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Secret Sex

ProfesseurFreder
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How many men out there play as women -- and how many women play as men?

My main character is pretty much reflective of me, and is an older male. But I do have three characters that I play a lot, and one of them is female. I don't think of her as reflective of me, I think of her as a character that I am playing. But I must say -- it is quite amusing to watch how young male players (I'm assuming -- and if this post is about anything, it's about how assuming is dangerous) react and try to interact with me when they _think_ I am a woman! Some of them behave like complete fools.

There's a lesson in there somewhere....

:To assume is to fool oneself." -- Charlie Chan.
"Nothing by which all human passion and hope and folly can be mirrored and then proved ever was just a game."
-- William Faulkner.
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    I mainly play a female character, although I am male IRL. I've even been invited to a female-only guild, although I made sure to tell the truth about my gender, and got put into a different guild.

    But something I learned to do was not to assume people's genders in ESO. I figured that most players were male, but there are a lot of female players, much more than I expected.
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  • NordSwordnBoard
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    My main is also supposed to be like me. The next 6 toons I made were also all male, then I deleted two, and my last two are both women.
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  • Elsonso
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    For MMO games, I split 50-50, although not religiously.
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  • SirAndy
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    I have 4 mains, 3 are male (like me) and one is female.

    None of them looks like me, i play games to escape reality, not replicate it ...
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    SirAndy wrote: »
    I have 4 mains, 3 are male (like me) and one is female.

    None of them looks like me, i play games to escape reality, not replicate it ...
    biggrin.gif

    Making the female one look like you might qualify as an escape from reality... :smile:
    2022: Qu'ils mangent de la brioche
    "Tamriel One was fun and engaging, Tamriel Once .... not so much." - Jaraal, March 9, 2022
    "Stop treating the combat in this game as some sort of lab experiment." - code65536, July 18, 2022
    Best summary of Update 35: "SAY NO TO MUSTARD IN YOUR DOUGHNUT !" - pklemming, August 9, 2022.

    ><)))*>

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  • Rohamad_Ali
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    I don't know why but I always make male characters since I'm a male . I'm not really concerned who plays what just my preference .
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    I have 6 female and 2 male characters.
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  • SirAndy
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    SirAndy wrote: »
    I have 4 mains, 3 are male (like me) and one is female.
    None of them looks like me, i play games to escape reality, not replicate it ...
    biggrin.gif
    Making the female one look like you might qualify as an escape from reality... :smile:
    That would probably qualify as crimes against humanity elfmanity ...
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  • DHale
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    Although a dude I have 6 male 6 female toons. But would rather stare at a female all day given the choice.
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  • Firerock2
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    SirAndy wrote: »
    SirAndy wrote: »
    I have 4 mains, 3 are male (like me) and one is female.
    None of them looks like me, i play games to escape reality, not replicate it ...
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    Making the female one look like you might qualify as an escape from reality... :smile:
    That would probably qualify as crimes against humanity elfmanity ...
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  • Rouven
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    Minalan wrote: »
    Given the title of this thread, it completely failed to deliver.

    But answer 21 might really surprise you!
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    I play both gender characters, I have done pen and paper RP for years so it hardly even crosses my mind now.
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  • FuriousStar
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    SirAndy wrote: »
    Rouven wrote: »
    Minalan wrote: »
    Given the title of this thread, it completely failed to deliver.
    But answer 21 might really surprise you!

    From past experience, i can tell you that you really don't want "Secret Sex" and "surprise" at the same time.
    All around bad idea.
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    Reminds me of a scene in Trainspotting... Lol?
    I really loathe those advertisement links...

    So I spent about 2 hours chiseling a face that would resemble my own. Aaaand a month later I deleted it. So highest level toon is female, more on the elegant/80's shoulder pad, noble suit kinda gal. Two male, two female toons in all.

    Main thing is, I don't game to hook up. I just game.



    Edited by FuriousStar on March 25, 2017 4:07PM
  • Eirikir
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    Im a guy irl and always played a guy. If you wanna genderbend go for it buddy.
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    Alliance: Ebonheart Pact
    Race: Nord (Lycanthrope)
    Class: Dragonknight (Range DPS)
    Playstyle: Crafter, PVE, PVP, Roleplayer
  • anitajoneb17_ESO
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    But I must say -- it is quite amusing to watch how young male players (.../...) react and try to interact with me when they _think_ I am a woman! Some of them behave like complete fools.

    What server do you play on ?
    I am a woman, on PC/EU, play mostly female characters (even though I have 2 male characters too) and never ever had any other player acting like Tex Avery's wolf, or anything comparable.



  • ProfesseurFreder
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    But I must say -- it is quite amusing to watch how young male players (.../...) react and try to interact with me when they _think_ I am a woman! Some of them behave like complete fools.

    What server do you play on ?
    I am a woman, on PC/EU, play mostly female characters (even though I have 2 male characters too) and never ever had any other player acting like Tex Avery's wolf, or anything comparable.



    I shouldn't have / didn't mean to / was wrong to imply that it happens all the time. Reading it again, my wording on that was quite bad.

    It happened to me once. That was enough. I guess I conflated it with what I've seen, experienced (and how I myself have behaved in my younger, dumber days) in the real world,

    Actually it's quite rare that anyone tries to interact with me no matter what face I happen to be wearing....

    Looking over the responses, it seems to me that the roleplayers and storytellers among us are more likely to have a character or two of the opposite gender than those who simply play the game on its own level, for its own sake, and who do not think of their avatar as a character per se.

    FuriousStar, I don't play to "hook up" either. I'm about the most anti-social player in Tamriel. I can't chat and fight monsters at the same time.

    The most common "social interaction" I get in the game is when a total stranger and I somehow end up fighting the same monster -- and then when it's dead there's an odd moment when the two toons sort of stand there staring at each other; nothing is said, and then we both go our own separate ways.
    "Nothing by which all human passion and hope and folly can be mirrored and then proved ever was just a game."
    -- William Faulkner.
  • malicia
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    I'm male. When creating the toon, I knew that I was going to see it hours on end, so I choose to rather look at a pretty female toon than at a guy. I prefer to look at pretty girls in real life, so I couldn't see what it should be different ingame.

    The only times I interact with other players apart from combat chatter is when I see someone with a username that is reminiscent of Afrikaans. Its always nice to meet fellow South Africans ingame.
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  • Eirikir
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    malicia wrote: »
    I'm male. When creating the toon, I knew that I was going to see it hours on end, so I choose to rather look at a pretty female toon than at a guy. I prefer to look at pretty girls in real life, so I couldn't see what it should be different ingame.

    The only times I interact with other players apart from combat chatter is when I see someone with a username that is reminiscent of Afrikaans. Its always nice to meet fellow South Africans ingame.

    I'm sorry man. I'm sure you are being truthful but this always strikes me as an excuse to genderbemd when i see it.
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    Race: Nord (Lycanthrope)
    Class: Dragonknight (Range DPS)
    Playstyle: Crafter, PVE, PVP, Roleplayer
  • FriedEggSandwich
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    Eirikir wrote: »
    malicia wrote: »
    I'm male. When creating the toon, I knew that I was going to see it hours on end, so I choose to rather look at a pretty female toon than at a guy. I prefer to look at pretty girls in real life, so I couldn't see what it should be different ingame.

    The only times I interact with other players apart from combat chatter is when I see someone with a username that is reminiscent of Afrikaans. Its always nice to meet fellow South Africans ingame.

    I'm sorry man. I'm sure you are being truthful but this always strikes me as an excuse to genderbemd when i see it.

    I kinda know what you mean, in that I usually roll my eyes when I hear this uber-hetero reasoning, mainly because it seems so practiced and a little defensive lol. Why not just say you wanna play as a woman?
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  • AdriRaven
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    As a fella out of game, eleven of my twelve character slots are ladies. I don't really have an excuse, not even the stereotypical "I like looking at ladies' rears". I just think my ladies are more interesting than my gents. Although my secondary account may end up with more dudes in it...
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  • altemriel
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    How many men out there play as women -- and how many women play as men?

    My main character is pretty much reflective of me, and is an older male. But I do have three characters that I play a lot, and one of them is female. I don't think of her as reflective of me, I think of her as a character that I am playing. But I must say -- it is quite amusing to watch how young male players (I'm assuming -- and if this post is about anything, it's about how assuming is dangerous) react and try to interact with me when they _think_ I am a woman! Some of them behave like complete fools.

    There's a lesson in there somewhere....

    :To assume is to fool oneself." -- Charlie Chan.



    I am a male in real life, but all my chars are females, because, they are pretty to look at :smiley:
    Edited by altemriel on March 28, 2017 6:28AM
  • Brrrofski
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    It's more to do with the character.

    Magica Templar, sorc and NB strike me as females. So I made females.

    Stam everything, magica dk and saptank all said makes to me, so I made males.
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