I have definitely had some good experiences. My first time in vscp was was my absolute favorite. I thought I was ready, knew the mechs (like I studied em) and had tried my best to practice on normal so I qued. On a side note this highlights this issue with normal not remotely preparing you for vet. I Was around 600cp at the time, Got a bunch of folks in the mid 1000's obviously experienced with what I now recognize to be trifecta titles. They were really cool about it, rezed me instead of leaving me on the floor in boss fights so I could practice, tried to help me through mechs, joked and were good natured about it. When we cleared they congratulated me, gave me all their monster helm drop and threw flower petals on me. I relate this story a lot on the forums if just to remind folks that their are a lot of cool people in the community that actually like to see people progress and that late game players aren't all toxic. I do my best to be like this now for newer players.

There's something to be said for a little patience and guidance. When I first started exploring group PvE content, I was completely clueless after having done nothing but PvP for so long. I didn't understand the mechanics. I didn't understand the real role of a PvE healer in this specific game and didn't realize how many buffs/debuffs I should have been keeping up. My only idea of dmg mitigation was to run around and roll dodge nonstop like a lunatic. I often queued as a healer in heavy armor with a sword'n'board/resto combo, in gear that only gave PvP buffs. I didn't know how much I didn't know at the time.

I met some super patient and kind people eventually who took the time to explain how to survive in that world and how to gear myself and run a rotation. Some were just people in a randomly queued instance who took 5 extra minutes to explain a mechanic to me, and had the patience to stick out out through 3-4 wipes. Now I'm able to clear the hardest 12 person content in the game with relative ease and I'm very comfortable with the roles I play on. I'm grateful for those players and try to extend the same patience and mindfulness when I random queue (not always successfully. Sometimes my inner jerk comes out), and I hope the people I encounter take that experience and use it to shape their mindset and behavior toward other players.

No one starts out awesome in this game. Give them a chance.

I'd do my best and see what happens. I'm in no hurry. I figure they want to do the dungeon, that's why we are in it, so we might as well give it a go.