Unable to drop GF agro.

IKilled007 · June 2014

I've tried all my agro reduction skills/spells, deflections, distractions, and diversions, but it seems like 11 years of overuse on my part may have inadvertently built up my girlfriend's racial immunity passives. Now I'm continually hounded to be more sociable, to engage with family and friends (offline!), and to "leave the house and get some sun, for christ's sake." I've used up everything in my arsenal, including pulling out the trump card -- a study demonstrating that female nagging kills men (Study: Nagging By A Spouse Could Shorten Your Life) -- although I'm not sure if that was an intelligent move on my part; her complaints have only intensified.

Obviously if I'm forced to choose between on the one hand, ESO, and on the other, my gorgeous, young (she's 30, I'm 43) girlfriend of 11 years and my 6-year-old daughter (her birthday's today, btw), ESO wins hands down; but is there anything left at my disposal to make sure it doesn't come to that? I really do love them, sort of. When they're not nagging me.

Tips welcome!

Ri_Dariit · June 2014

Ri'Dariit helps troublesome secret-agent assassin, yes?
At the age of six, Khajiit killed his first slaughterfish, tricky it was, but very educative. Your cub should be spending more quality time with father, on his lap, possibly steering him around while you hit the weapon of your choice, truly building teamwork and important skill development for a child in today's day and age.
in regards to your mate, this one is easy. The mate is hostile due to the inability of socializing or playing with you. This can be easily fixed by giving her her own copy and computer-gizmo. A new one from a fresh Dwemer-raid would be nice, but she will not mind having something as equally nice as yours. Now you go exploring with mate and teach child the importance of exploration, reading, decision making and trade-skills.
This one's family is always having fun together and when large groups are required, this one has one more solution for your mates' "family and friends" issue. They should have their own Dwemish device, so tell them about the importance embracing their new self in Tamriel with you and your family! Of course to make the deal as sweet as Moonsugar, ensure that you will offer free advice and assistance in any Tamrielic issues that might occur, up to level 50, as by then they should know how to live their lives in their new found persona.

tino.antoninieb17_ESO · June 2014

Ok it may be bit aggressive but ... If u marry her u will buy some time ( though u will not be able to play a lot on wedding day ) . Sometimes u have to sacrifice something ....
Note : Ofc if that doesnt work u can always get divorced and all good again . Tip is coming from more experienced guy ( 44 here ) - i tried even that divorce part and it works without any bugs .

LariahHunding · June 2014

Use diversionary tactics. Shopping trips, day spas. Bombard them with kindness.

Give the 6-year-old her on computer. Introduce her to gaming.

BrierTOG · June 2014

I don't get it what is so wrong with spending some time with them if you love them, show them you care. And i pretty sure the nagging will become less. Besides we all need breaks from the game as well. Gaming too many hours after each other is not good

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Fairydragon3 · June 2014

.....this thread makes me sad

Mallow · June 2014

I hope she reads this and dumps your sorry butt.

KBKB · June 2014

Tell them you have the herpies, OR my personal favourite " I really love you bb, but after watching this episode of House MD I have realised life is all too short so sometimes I need my alone time just because I'm on the PC doesn't mean I'm gaming, I'm researching how to be a better person/father/lover while browsing stock portfolios to make sure you are both well looked after long after I'm gone" Throw in some rose clippings (very cheap and old ones work) some cheap tea candles order some nice food online once a month and you are set.

Sobela · June 2014

Greetings I am so sorry to hear about ur GF agro.
This one's mate of most kind master spending time with me on Nirn.
This one has been with her mate for 10 years so far and we both like to
explore the Tamriel together yay! ^_^

But we do spend time outside of Tamriel as well and are very happy there too.
Once our little ones are big enough to fend for themselves they may join us as well but this one is not sure yet.
But this one feels that you should listen to @xy_productions aka Ri'Dariit perhaps knows what he is talking about.
This one is so happy being with her mate in Tamriel.
Thank you for very kindly listening and I will pray to Mara that things will work out.

Syntse · June 2014

I'm also in very happy situation where me and my wife are exploring Tamriel together. Though I required me to get her pc and the game but it is well worth it. We can have together time while I'm also enjoying gaming total win-win situation.

ZOS_ShannonM · July 2014

Greetings, Ikilled007!
We wanted to let you know that we're moving your thread titled "unable to drop gf aggro" from the customer support forum to the general discussion forum.
Thank you!

Durham · July 2014

IKilled007 wrote: »

I've tried all my agro reduction skills/spells, deflections, distractions, and diversions, but it seems like 11 years of overuse on my part may have inadvertently built up my girlfriend's racial immunity passives. Now I'm continually hounded to be more sociable, to engage with family and friends (offline!), and to "leave the house and get some sun, for christ's sake." I've used up everything in my arsenal, including pulling out the trump card -- a study demonstrating that female nagging kills men (Study: Nagging By A Spouse Could Shorten Your Life) -- although I'm not sure if that was an intelligent move on my part; her complaints have only intensified.

Obviously if I'm forced to choose between on the one hand, ESO, and on the other, my gorgeous, young (she's 30, I'm 43) girlfriend of 11 years and my 6-year-old daughter (her birthday's today, btw), ESO wins hands down; but is there anything left at my disposal to make sure it doesn't come to that? I really do love them, sort of. When they're not nagging me.

Tips welcome![/quote

Get a dog......
Get her into to game...
Set up a schedule....
Get a man room... no women allowed.. unless strippers

UnholyPerfection · July 2014

If she doesn't allow you do to your hobby then find someone who will.

Durham · July 2014

Mallow wrote: »

I hope she reads this and dumps your sorry butt.

So mean

Melufey · July 2014

Advanced tactics:
Give her the credit card
Send her to a trip to... uhm... anywhere else
Diamonds always work

If this doesn't help: You're a dead man

Curragraigue · July 2014

To start with, you picked her up when she was 19 and you were 32, respect for your game.

Gaming or any hobby with a family is a balancing act. You need to work your hobby into your life not your life into your hobby. Get off the computer and go and take your partner and daughter out for a meal, they deserve it.

kip_silverwolf · July 2014

I used to have the same problem with my husband, until I figured out all I had to do was keep the fridge well stocked with beer. Now if he starts nagging I shove a stubby under his nose & tell him to chill out! Works every time!

Melufey · July 2014

kip_silverwolf wrote: »

I used to have the same problem with my husband, until I figured out all I had to do was keep the fridge well stocked with beer. Now if he starts nagging I shove a stubby under his nose & tell him to chill out! Works every time!

Wait..... what? o.O

Aureli · July 2014

Curragraigue wrote: »

To start with, you picked her up when she was 19 and you were 32, respect for your game.

That's actually a very common thing. I've seen a lot of gals going into college who are unsatisfied with the average college age male because they are immature or d-bags, so they date an older guy. The attraction becomes deeper and the relationship lasts.

Mud_Puppy · July 2014

Excellent post. Infact this deserves to be in the developer forum.

Cyanhide · July 2014

This thread is going places! I approve lol.

Loco_Mofo · July 2014

Well she's obviously a Nightblade spamming Sap Essence which causes Prolonged Suffering. Try blocking her Swallow Soul attempts and dodge roll as soon as you hear her cast Mass Hysteria.

Good luck!

Hilgara · July 2014

I find garrotte works great. I just hope no one digs up my patio

Azmodyus · July 2014

Almost Copperfield level. 8/10

Maulkin · July 2014

ZOS_ShannonM wrote: »

Greetings, Ikilled007!
We wanted to let you know that we're moving your thread titled "unable to drop gf aggro" from the customer support forum to the general discussion forum.
Thank you!

Ha ha. @IKilled007, you had this under "Customer Support"?

Did you get an email back to turn her off, then on again?

IKilled007 · July 2014

mike.gaziotisb16_ESO wrote: »

ZOS_ShannonM wrote: »

Greetings, Ikilled007!
We wanted to let you know that we're moving your thread titled "unable to drop gf aggro" from the customer support forum to the general discussion forum.
Thank you!

Ha ha. @IKilled007, you had this under "Customer Support"?

Did you get an email back to turn her off, then on again?

/thread.

Guppet · July 2014

It's all compromise. I too have a much younger wife and 4 year old daughter (I watched my dad trade in for a younger model 3 times, so I just started with the younger model). Two nights a week they have a girly night, where they snuggle up in bed early and watch princess crap.

I get to do raids or what ever else I want. The other nights I'm with them, since well I do actually love them more than gaming.

I assumed there maybe an actual serious request for help in there, if not well you'll be the next Sircopperfield and no one wants that.

AreoHotah · July 2014

No videogame should be placed above family. I dont even have one, im 27 but i already know it will come a time (soon) when i will be playing 2 hours a week

And to be honest... i cant wait.

Heishi · July 2014

You need more proof!

5 Reasons Video Games are Actually Good For You
This one is really good, lots of citations to individual studies.

5 Ways Video Games are Saving Mankind

If you still need more:
6 Ways Video Games are Saving Mankind

So see, next time she tries to pull you from the game, you can say it's good for your health, good for your intelligence, and for the good of all mankind. Really you're doing a service by playing

tylarthb16_ESO · July 2014

Your approach is wrong, placate the whim and desires of your GF, do that bbq, that family visit, that shopping trip. But do them badly, prove that you are an embarrassment and a social liability that she dare not take you out anywhere. Condition you beloved, that your safest place for her, is you playing games.

Singular · July 2014

Sex is your answer. Get better. I don't just mean some cheap 20 minute thing. I mean, you ... uh...just a sec, have to switch to family friendly language

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So, I recommend marathons of wearing her out, giving her that permagrin, and then get back in the game. When she complains, touch her hand, her stomach, and remind her of how beautiful she is.

Couple such sexual extravagances with performing unusual - but fast, oh so fast - housework or cooking. Whatever she is not expecting. It helps that she finds you in the process of doing it - that way you don't actually have to spend much time on the housework when she's not home.

So, let's say the windows are dirty. You haven't cleaned them in years. You know she's coming home at 5 PM. Play the game all day then, at 4:45 PM, drag yourself away (if you can't, grab a taaaaall glass of water at 3PM and drink it all so that you eventually have to leave to bio - shut the game off at this point).

Quickly clean one window, start on the next as fast as you can. When she comes home, slow down and make it look meticulous. It takes you forever to clean these things! Man, but you have put effort into it. See how much you love her?

Then cook dinner, make sure she drinks, tell her you'll clean up and put her to bed. Wash dishes fast - back in game! Before going to sleep, put a window and cleaning supplies out somewhere - in the morning, when you're tired, remind her "after you went to sleep...well, I couldn't just leave the windows..."

You get the idea? You'll win. She'll think you're awesome.