Well..

Use 5 heavy Kagrenacs instead of julianos for more survivability and then you can farm soulshine (2 sharpened swords and 3 jewelry) which is easy to get through a boss and at last getting grothdarr monster set.

Just run magicka recovery glyphs and atronach mundus to keep sustain and you will definitely feel the difference.

Just a quick solution

The spell damage you are looking at is just from your weapon.

To increase this amount you can use:
Spell damage glyphs enchanting jewelry
Buffs in your case Major Sorcerery from Entropy (mage's guild skill) also from potions
Weapon enchantments enchanting a weapon and using it to proc 350ish more
Mundus Stone
Armor Sets
Ability Buffs
Class Passives

Bbsample197 wrote: »

-What set should I use for a magplar dps build, should I gor for julianos set for a beginner one? im currently at 200+ cp,(how much does 5 pc julianos set cost in purple?)
-What kind of skills should I use?

Have a look at Alcast's Beamplar.
The two sets in the "Gerar Beginner" section, Seducer and Julianos, are both craftable.
I'd suggest to farm the materials yourself and find a crafter who'll craft it for you - and if you want to "look good" have a look at motif pictures for armor and weapons before you contact the crafter..

Bbsample197 wrote: »

is it possible to become a magplar dps but at the same time a suitable healer?

For dungeons: yes! It'll make runs faster, easier (less dmg and mechanics when mobs die quicker) and thus more fun!
For normal dungeons you should be fine with your dmg build and Breath of Life instead of Mage Light.
For veteran dungeons..you might be fine, too, if your group isn't too bad.
Need more healing? Switch your fire staff for a healing staff and slot Mutagen or Rapid Regeneration or Healing springs instead of Elemental Blockade.
Your DDs are crying for Magicka? Slot Necrotic Orb (or one of its morphs, from the Undaunted Guild skill line), e.g. instead of Radiant Destruction.

Bbsample197 wrote: »

-how can I increase my spell damage ive tried upgrading my weapons to purple

weapon upgrade to gold is a huge step! I'd recommend it for your two Julianos destruction staves (if you take alcast's setup).. if you also have a healing staff: not 100% necessary.

Bbsample197 wrote: »

ive tried builds online but it seems that most of them are pretty outdated since the new patch launch on morrowind.

alcast's build is for morrowind...

Bbsample197 wrote: »

- i die too quickly on dgns i only have 11k hp and Im always getting hit, how can I survive from attacks.

First, you need buff-food! There are several recipes for +max life and +max magicka that'll give >5000 hp and magicka. Or buy it from guild traders - or ask a friend or someone in one of your guilds (chances are you'll get a stack for free).
Second, use sweeps if no one else needs healing, it's a super strong self heal for magplars!
Third, you need to watch out for one-hit mechanics! From bosses, of course, but also heavy attacks from mobs. Some are one-hits, some will knock you off your feet or stun you; these need to be blocked or dodged.

Bbsample197 wrote: »

I always have the feeling that i dont understand this game compared to other mmo that ive played, its like theres too much that you need to know in order to play it, im always at lost in this game.

For an actual direction in this game.. maybe you need a guild and some friends!?
You could.. aim to beat all dungeons on vet hardmode. And all 12 man trials.
.. start PvP and become emperor one day?!
.. do all overland achievements like explorer or master angler.
..

If you're unsure how to play your character, here's a simple beginner's rotation (you could also watch alcast's video for the ideal order of skills):
Start with Focus.
Then:
Blockade - Shards - Bar swap
Ritual - Vampire's Bane - Purifying light (in single target fights) or Sweeps (for mob groups) - Sweeps - Bar Swap
Blockade - Shards - Bar swap
Vampire's Bane - Purifying light (or Sweeps) - Sweeps - Sweeps - Bar Swap
...something like that should get you through all normal dungeons.
Even solo! But you'll have to use Sweeps more and right after your bar swap in order to stay alive.

When you're comfortable try weaving light attacks in between your skills. You can fire a light attack + the next skill while the animation of the current skill is still playing.
Like: Blockade - wait 0.5 seconds - press light attack and then the next skill while your toon is still slamming his staff on the ground for Blockade- watch the light attack and the next skill go off although you pressed it 0.5-1 second ago.
And you can swap-cancel long playing animations like Shards, where you press the skill and don't wait until the spear hits the floor before you swap to the other bar. Try to find the sweet spot where you don't cancel out the whole skill, but only the last part of its animation..
Pro's even block-cancel some animations to fire off light attack weave + next skill even quicker..

Bbsample197 wrote: »

ive been reading these comments for the past dew days and started building up my magplar:

- I settled on a 5pc light julianos set and 2 pc grothdarr, (I have a light shoulder pc and a heavy head pc, still finding a medium pc shoulder), im currently sitting on 28k mag and 14k hp and 10 k stam, no food, it is not that good, but i guess it ok and i could survive atk by using shield (i might sacrifice hp for more magicka, is it worth it?), is this set good enough?
- I used two dual staves one shock and one flame, compared to my double sword and a flame staff for sustain, because im always running out of magicka compared to before, or is it good to run dual wield sword anyway?
- i might try alcast skill set but ive grown attach to BoL that it always saved my life from certain death, so im still work in progress there.
- I can still build another set piece on my character (but only 4pc set effect, due to using two staves), but im torn apart on which set ill use, i recently learned that magicka increases your spell damage (or is it not a thing anymore?) so necropotence comes to mind since that thing increases your magicka by alot, war maidens set also comes to my mind, im currently using 3pc willpower accessory set and random staves at the moment. so which one is better war maiden or necropotence for more damage and sustain?

Necro is useless for a Magplar because they don't have any pets.