Are you a socially awkward ESO gamer?

Runschei

Socially awkward? More like I won't shut the floppety flop up and I can talk about anything with anyone.

Uriel_Nocturne

MLGProPlayer wrote: »

Megabear wrote: »

The poll is ANONYMOUS.

Consider this. Long ago, avid gamers were generally considered at least a bit nerdy and/or socially awkward, at least it was so when I went to school in the 90's. Not something you'd want to tell your potential g/f if you know what I mean. It's still true.

Nothing has really changed from my experience. I'm a grown man now (26 years old), and most of my friends have stopped gaming 10+ years ago (I know very few gamers anymore). People often think I'm joking when I tell them I still play video games. They say it's time to "grow up" and become an adult. They can bite me.

I'm 40 and I have no plans to stop Gaming until I just can't use my hands anymore. Or I die.

Whichever one comes first.

Also; I don't think it's an "adult v. kid" issue. I'm 40, but I'm just a 12-year old in an adult's body. Gaming is a hobby like any other hobby. And like any other hobby, this is the one that appeals to me the greatest, and so I choose to sink my disposable income and free time into it.

Anyone who tells you that Gaming (whether video games or table-top games) is "childish", laugh at them and flick a booger on them.

They'll never bother you about it again. Guaranteed.

FloppyTouch

Runschei wrote: »

Socially awkward? More like I won't shut the floppety flop up and I can talk about anything with anyone.

my friends call me this in game you know to much

Ch4mpTW

Uriel_Nocturne wrote: »

MLGProPlayer wrote: »

Megabear wrote: »

The poll is ANONYMOUS.

Consider this. Long ago, avid gamers were generally considered at least a bit nerdy and/or socially awkward, at least it was so when I went to school in the 90's. Not something you'd want to tell your potential g/f if you know what I mean. It's still true.

Nothing has really changed from my experience. I'm a grown man now (26 years old), and most of my friends have stopped gaming 10+ years ago (I know very few gamers anymore). People often think I'm joking when I tell them I still play video games. They say it's time to "grow up" and become an adult. They can bite me.

I'm 40 and I have no plans to stop Gaming until I just can't use my hands anymore. Or I die.

Whichever one comes first.

Also; I don't think it's an "adult v. kid" issue. I'm 40, but I'm just a 12-year old in an adult's body. Gaming is a hobby like any other hobby. And like any other hobby, this is the one that appeals to me the greatest, and so I choose to sink my disposable income and free time into it.

Anyone who tells you that Gaming (whether video games or table-top games) is "childish", laugh at them and flick a booger on them.

They'll never bother you about it again. Guaranteed.

I’ve never quite understood the whole “grown-up mentality” as some like to put it. The entire concept of abandoning what you are passionate about simply due to age is trivial to me. Let alone doing what you enjoy. If you aren’t bothering or harming anyone, what right does someone have to say that you should cease said behavior and thought patterns? Especially if you’re in the comfort of your own home.

Bruh, I am in mid-20’s and still get busy with fruit snacks and cereal. Captain Crunch and Gushers are amongst my favorite snacks. Deadass. Throw on some Crunchyroll, or fire-up some ESO to go with said snacks too!? Shiiiiiit. I’m good for many hours straight. Don’t need anything else. Except maybe some strawberry milk. Maybe.

Uriel_Nocturne

Ch4mpTW wrote: »

Uriel_Nocturne wrote: »

MLGProPlayer wrote: »

Megabear wrote: »

The poll is ANONYMOUS.

Consider this. Long ago, avid gamers were generally considered at least a bit nerdy and/or socially awkward, at least it was so when I went to school in the 90's. Not something you'd want to tell your potential g/f if you know what I mean. It's still true.

Nothing has really changed from my experience. I'm a grown man now (26 years old), and most of my friends have stopped gaming 10+ years ago (I know very few gamers anymore). People often think I'm joking when I tell them I still play video games. They say it's time to "grow up" and become an adult. They can bite me.

I'm 40 and I have no plans to stop Gaming until I just can't use my hands anymore. Or I die.

Whichever one comes first.

Also; I don't think it's an "adult v. kid" issue. I'm 40, but I'm just a 12-year old in an adult's body. Gaming is a hobby like any other hobby. And like any other hobby, this is the one that appeals to me the greatest, and so I choose to sink my disposable income and free time into it.

Anyone who tells you that Gaming (whether video games or table-top games) is "childish", laugh at them and flick a booger on them.

They'll never bother you about it again. Guaranteed.

I’ve never quite understood the whole “grown-up mentality” as some like to put it. The entire concept of abandoning what you are passionate about simply due to age is trivial to me. Let alone doing what you enjoy. If you aren’t bothering or harming anyone, what right does someone have to say that you should cease said behavior and thought patterns? Especially if you’re in the comfort of your own home.

Bruh, I am in mid-20’s and still get busy with fruit snacks and cereal. Captain Crunch and Gushers are amongst my favorite snacks. Deadass. Throw on some Crunchyroll, or fire-up some ESO to go with said snacks too!? Shiiiiiit. I’m good for many hours straight. Don’t need anything else. Except maybe some strawberry milk. Maybe.

Crunchyroll is sooooooo good!

Love that app!

rotaugen454

Slick_007 wrote: »

ookami007 wrote: »

Am I a geek/nerd? TOTALLY. I can quote Princess Bridge, Monty Python, Spaceballs, Harry Potter and Lord of the Rings with the best of them. And yes... I TOTALLY saw Thor Ragnrock the opening night!

you must be so nerdy to quote princess bridge. i havent even heard of that one.

"My name is Inigo Montoya, you bridgegated my father, prepare to die..."

Ilsabet

Beardimus wrote: »

I am surprised in an MMO how many people are scared of using the mic. Even in small group content were comms is needed.

Assume its a game genre thing as in FPS you get too many on it who should be lol playing tunes down the mic and kids screaming

Speaking in real time can be more nerve-wracking than text where you have time to think about what you're going to say and type it out before you send it. So I can see where voice comm would create more anxiety for people who are worried about what other people will think of them, especially when you get into natural insecurities about having a weird voice or what people will say when they hear a girl or something. Or just being worried that they'll say something stupid. People will be reluctant to even try it based on preconceived fears about it, even if it's not that bad in actual practice.

My experience with previous games is also that voice chats remove a layer of personal privacy and can lead to awkwardness in certain groups where having heard someone's voice (and having commentary on their accent, or how sexy they sound, or whatever) can be a kind of social trophy in a way. I haven't encountered that at all in ESO, aside from one instance where a guy made some offhand comment about someone sounding hot. But fortunately it's been more about the practical side of taking care of business, and the people I'm in voice chat with regularly are fine upstanding people (except for the thing where they're weirdos, but that's its own kettle of bananas).

Jade1986

Uriel_Nocturne wrote: »

Yeah, I am.

I don't trust people enough to "go out and make friends"...

Not exactly easy after school tbh.

Megabear

geonsocal wrote: »

Cadbury wrote: »

I remember being introduced to D&D at 6 by my babysitter. I would watch her and friends play and really get engrossed into the story. That pretty much was the gateway for me into the culture

hahahahahahaha...yes, d&d was a gateway drug for many of us in to the world of role playing fantasy...

that and those late night HBO specials in the 90's...

I never even knew about D&D. If I had known I would have gobbled it up because I was really into board games. Somehow I just never got in touch with D&D culture.

Megabear

Narvuntien wrote: »

That is a strange slang used in this question.

'I was, but I am no longer"

I am still a nerd and even more of a geek than I was when I was younger but my ability to commuicate with people is greatly improved. Except my grammer and spelling and unending typos makes doing it in text to be tricky.

Maybe, i talk a little too much about my hobbies still, but I am much better at understanding when to stop.

I still have trouble if I am put into unfamiliar places or made uncomfortable. And I have a bunch of annoying ticks. Like repeating some joke or point I made I thought was good but no one responded to. I need to stop that.

I agree about the "I was, but I am no longer", but I figured it's only fair I included to even the two sides out. Personally if you're a nerd at heart there is no escaping it lol.

Esha76

I am exceedingly socially awkward. I noticed someone mentioned Warhammer 40k in an earlier post... I've been painting those things my whole life, but hardly ever played the game, as human interaction terrifies me.

I am in 4 social guilds, and I barely speak in any of them. A lot of that has to do with the fact I am busy playing the game and have things to do in game, no time for yapping. But still, even when I do have time to talk, I rarely do. I'm just that uncomfortable with human interaction, even electronically in a game that I love. I have been making an effort lately, but the conversation rarely takes off and I just go back to lurking and playing the game.

I much prefer the company of animals, especially cats. I'd be more comfortable locked in a cage with a lion, tiger, or bear than with a human.

tinythinker

Hmm. I prefer to keep to myself mostly unless there is a person or conversation I find interesting. Not a fan of being social just because or for ulterior motives yet might suddenly in the right circumstances be very "on" in a group. Can be a great addition to a small circle as comic relief (think Kosmo Kramer blended with George Costanza then filtered into the absent-minded professor).

Old school nerd, though most of what made me geeky/nerdy is popular now (computer games, D&D, high fantasy and scifi novels esp Lord of the Rings, Star Wars & Star Trek fantalk, Marvel comics, etc, etc.) But don't tend to congregate with other nerds.

Also had a self-imposed ban on MMORPGs until 2014 and it took a few months after seriously playing one to accept a guild invite and nearly a year to use listen-only voice comms. Still keep the Mic muted. Yet I blabber walls of text with my ideas and opinions on forums like this.

So depending on the day I might choose nearly any one of those poll options.

Edited for typos

Actually_Goku

This is a strange question for me

I guess I sort of am, because when I play games online, and I'm required to use a mic or play with people I don't know IRL, I am sort of hesitant..?

I'm not socially awkward at all in person, as a general rule I'd say I'm a pretty eccentric person, really. I'm involved in two different sports clubs locally (football and basketball) I'm a team leader at my job... I go to the gym a lot, I'm confident AF with women (accepted a long time ago that you can't catch em all )

But yeah, get me on a mic with strangers and I kind of do feel uncomfortable, which is weird!

ChimeraDeux

I have a social anxiety disorder and a moderate stutter. Social interaction is awkward to say the least for me. I prefer to text chat than use Discord or Teamspeak, but that does make running group content tedious. I tend to avoid the group stuff.
My job requires me to interact with alot of people which is mentally exhausting, so by the time I get home and can play, I don't feel like talking with anyone.

Introverts unite! Separately...

Uriel_Nocturne

ChimeraDeux wrote: »

Introverts unite! Separately...

At different times...

EvilAutoTech

I actually get, well not quite angry but close, when strangers just start talking to me. I mean, who do they think they are to just start talking to me? Just because I work for the evil empire, so not cool.

geonsocal

geonsocal

nimander99

I was literally "In the Closet" about my nerdom... I hid it from all my friends, my family. I would go out of my way to avoid anyone finding out I was into AD&D, other RPG's, Magic the Gathering etc.

Kinda funny now... Considering its completely accepted.

I was born 15 years too soon.

Or was I just ahead of my time?

you decide.

Ilithyania

Mesa socially awkward?

Megabear

mommadani907 wrote: »

I don't people well. But it doesn't really bother me and I rather enjoy less peopling. People who just randomly show up at my house exhaust me, because I have to be "on" when I'd rather be off. I rarely interact in game, or when watching people stream. It isn't that I don't want to interact, or don't want to ever know any of you ever, I just can't get past the feeling weird about talking "live" part. I'm just more reserved around people I don't know, and apparently that extends to through the screen, not just face to face. Like, I'm fine here. I can do this or Facebook or Twitter or whatever else that isn't quite really interacting with people directly. And I spook easy. So that's helpful too.

I can totally relate. People exhaust me simply for being around me.

CavalryPK

I am a table.

central_scrutinizer

Nah, but lots of people apparently think I am.

I just hate voice chat. I don't care about it at all, and I don't need it either most of the time. I rarely ever hear anybody say anything that I didn't already know, observe or anticipate.

I just had the last of my kids move out not long ago and after 25+ years of not using a specific natural mood enhancer, I've began to use this natural remedy again, and I really, really like to listen to music and play ESO while I do that.
I'm also decades behind on music and never really used the information age to discover new/unknown stuff, because a lot of the stuff I like that has lyrics isn't appropriate around children which I have many of of and we've mostly been listening to their stuff in my house for a long time, so I have lots of music to listen to.
And when my wife is gone, I like to shake the walls of this place. There is no way that I could hear anybody saying anything, and nobody could hear me either.

Also I haven't found a mic I like either. Table/clip ons have all seemed to be awful/have various problems, and as for headsets, I don't actually like wearing crap on my head while indoors.

So I don't join any chats outside of established progression nights if I can help it, unless I'm in a group/raid with a new or unsure player, then I join just so they don't have to be typing and reading while learning stuff.

I'm not really anti-social, I just don't like the platform that most people use. I'll blab in text chat forever though if I'm talking to somebody who I know is content with text communication.

geonsocal

oh yeah...naturally it sounds like -

Alchemical

I am literally autistic.

It's not a meme, or an insult. I literally have not idea how to talk to people and say wildly inappropriate and offensive things without realizing it /constantly/. I'm often caught in conflict with wanting to talk to people about things I'm interested, like lore, but also having no regard for their input or personal boundaries.

Megabear

Alchemical wrote: »

I am literally autistic.

It's not a meme, or an insult. I literally have not idea how to talk to people and say wildly inappropriate and offensive things without realizing it /constantly/. I'm often caught in conflict with wanting to talk to people about things I'm interested, like lore, but also having no regard for their input or personal boundaries.

There are more people like you (us) than you could possibly imagine.

missjackieb14_ESO

I'm a nerd. I'm also a huge gamer. And I don't give two flippin' poopies if anyone gives me flack about it.

LadyAstrum

Socially awkward, no. Socially ambivalent, yes.

Eatmyface

I love people and socialising... I got into the game after a sporting injury left me on my back on the couch for 4 months earlier this year. Didn't even own my PS4 until then.

Misperception was that I wouldn't enjoy/have anything in common with the type of people who were also playing, so I stayed away from guilds etc. WRONG.

I enjoy people in general, and different people are interesting.