that indeed is quite hard. though i have no solution to how you can get things to work like that, i do hope you and your friends find a solution to that problem
alot of people look at this signature, i guess youre one of them.
If comunication in a friend group is a problem - there is a "fix" -use some kind of VOIP software like Ventrilo, TeamSpeak, Mumble etc
- So you will be able to speak which is even better then typing everything in chat