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In 5 years of playing I have no friends to play with, can someone explain how to make friends?
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precambria✭✭✭✭✭Eclipse0990 wrote: »1. Play ESO
2. FInd issues like crash, lags, bugs
3. Come to forums and rage with like-minded people
4. Now you have "friends"
Or just join good social guilds in game and play alongside others. If you PvP on a particular faction, then join a guild on that faction. Helping others out is one of the best way of getting to know people and make friends
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TheRealCherokeee3 wrote: »Dragonnord wrote: »1 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see people connected or your guild has an event. Present yourself with your name or username. They will say hi. Talk.
2 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see people connected or your guild has an event. Say hi to some using their names or usernames. This time they will say hi using your name or username. Talk.
You are getting known...
3 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see the same people connected or your guild has an event. Say hi to some using their names or usernames. They remember you this time. Talk.
You are known now...
4 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see the same people connected. Behave as you do IRL to make friends.
Done, you have your first friends now.
What if voice is something I don't do though?
Then that's an emergent sign as to why possibly you've had troubles. Many casual aspects of the game are fine if you stick to in game text. But more often than not, if you join dungeons and trials, voice communication tends to be a near necessity. That often was one of the number one reasons people in my past guild were often excluded in some content. Granted it was adequately advertised ahead of time everyone needed to be on mic if they joined. Many times, however, you can get away with this by at least joining chat so you can hear call outs and follow. You did mention always having someone to talk to in vanilla WoW. But I guess that meant via text rather than voice? Like others said, ESO guilds can be a bit of a social trainwreck lol. But some are pretty great communication wise. By now you've probably had a handful of guild invites and or suggestions after making this post. If you want yet another then i'd be happy to extend my guild too.
It was mostly text, yes. And it wasn't like 1 or 2 people, it was nearly a full friendlist of people. Only rarely would we meet on teamspeak and actually talk to each other over the mic. It has been like that up until Legion pretty much. There were only 2 people I knew in wow that I'd regularly voice with and they were actually in the game just as long as me and we've met IRL at some point. Also, I ended up dating one of them for a couple years. So voice just kinda naturally happened. Normally I stay away from voice, reasons being: People often get obnoxious on voice, and often there will be that one person that likes to get all the attention. And if you don't care about whatever reason they think makes them deserve this attention, you usually get treated bad. I heavily dislike that.
Speaking of purely raiding purposes. I don't mind joining those, but then those really only or mostly serve their purpose of leading, and rarely do people then seem interested in staying connected.
Lol! I started to do a double take there. You sound so much like a few of my other friends! I very much understand. I'd take a guess your an "older" generation like myself and a few of my other friends. My friend and I were just talking about alot of these issues just yesterday. We tend to have an "old school" mentality when it comes to socializing...i.e. we treat online interaction the same as in person. We start and end conversation with greetings and goodbyes and you know...manners. We don't abruptly leave when we get what we want and overall never communicate until we need something. That's pretty awesome you met a few friends in person! The friends i've had always end up waaaay out of the way like Canada or Maine lol.
"Normally I stay away from voice, reasons being: People often get obnoxious on voice, and often there will be that one person that likes to get all the attention. And if you don't care about whatever reason they think makes them deserve this attention, you usually get treated bad. I heavily dislike that." That is a great observation
couldn't agree more lol. Happens in nearly every guild everytime. The PvE one i'm in is rare. Mostly parents and middle to older aged, so this sort of thing tends to be passively discouraged. Which is refreshing. I also did WoW for a number of years before getting into ESO. I will say it was a different and far more sociable experience. ESO players in general do tend to be...socially antisocial. Meaning they'll be communicative to get what they need, then like Gollum they'll quickly hobble away hunched over in a corner with whatever they just obtained. I will say the general idea you posit I too have yet to really experience in ESO. ESO guilds (that i've been in) are wonderful if you eat, drink, and breathe ESO 24/7 or you LOVE memes every-single-day. 1 -
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✭✭It depends on the format. I'm on PS4 and it's the same issue there, the interface is such a pain to use it's not user friendly at all. I can't think of any better way to improve it however.
The main issue regardless of platform IMO is the use of guild stores. The main reason for guilds is to sell stuff not socialize. And then for those created just to socialize you run into the first part of my post. I've played many an online game and ESO is the only one that just feels hollow socially. It's hard to be relaxed with chatting when it's such a pain to chat.1 -
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✭✭If the problem wasn't bad enough I've found that at least 7/10 guilds have major issues with leadership- that those in charge lack the maturity and ability to act rational and calm to lead a guild. I've left about 4 guilds in the past month, no later than 3 days after joining because of this.
Safest bet would be a small but active guild. a guild with less than 25 members is a lot less likely to be ruined by toxic idiots than a guild with over 100 members.Playing your character the way your character should play is all that matters. Play as well as you can but never betray the character. Doing so would make playing an mmoRPG pointless.2 -
Gambino108✭✭✭Join a PVP guild. Much easier to make friends that way, because you find yourself running around with the same guild members everyday in a group - sometimes just hanging out at keeps or resources, talking or just messing around.
And you tend to see the same names and faces about, even those not in your guild, so you get to know a lot of people.
You can join a PVP guild group in cyro and just hang back healing everyone, tanking at the front, or just play at your own pace.
Plus once you have your PVP friends - you all do the PVE stuff together anyway.
PVE guilds lack that organised group play with friends. Most PVE guilds have hundreds of people who are dotted all across the game, at different places doing completely different things. Only Trial guilds have the same group focus, but they are way less social and much more competitive.Göllum - PC-EU0 -
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✭✭Gambino108 wrote: »Join a PVP guild. Much easier to make friends that way, because you find yourself running around with the same guild members everyday in a group - sometimes just hanging out at keeps or resources, talking or just messing around.
Do you know a lot about PVP guilds? I have an AD altmer necro healer who's been pretty fun in pvp, and would not mind joining a mature, fun, and hopefully smaller pvp group.
I do far prefer no CP though so preferably one which runs that.Playing your character the way your character should play is all that matters. Play as well as you can but never betray the character. Doing so would make playing an mmoRPG pointless.0 -
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✭oxygen_thief wrote: »i dont have friends either but prefer to play alone so if you dont have friends then i guess you dont need them.
That's why a guild that acknowledges a lot of people like to play that way is a good idea. That guild Max mentioned above; no problem if you want to solo everything in the game, yet still there for help if/when you need it, whether for a quest, boss, or making custom gear to your requirements.
the thing is i dont do quests bosses and other pve staff also i can craft anything by myself. i take part in a social guild though but mainly because of guild trader and crafting stations0 -
Rahar✭✭✭✭OP -- It's not your fault, it's a new (since 2010's?) trend of online game design. Dungeon/BG finders, no random open world PvP without queueing specifcally for it, and 100% soloable open world content means communication isn't required in the neo-MMO. Hence, most people just stick with the friends they've made in the past or their guilds.
You don't invite people to group for quests or delves because it's easy enough by yourself and credit is shared no matter what. There's no inviting people for BG's or a Dungeon because there's a finder to do it for you, and in BG's case it's now impossible. And finally, you don't group up with random people for some good old fashioned PvP to get back at someone who ganked you while questing because open world PvP is only in one theme park zone meant for that and only that. MMOs have changed so much since 2005-2008, and making friends just isn't natural anymore.NeRf MaGsOrC1 -
Magenpie✭✭✭✭✭I forgot to say, the real world being the dumpster fire that it is makes me even more wary of joining guilds. I want to meet kind friendly people with humour about the game, and I don't have the energy to negotiate 'politics' of any kind.
It's also one of the reasons I don't want to join a trading guild even though I'd love to sell on the items I find. I don't want to deal with dues/payments/potential grifting/chivvying in the game. The real world is too full of that crap, I don't need the added anxiety here.
Btw, I'm certain there are many guilds which don't fall into the above categories, but again, how to find the good ones?
Edit: Now I feel bad and mean for saying the above x)Edited by Magenpie on March 10, 2020 5:47PM2 -
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✭✭✭✭TheRealCherokeee3 wrote: »TheRealCherokeee3 wrote: »Dragonnord wrote: »1 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see people connected or your guild has an event. Present yourself with your name or username. They will say hi. Talk.
2 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see people connected or your guild has an event. Say hi to some using their names or usernames. This time they will say hi using your name or username. Talk.
You are getting known...
3 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see the same people connected or your guild has an event. Say hi to some using their names or usernames. They remember you this time. Talk.
You are known now...
4 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see the same people connected. Behave as you do IRL to make friends.
Done, you have your first friends now.
What if voice is something I don't do though?
Then that's an emergent sign as to why possibly you've had troubles. Many casual aspects of the game are fine if you stick to in game text. But more often than not, if you join dungeons and trials, voice communication tends to be a near necessity. That often was one of the number one reasons people in my past guild were often excluded in some content. Granted it was adequately advertised ahead of time everyone needed to be on mic if they joined. Many times, however, you can get away with this by at least joining chat so you can hear call outs and follow. You did mention always having someone to talk to in vanilla WoW. But I guess that meant via text rather than voice? Like others said, ESO guilds can be a bit of a social trainwreck lol. But some are pretty great communication wise. By now you've probably had a handful of guild invites and or suggestions after making this post. If you want yet another then i'd be happy to extend my guild too.
It was mostly text, yes. And it wasn't like 1 or 2 people, it was nearly a full friendlist of people. Only rarely would we meet on teamspeak and actually talk to each other over the mic. It has been like that up until Legion pretty much. There were only 2 people I knew in wow that I'd regularly voice with and they were actually in the game just as long as me and we've met IRL at some point. Also, I ended up dating one of them for a couple years. So voice just kinda naturally happened. Normally I stay away from voice, reasons being: People often get obnoxious on voice, and often there will be that one person that likes to get all the attention. And if you don't care about whatever reason they think makes them deserve this attention, you usually get treated bad. I heavily dislike that.
Speaking of purely raiding purposes. I don't mind joining those, but then those really only or mostly serve their purpose of leading, and rarely do people then seem interested in staying connected.
Lol! I started to do a double take there. You sound so much like a few of my other friends! I very much understand. I'd take a guess your an "older" generation like myself and a few of my other friends. My friend and I were just talking about alot of these issues just yesterday. We tend to have an "old school" mentality when it comes to socializing...i.e. we treat online interaction the same as in person. We start and end conversation with greetings and goodbyes and you know...manners. We don't abruptly leave when we get what we want and overall never communicate until we need something. That's pretty awesome you met a few friends in person! The friends i've had always end up waaaay out of the way like Canada or Maine lol.
"Normally I stay away from voice, reasons being: People often get obnoxious on voice, and often there will be that one person that likes to get all the attention. And if you don't care about whatever reason they think makes them deserve this attention, you usually get treated bad. I heavily dislike that." That is a great observation couldn't agree more lol. Happens in nearly every guild everytime. The PvE one i'm in is rare. Mostly parents and middle to older aged, so this sort of thing tends to be passively discouraged. Which is refreshing. I also did WoW for a number of years before getting into ESO. I will say it was a different and far more sociable experience. ESO players in general do tend to be...socially antisocial. Meaning they'll be communicative to get what they need, then like Gollum they'll quickly hobble away hunched over in a corner with whatever they just obtained. I will say the general idea you posit I too have yet to really experience in ESO. ESO guilds (that i've been in) are wonderful if you eat, drink, and breathe ESO 24/7 or you LOVE memes every-single-day.
Actually it's funny that you say Canada. I'm from EU and my ex girlfriend and my friend, that I specifically mentioned happened to be Canadian. It's cause I played wow on the NA servers purposely to get good at English.
))) i ended up living there for a few years, if it wasn't for biased immigration laws I'd have stayed there.
And you're totally right. I am what one would call an older generation gamer. In a lot of ways you pretty much described everything on point. Except that I don't mind chatting with people all the time.@TheRealCherokeee3 Edited by Nyladreas on March 10, 2020 5:44PM0 -
Actually it's funny that you say Canada. I'm from EU and my ex girlfriend and my friend happened to be Canadian. It's cause I played wow on the NA servers purposely to get good at English.))) i ended up living there for a few years, if it wasn't for biased immigration laws I'd have stayed there.
And you're totally right. I am what one would call an older generation gamer. In a lot of ways you pretty much described everything on point. Except that I don't mind chatting with people all the time.@TheRealCherokeee3 [/quote]
HA! no surprise then I related with you Yeah immigration is a mess these days. NA Xbox here. Well with the people in here that related with you and followed similarly, maybe everyone here should start a guild! 1 -
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✭✭✭I've been playing since 2016 and have only found one person I would really consider a friend, in that we talk directly often, as opposed to just public chat. But we've never talked about personal stuff and I only have a general idea of his age. We met in a PUG for White-Gold Tower...yeah, I know, but this group actually worked out, we didn't finish but we all ended up "friending" each other so we could try again later.
I am in what I consider to be a nice, friendly, and active guild so if you'd like an invite send me a private message. (Not sure if we're allowed to advertise here.)
Since my trials guild (a different guild) dissolved I've pretty much gone back to playing solo all of the time.0 -
purple-magicb16_ESO✭✭✭✭✭Social friends, yes go with the guild advice. If you want friends to do dungeons or pvp with, do LFG then send friend invite to them if they're good. Lol! Do the test-ride first.
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✭✭TheRealCherokeee3 wrote: »
HA! no surprise then I related with you Yeah immigration is a mess these days. NA Xbox here. Well with the people in here that related with you and followed similarly, maybe everyone here should start a guild!
Introverts unite! Separately...in your own guilds.
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✭✭✭✭✭The title might seem like a troll post, but I'm genuinely curious how does one make friends in this game. In 5 years i haven't made any friends to regularly play with, I havent met people that would be interested in grouping up, I haven't as a result quite enjoyed this game as much as I'd like to.
What am I supposed to do, in order to make friends here? What are people looking for? What are people interested in? I'm generally a very likeable, social person IRL. Ingame though I feel strange, awkward when talking to people, I can't really tell when people want to hang out and hang around or when people just add you for whatever reason of "need" they have (thats all of my friendlist - people that I either trade with or they want something from me). And I've never had this problem before - I played WoW since vanilla up until legion, and always had someone to talk to or do things with. The strangest thing to me is that I'm generally friendly, helping, and trying to teach people (only if they ask for it). What's up with ESO?
Lately I've been constantly facing reponses of the kind - put/get a group together, play with friends, play with guild. Well how? lol.
The guilds are probably the worst I've ever experienced. There's constant radio silence, noone ever responds to anything, noone ever answers questions or helps out. And I've been probably through over 100 different guilds by now. Do I have to just be glued to their discords or how do people actually interact these days?
I'm honestly and genuinely confused.
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Donari✭✭✭✭
This highlights what I was going to say. This may not help a lot of people since RP is somehow mysterious to many (when really it's just writing a present-tense story collaboratively one line at a time with other people, using the established setting as a background for how the characters speak and act/react). But RP is a fantastic way to meet people.... no activities outside of RP that encourage communication. ...
I'm still friends with people I met almost 20 years ago via RP in Horizons that led to WoW that led to GW2. We have an active discord, and many of us share other MMOs and rp in those. I'm in a superb tabletop Roll20 group consisting of old WoW/etc friends. RP also keeps interest going in a game long after the content itself has become old hat because you're adding so much to the story yourself. I lasted 7 years in WoW, and am still going strong after over 7 years in GW2, thanks to my RP-sparked friendships.
Maybe give that a try, OP I can't point you to ESO RP guilds since ESO has actually become a mostly solo experience for me -- my RP friends having drifted away from it and my other gaming giving me plenty of social time -- but I am sure there are listings on the forums or kind folks reading this thread who will know more.
Edited by Donari on March 10, 2020 6:25PM0 -
Aznarb✭✭✭✭✭
✭That a weird question tbh.
In every mmorpg, I look on forum and read guild description to see if it fit me.
Then I candidate (I don't have any trust in guild who just recruit every random guys without looking to know them before).
Once I'm in, I ask for vocal, join and present myself.
I never ask for someone to help me 1st, I propose to help people in need 1st.
Then, playing everyday a bit I log every time on vocal even if empty.
Talk with people who are here, play with them.
If I feel good and people are nice and active, I'll stay.
If people don't fit what I'm looking for in a guild, I'll talk to the lead about it and leave to try another one.
Pretty simple.
I've leave my 1st guild few month ago cuz dead, but the 3 other who play with me the most followed me and we're now together in another guild making new friend.
Active guild is the key. If they're people on disc only 1 day/week, just run away.
Don't look for guild with ton of member, it's way harder to feel a part of it tbh.
HF
(Also, find a guild of your level (gameplay level I mean), be sur of your level so you'll not deceive people who recruit you and deceive yourself in the same way, they're is no shame to be a casual in casual guild or be a newbie in progression guild)Edited by Aznarb on March 10, 2020 6:40PM[ PC EU ]
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JamilaRaj✭✭✭✭✭
✭Lately I've been constantly facing reponses of the kind - put/get a group together, play with friends, play with guild. Well how? lol.
Obviously you first need to meet some strangers. I highly recommend starting/joining random groups (not guilds) in Cyrodiil, as these tend to be remarkably easygoing players (also, they do not use voice chat), and temper bonds with jointly spilt blood.
Fair warning, though: it is kinda transformative experience that may make you realize just how badly designed ESO is.Edited by JamilaRaj on March 10, 2020 6:51PM0 -
dazee✭✭✭✭✭
✭✭OP -- It's not your fault, it's a new (since 2010's?) trend of online game design. Dungeon/BG finders, no random open world PvP without queueing specifcally for it, and 100% soloable open world content means communication isn't required in the neo-MMO. Hence, most people just stick with the friends they've made in the past or their guilds.
Lol, that has absolutely nothing to do with why people don't make friends and group up online.
Forcing people to do it can only have a negative impact. People don't play games to be forced into anything.
The reason has a lot more to do with modern internet culture and lack of parenting and education.
Most people will consider being forced to group or do certain content a definite downside/con of a game, modern things like dungeon finders and soloable content are good things, not bad. if you dislike it so much go play one of those dead ancient games? some are still around on private servers.Edited by dazee on March 10, 2020 6:56PMPlaying your character the way your character should play is all that matters. Play as well as you can but never betray the character. Doing so would make playing an mmoRPG pointless.2 -
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✭✭✭One of the issues about ESO - IMHO - is that it IS heavily PvE. So just joining a guild may not be the solution, as its not all that easy to find guilds that focus on trials, dungeons and PvP. If you Like PvP, just showing up in Cyradil when your Faction is winning, joining in and making yourself known in Chat may help. Once others get to know your character, and have some regular interaction with it, you can start finding out about Their guilds from them.
This game does have a ton of guilds who literally do nothing. They have no trader, there is very limited items listed among the members and they Never, Ever talk in guild Chat. I am in 2 guilds that fall into this category. I have no idea why those guilds even exist.
If you want to find sociable people, try being sociable in Zone chat. Don't have to talk about specifics of the game per se. Just post some experience you had and see if others have dealt with it as well. Lots of people love to talk. But with the strong PvE focus to the game, they are usually just trying to get their solo stuff done.
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Rahar✭✭✭✭OP -- It's not your fault, it's a new (since 2010's?) trend of online game design. Dungeon/BG finders, no random open world PvP without queueing specifcally for it, and 100% soloable open world content means communication isn't required in the neo-MMO. Hence, most people just stick with the friends they've made in the past or their guilds.
Lol, that has absolutely nothing to do with why people don't make friends and group up online.
Forcing people to do it can only have a negative impact. People don't play games to be forced into anything.
The reason has a lot more to do with modern internet culture and lack of parenting and education.
Most people will consider being forced to group or do certain content a definite downside/con of a game, modern things like dungeon finders and soloable content are good things, not bad. if you dislike it so much go play one of those dead ancient games? some are still around on private servers.
Of course forcing difficult content and manually grouping up would be bad, but that's not what I'm saying here. It's not unreasonable to imagine optional higher difficulty content that's either very challenging for a solo player (imagine soloing a veteran dungeon difficult) but easily doable with a group that isn't queued for and isn't just a randomly spawning event but has higher rewards for taking part. Maybe quests that give a ton of exp, a daily that gives a random rare mat, something of that nature with the sole intent of bringing people together to play a game.
Now you might be thinking, "Rahar, just go do a veteran dungeon or DSA or something then", but that's missing the point. It's not the content, per say, but where you place it and how to find other people that want to do it, and a button you press to find a group for you needs no communication. A difficult quest chain is a perfect example of a successful model of this because you have to seek out other people in the chat or find them in the world in the quest area. After all, how many dungeons have you gone through and no one's said more than a simple "hello" at the beginning?
This isn't just a problem with ESO. It's a problem with GW2 (via the Living Story) and WoW (via raid finder), too. I think designers just get so caught up in the all-inclusive mentality that they end up pushing the real reason to play an MMO -- to enjoy it with other people and progress a character with them -- out for things like mass appeal and avoiding damaging someone's delicate sensibilities because they can't post an LFG message in zone chat. On paper, it sounds better for business, but past examples have shown that in practice, it causes huge decline in a stable customer base because your game turns in to a revolving door with no memorable experiences.
That may be a topic that's far too serious for a thread like this and worthy of a novel of discussion by itself... and I've already written one.
TL;DR: Anyway, I agree on the "modern internet culture" bit, but I think everything else you're saying is missing the mark. MMOs are meant to encourage communication because its a game by nature you play to share with others, not stifle it with instant gratification nor handhold people who want to ignore it.NeRf MaGsOrC2 -
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✭✭✭✭✭Dragonnord wrote: »1 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see people connected or your guild has an event. Present yourself with your name or username. They will say hi. Talk.
2 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see people connected or your guild has an event. Say hi to some using their names or usernames. This time they will say hi using your name or username. Talk.
You are getting known...
3 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see the same people connected or your guild has an event. Say hi to some using their names or usernames. They remember you this time. Talk.
You are known now...
4 - Enter your guild's Discord voice channels when you see the same people connected. Behave as you do IRL to make friends.
Done, you have your first friends now.
What if voice is something I don't do though?
Voice isn’t required for most social guilds. I never join voicecomms on weeknights, and only briefly on weekends for pvp or vet trials (and sometimes dlc dungeons). Some members never join voice at all and that’s just fine. It won’t be a barrier for guilds with active text chat on PC.Battle not with monsters, lest ye become a monster, and if you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes also into you. ~Friedrich Nietzsche0 -
LadySinflower✭✭✭✭✭I consider myself to be very anti-social. But as I leveled up I wanted to do end-game content, or at least group content. There's gear you can't get unless you join a group for a trial or dungeon. I did not want to do voice chat but I found out very quickly that you can't run in groups and type at each other. It takes too long. By the time you finish typing hello, your group has finished half the dungeon. I suggest that you try to get over your aversion to voice comms. Headsets have mute buttons; you can mute the headset and only unmute it when you have something to say. That way you control what they hear from you. I am a member of 3 great guilds with free dues that bid for traders, and they are part of a group of guilds that also has 3 free guilds that are social only. They run events every single day and encourage newbies to join. PM me if you want more information. Another way to meet people is to use the activity finder. Queue up for dungeons, and talk to the people you meet in those dungeons. You're likely to "click" with someone. Finally, zone chat can help you find friends. Type something like "LFG to kill zone world bosses" at a time when it's busy. Or go to Elsweyr and type "LFG to kill dragons." LFG means looking for group, in case you didn't know. Also, look for people asking for help with world bosses or dragons, etc. Respond and help them out. I won't lie; there are lots of jerks in the game. If you find any, don't waste your time with them. Keep looking for cool people who share your interests. I met a married couple who also don't like running with strangers, and they brought a friend of theirs into the group. We play together almost every night. It's really nice knowing that if I want to farm gear or whatever, I can count on them to help. We even sat on party chat during the big update March 10 half the night b*tching about the extended maintenance. It's really nice having some friends to count on in the game. Anyway, sorry for the length of the post. But I wanted to give you some hope that even us anti-social people can find friends. Good luck and HMU if you need some buddies to run with. ShadokatPH66 Xbox NA.Edited by LadySinflower on March 10, 2020 11:19PM2 -
BlueViolet✭✭✭✭✭I understand OP, I feel that same way. Even after 6 years, I still haven't really found any friends ( beyond a RL couple of folks that don't play anymore now ) that like to play how I play.
I like to read everything, do every quest, even in dungeons, talk to everyone, and collect everything wherever I go. I don't worry about DPs numbers, or who has the best gear or rotation, that doesn't really interest me. I don't like discord because I find it terribly confusing and annoying.
As such I always have it in the back of my mind that my playstyle isn't for anyone else, and that no one else would be interested, so I do everything on my own.
I like to chat and talk about things as much as the next person, once I get over feeling cripplingly shy, and I'm part of a nice guild that is quiet but friendly, though I still haven't found any "regular" friends.
I'm afraid that I can't offer any solutions, apart from what has already been said, but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone in feeling that way EU / NA / PC1 -
ThePlayer✭✭✭✭Check for guilds with 50-150 players active, usually the best place for to find friends.
Most of the time you have to wait the trials guild run for to begin make friendship.0 -
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✭✭A lot of guild activity takes place on Discord these days rather than in game so that may be why you are seeing silence in guild chat. My main guild, besides the general chat channel, also maintains their looking for players and scheduling channels on Discord. These are all text channels since not everyone has voice capability.1 -
Ohtimbar✭✭✭✭✭
✭A friendly guild is what you need. If you were on PCNA I’d recommend Lone Wolf Help, but surely someone can recommend a comparable guild on EU? If you have any sort of anxiety (I’m not suggesting that you do) then there are guilds specializing in making the experience more comfortable, but again I’m not sufficiently familiar with the situation on PCEU to make any specific recommendations.
As others have said, Discord is all but required these days. My guilds only use in-game chat to welcome new members and direct them to the discord.forever stuck in combat0 -
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✭✭Based on an experience I had today, I can suggest going to craglorn and joining some pugs. I finished the entire Vet Unhallowed Grave dungeon by joining a group of 3 friends looking for another dps- and we cleared the dungeon with me doing 50% or more of group dps for most of it, which means my dps is sufficient on that character now, good news for me.
I'm staying in touch with the people I met for possible more runs of things later, and they seem nice, one way to make new friends.Playing your character the way your character should play is all that matters. Play as well as you can but never betray the character. Doing so would make playing an mmoRPG pointless.1
