Don't take anything in Cyrodiil zone too seriously. You have numerous different players with different playstyles all telling everyone else what to do, where to go and how to play. If you did all the things everyone asked you to do, you'd spin around in circles for hours. Do what you feel is right and accept that some people won't agree with it.
"Would you PVE players get your stuff and leave - you're ruining our pop bonus." The msg was from a player with AD (my alliance on that character in the Blackreach campaign). AD was first in scoring and highest in population but losing most of its keeps on the map. So I left without doing what I set out to do (get some AP from PVE stuff). What's the proper etiquette when I see a message like that?