “Naming-and-shaming” is the act of creating a post to call out an individual or group by name, and making them the subject of public accusation, ridicule and/or shaming. Generally, naming-and-shaming involves an in-game situation and/or Terms of Service violation, which the ESO Community Team is unable to assist with. A certain amount of rivalry and competitive razzing is healthy for any game community, especially one with PVP elements, but naming-and-shaming goes well beyond that. It typically elevates to a point where the subject feels legitimately harassed. We believe that naming-and-shaming posts and threads can be abused and are very harmful to the community. We also don't feel that publicly calling out or accusing others by name on our forums is in spirit of the game or our community. If you genuinely believe someone has violated our Terms of Service, you should report them in-game via the support interface — do not bring the situation onto the official ESO community forums.
Thank you for your understanding,
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FeedbackOnly wrote: »A good leader would talk to their member if there was a problem like this before kicking. You had a bad leader and I am sorry for you.
SammyKhajit wrote: »Sorry OP for your experience.
Please, ZOS, make sure guild experience is supportive and friendly before you launch into the Zenithar event in June.
Their loss and don't sweat it. It could be anything, despite what you're told officially/unofficially. I once had a guild kick me the first DAY with NO reason given. A friend(who got me to join the guild) had let me know according to discussion later it was my ACCENT over voice chat. (While I was born and spent the first 11 years on military bases all over, a few decades in Alabama and some more decades in Texas has given me a bit of a southern twang) apparently ALL southern people are racist/sexists bigots with low a low IQ according to the guild leader. After laughing at the irony in THAT statement vs their action I moved to greener pastures.(I AM Caucasian, but my wonderful wife is AA and we have beautiful children/grandchildren. And you now know more about me than that guild leader that kicked me)
Again, their loss and don't sweat it as it could just be an issue on THEIR end.
Just affirms my belief that guilds aren't places worth joining..
JanTanhide wrote: »Their loss and don't sweat it. It could be anything, despite what you're told officially/unofficially. I once had a guild kick me the first DAY with NO reason given. A friend(who got me to join the guild) had let me know according to discussion later it was my ACCENT over voice chat. (While I was born and spent the first 11 years on military bases all over, a few decades in Alabama and some more decades in Texas has given me a bit of a southern twang) apparently ALL southern people are racist/sexists bigots with low a low IQ according to the guild leader. After laughing at the irony in THAT statement vs their action I moved to greener pastures.(I AM Caucasian, but my wonderful wife is AA and we have beautiful children/grandchildren. And you now know more about me than that guild leader that kicked me)
Again, their loss and don't sweat it as it could just be an issue on THEIR end.
Geez! You "sound" like me. At least your upbringing. I too was a military brat and lived all over the world and the U.S. with the latter part of my young life (12 to 19) growing up in Alabama. I had already developed my accent so it wasn't "Suthern" if you will and I was a bit ostracized for NOT having the Suthern accent. LOL.
Kicking you from a guild BECAUSE of your accent is ridiculous. You have to wonder what goes through a person's mind that thinks that way.
Have a good day!
Welcome to reality. Many Guilds that care about a pleasant atmosphere inside have dictatorial rules and prohibit freedom of speech and any opinion that differs from the correct opinion. And the right opinion is the opinion of the guild leader. If you see in the description of the guild that it is friendly, then be sure that in this chocolate factory there are cruel overseers around every corner, evaluating your every word and so that your elf cap is painted in the right color
Join guilds where there is no rigid framework of communication. There people are honest, reasoned criticism and suggestions are welcome.
I've been a guild leader for several years now. And I've never kicked out a person who criticized me. We only forbid direct insults to other players. We fight together, rejoice together, quarrel and make up. We don't have a fabulous atmosphere, but we also don't have double standards and a Blade of Woe up our sleeve.