Help with Hubby!!!

Path · January 2019

He doesn't understand my need to login everyday for rewards.
He checks football pools every hour. How can he not understand this. Ok, so his idea of a social network is Linkedin...still.
Need justifications for daily login to tell Hubby. Ideas?

ESO_Nightingale · January 2019

Just say that you need to do it to get the daily rewards...?

Salvas_Aren · January 2019

Proper care of MMO addiction reduces the risk of marital infidelity. Kind of.

I mean, what arguments are you looking for? The best argument would probably be, that playing an MMO is a hobby that provides quite a lot of entertainment for quite little money.

If hubby comes up with the waste of time argument - every hobby is a waste of time, unless it is a productive hobby, like woodworking or knitting.

LegacyDM · January 2019

Get a new husband. If he can’t respect that your hobby is gaming while his is football, your marriage is in for a rocky ride.

ESO_Nightingale · January 2019

LegacyDM wrote: »

Get a new husband. If he can’t respect that your hobby is gaming while his is football, your marriage is in for a rocky ride.

Maybe he is just a little confused. Not every problem can be solved with "get a new partner". Nothing here warrants a separation. I hate these kinds of answers. Sure if the partner is abused or something then that is the right call. But something as trivial as this? No! Unless we have more information this is not an answer you should give.

Salvas_Aren · January 2019

One point may be that MMOs are about interaction with people. Not face2face, but still people.

I think many have a problem with understanding how MMOs work when not playing themselves. It's not like taking a Gameboy to absolute nerd level. If you jump up to do the dishes or the trash RIGHT NOW you may wreck a farm run and annoy 3 to 11 other people. There is no PAUSE button, since it works real time, because there are other people.

Finding an agreement about kinda sabbatical times for marital thingies and MMO thingies would be a good start. Don't annoy hubby, neither your online mateys.

idk · January 2019

ESO_Nightingale wrote: »

Just say that you need to do it to get the daily rewards...?

This and that it is no different than him checking on his gambling habit every hour.

As long as gaming does not keep one out of the marriage it should not be an issue.

I have knowns some that were logged into the game player all evening every day and all day on weekends instead of spending time with their spouse. that becomes a different story.

Edit: seems one could log in after hubby leaves for work or gets home and be done with it. I would expect there is some point where he is either busy elsewhere or not at home when you are.

M_Volsung · January 2019

Your need to log in every day is directly proportional to his ability to continue drawing breath.

therift · January 2019

Happy Wife = Happy Life

The end.

Maotti · January 2019

Ehm, you two are married. You have your hobbies, he has his. Not sure why you playing ESO is so troublesome for him.

BomblePants · January 2019

You shouldn’t need justifications... if you want to log in you should be able too

ArchMikem · January 2019

Tell him if you don't get your daily log in then he doesn't get your Sweetroll.

ESO_Nightingale · January 2019

therift wrote: »

Happy Wife = Happy Life

The end.

Yeah but just having a happy wife doesn't make your life happy. it can enhance it, sure. But its not everything.
This saying is not great. But it rhymes well.

Respect4Elders · January 2019

Tell him he doesn't get his "daily rewards" unless you get your daily rewards.

Ruckly · January 2019

You don't have enough leverage from nagging to get one lousy daily reward? For some reason when I read that post I hear a soft Swiss maid voice all innocent.

rexagamemnon · January 2019

Just say you are logging in for the rewards and logging back out. Somedays i dont feel like playing video games but i will log in if there are good login rewards that month. I will just log in real quick and the. Sign iff rught after i collect

Sturmfaenger · January 2019

If you just login for daily rewards thats a matter of a minute a day. There are many more daily things in ESO, you could do though - crafting ones for example, you could do with eight chars. Achievements that eat much of your time... so Hubby can be happy its just daily login with one char for that small click.^^

And: Hobby is hobby - you spend time doing things you like. You wouldn't ask of him to mow the lawn while there's a football game on tv (even if he could record it and watch it later), because you accept that that time span that day is blocked for his hobby, and that he wants to enjoy it right then. So the answer is: I deal with yours - you deal with mine.

DarcyMardin · January 2019

Since logging in for the daily rewards only takes a couple of minutes, it’s hard to see why anyone would mind. If, on the other hand, you log in for hours every day and take time away from your joint activities with your husband, that could be an issue. Does he play any computer games? Do you share any other hobbies or leisure activities? How many hours a day does he spend on his football stuff? Can the two of you talk it out and come to a compromise?

CompM4s · January 2019

Sounds like a personal problem that you should talk to your husband about, not ask random people on a forum...

ChunkyCat · January 2019

Don’t keep us waiting, which justification did you use and what’d he say?!

Someone pass the popcorn.

Everstorm · January 2019

Maotti wrote: »

Ehm, you two are married. You have your hobbies, he has his. Not sure why you playing ESO is so troublesome for him.

I had a gf who spend hours on Facebook bitching at me for gaming. Emphasis on had... You don't need a partner that can't respect your hobbies and interests. Partner doesn't have to share them or even like them but complaining them about again and again gets old really fast.

AlienSlof · January 2019

I got my hubby into playing ESO.

He now plays more than I do!

pattyLtd · January 2019

Do you understand his need to check football pools every hour?
Relationships are give and take.

He doesnt need to understand it but he needs to accept it just like you do his need for the football pools.

MajBludd · January 2019

Show him exactly what you are doing. I do this with my wife. Simple. No need to leave or separate or divorce.

Jesus, marriage isn't a throw away thing. That's the problem, lots don't know what a commitment is anymore.
Maybe, hubby is just curious as to what his wife is doing?

If you leave your spouse or girlfriend over a game, maybe you are spending way too much time in game.

Tigerseye · January 2019

Tell him you'll give up your log-in rewards, if he gives up his football.

He almost certainly won't and even if he does, then you're even and can spend more time doing other things together.

...and if he doesn't, but still bugs you, then apparently he thinks it's one rule for him and another rule for you and that's not OK, is it?

Ragnork · January 2019

Not sure why you need to justify anything here.

To be honest it would not even occur to me to start placing restrictions on my wife and similarly she would respect me.

ESO_Nightingale wrote: »

I hate these kinds of answers. Sure if the partner is abused or something then that is the right call.

This is a failing of respect and is manipulative and controlling.
Bullying, be it physical or psychological, should not be accepted and further more should not be dismissed as petty or trivial.