Unable to drop GF agro.

Kayira

I really hope that isn't real... If it is you should realise that a relationship is worth more than a game.

Talk to her and listen to why she thinks you overdo it. If you would break up with your girlfriend over a game she might not be the right one because you clearly don't love her enough to control your gaming habit. If you do love her maybe you should work with her through this problem because a relationship is a giving and taking.

Singular

kip_silverwolf wrote: »

I used to have the same problem with my husband, until I figured out all I had to do was keep the fridge well stocked with beer. Now if he starts nagging I shove a stubby under his nose & tell him to chill out! Works every time!

So...ah...you, uhm, have any sisters?

tengri

Kayira wrote: »

I really hope that isn't real... If it is you should realise that a relationship is worth more than a game.

Of course it's "worth more"... well, half of worth more to be precise.
Better go and make nice, you cant play your game with only half a PC...

theyancey

I'm right there with you. This morning I am being drug kicking and screaming from Tamriel to go visit various garage sales. It is for my own good they say. I need to get out in the muggy Florida heat and storms they say. Harumph.

reggielee

great post OP, made me spit coffee out my nose laughing this am. I thank the gaming gods daily I married a gaming freak like me. His game set up is right next to mine and we play together, maybe not on the same game but right there cheering each other on during boss fights or commiserating when lag gets you killed.

life is good

if you're serious and having real probs, the only answer to it is spend more time with her and kid every day. do it on a schedule, have fun with them, enjoy life. then make sure when its your time to play they back off, no interruptions, no whining, its daddy time.

Coesse

Treat her like someone with an addiction problem....play the long game.

Start off by giving her everything she wants then very slowly over time, ease the little things that bug you most out one at a time.
Once the little things have gone then start with the big ones. Don't drop them immediately but arrange for something to happen that will make you unable to do it. Get a cold, get called out to work or to a friends for an emergency, once this happens she will start to disassociate you with that particular activity, leaving it easier to "not feel up to doing it".
After a while even those activities will be ones she is used to doing alone, and hence you will be able to enjoy your real leisure time in peace.

Good luck fellow Family Gamer, and just remember slow changes last longer.

Hilgara

GF's need nerfed. Massively OP

VagabondAngel

Singular wrote: »

Sex is your answer.

Is that in the next patch?

If it is, the animations will be broken, no doubt... or at least subject to the speed bug, I would have thought. It will probably leave you unable to group for a day or two, or at the very least have a 7 day cool-down (like vampire bite).

Will they add tobacco too? I suppose skooma addiction might suffice.

Excellent thread by the way. Best I've seen here.

Guppet

Some of the advice here will give you lots of time to play games, because you will end up single. Never take relationship advice of a single person, they are single for a reason.

Dayv

Try praying to the Night Mother.

Heishi

Guppet wrote: »

Some of the advice here will give you lots of time to play games, because you will end up single. Never take relationship advice of a single person, they are single for a reason.

Or just don't ask for relationship advice on a game forum... or the internet really for that matter.

I had assumed this thread was intended for comedic effect, not Dr Phil self help advice. I believe most of the "ridiculous" answers came from the same line of thinking.

Random note.. "single person is single for a reason" Is a fallacy almost as bad as the rest of the joking advice. I would dare say there are as many if not more A-hole d-bags in relationships than nice respectful single guys. So much so it is a comedic troupe. There are songs about it all throughout modern music (1950's+) history as far as I know.

Additional note, one should be single in order to engage in a new relationship. Every nice respectful door holding big dinner buying guy in a long lasting relationship was at one point single Probably many times single.

No I'm not single either. I'm about the same as OP but a bit younger. Been with my wife 8 years, married 3. She was 18 and I was 20 so the ability to relate to each other was a little more there than the 19 and 30 something for the OP. But to each their own. If he's made it work 11 years he's doing something right XD

ers101284b14_ESO

Sounds like your model of GF is broken and you need to replace her. I would suggest something in the 18-20 line. Once the GF hits 21 they are legally allowed in bars and thus start wanting to socialize.

Guppet

ers101284b14_ESO wrote: »

Sounds like your model of GF is broken and you need to replace her. I would suggest something in the 18-20 line. Once the GF hits 21 they are legally allowed in bars and thus start wanting to socialize.

They go to bars at 15 in the UK.

Guppet

Heishi wrote: »

Guppet wrote: »

Some of the advice here will give you lots of time to play games, because you will end up single. Never take relationship advice of a single person, they are single for a reason.

Or just don't ask for relationship advice on a game forum... or the internet really for that matter.

I had assumed this thread was intended for comedic effect, not Dr Phil self help advice. I believe most of the "ridiculous" answers came from the same line of thinking.

Random note.. "single person is single for a reason" Is a fallacy almost as bad as the rest of the joking advice. I would dare say there are as many if not more A-hole d-bags in relationships than nice respectful single guys. So much so it is a comedic troupe. There are songs about it all throughout modern music (1950's+) history as far as I know.

Additional note, one should be single in order to engage in a new relationship. Every nice respectful door holding big dinner buying guy in a long lasting relationship was at one point single Probably many times single.

No I'm not single either. I'm about the same as OP but a bit younger. Been with my wife 8 years, married 3. She was 18 and I was 20 so the ability to relate to each other was a little more there than the 19 and 30 something for the OP. But to each their own. If he's made it work 11 years he's doing something right XD

Then explain why being in a relationship instantly makes you more desirable to other women. It's a fact. They think if someone else wants you, you must be worth having.

If you are single they think what is wrong with you.

Sallington

AreoHotah wrote: »

No videogame should be placed above family. I dont even have one, im 27 but i already know it will come a time (soon) when i will be playing 2 hours a week And to be honest... i cant wait.

Be careful what you wish for. I turn 28 in a month, and live with my girlfriend of 3 years...

I daydream and fantasize about finding extra time to play.

Tremulous

I would most likely ask the Dev's to balance classes a little more. It will most likely end up your getting nerfed and she'll get buffed, but it could work out. Like have to rearrange your raiding schedule. With so many bosses like the Sun and family, it will be hard to do a lot of gaming.

Maybe try setting an alone time... time.

Melufey

What about updating the software?

PBpsy

I hear bad the bad hygiene skill line helps a lot.
That and the cheating on her with her best friend ,sis , mom ultimate.

eliisra

Guppet wrote: »

Then explain why being in a relationship instantly makes you more desirable to other women. It's a fact. They think if someone else wants you, you must be worth having.

If you are single they think what is wrong with you.

Well, most aspects of life are like that. It's easier to find a new job when you already have one, for example. While no one wants to hire the guys that's always unemployed. Same goes for relationships. It's like CV, by being in a functional relationship you show to the world that you're capable of it, aren't carrying loads of luggage, aren't a total weirdo, worth loving etc and therefore become more attractive as a partner.

Topic: I find that men are a bit inconsistent when it comes to these things. They love to whine or makes dry jokes about how "the president" wont allowed them to spend 24/7 at the computer.

But deep inside they actually like it that way. They want a non-gaming traditional girl, that thinks you can press "pause" in online games and prefers looking at groceries over maximizing build templates.

When faced with a female hardcore gaming nerd, someone like themselves, they freak out and cry like babies, because no one is delivering sandwiches or trying to get their attention, while they're useless butts are wiping in raids. It's even more problematic if she plays another mmorpg or is a better and more competitive player.

NorthernFury

It's all about balance and moderation my friend.....I am in a similar situation (wife is 33, I am 41......been together 15 yrs and married 12....have an 18 month old)

I still get to play around 4 hrs a night, and more on the weekends. I make it a point to play:

1.) Early in the morning on the weekends. Wife sleeps in, I change and feed the kiddo, and then let her run around and play with the dog while I get some questing or crafting done in the AM.

2.) After dinner and bath time. This gives me a couple hours to hang out with my daughter and wife after work, do bath time, have family dinner, etc. Then, when the wife goes to watch TV, play Civ, etc., I get on ESO. This will require some coordination with friends/guildies, but should give you a fairly predictable play time once you guys establish a routine.

3.) Make sure to take the effort to plan trips out on the weekend where you guys go and interact; showing her that you are interested in your life with her outside the game is key. It doesn't really matter what you do as long as you both enjoy it, and she sees you making the effort to spend time with your family and friends.

Most importantly, just moderate your time and force yourself to take breaks from the game.....when I have had trouble in the past, it was when I was raiding pretty much every night, and going straight to my computer cave when I got home from work. It made a huge difference in my relationship when I made a conscious effort to turn it off every once in awhile......and, I really didn't lose that much playing time for my efforts.

The most important thing to think about is the kiddo; make sure she gets plenty of time with her daddy while she still wants you around

All the best, hope it works out for ya!

Heishi

Guppet wrote: »

Heishi wrote: »

Guppet wrote: »

Some of the advice here will give you lots of time to play games, because you will end up single. Never take relationship advice of a single person, they are single for a reason.

Or just don't ask for relationship advice on a game forum... or the internet really for that matter.

I had assumed this thread was intended for comedic effect, not Dr Phil self help advice. I believe most of the "ridiculous" answers came from the same line of thinking.

Random note.. "single person is single for a reason" Is a fallacy almost as bad as the rest of the joking advice. I would dare say there are as many if not more A-hole d-bags in relationships than nice respectful single guys. So much so it is a comedic troupe. There are songs about it all throughout modern music (1950's+) history as far as I know.

Additional note, one should be single in order to engage in a new relationship. Every nice respectful door holding big dinner buying guy in a long lasting relationship was at one point single Probably many times single.

No I'm not single either. I'm about the same as OP but a bit younger. Been with my wife 8 years, married 3. She was 18 and I was 20 so the ability to relate to each other was a little more there than the 19 and 30 something for the OP. But to each their own. If he's made it work 11 years he's doing something right XD

Then explain why being in a relationship instantly makes you more desirable to other women. It's a fact. They think if someone else wants you, you must be worth having.

If you are single they think what is wrong with you.

Oh that's simple enough. People really over think these things.

People are drawn to what other people have. It is a fact as you said. I've worked at a store where they had me in regular clothes "looking" at certain merchandise like I was interested in it, just so other people would be like "hey if he's looking at it, it must be worth looking at". It's strange instinct really born from human survival. One person finds a source of food, the others are drawn so they can share or take it away and live on themselves. It's a part of being social creatures. Many animals exhibit the same behavior. This is also why media uses a lot of "bandwagon" advertisement.

If you are not in the social group and are roaming out alone, there must be a reason no one has joined you. So you're left with the options of finding someone else not within the social grouping, or join the social grouping.

Being alone, means you have to be proactive and seek out others. Then as they see nothing is wrong, bonds can develop.

I actually didn't start dating until middle of high school, because no one wanted to be with me. After I got that first girl friend though, they all came out of the wood works. I'm well aware of the phenomenon.

I wasn't denying the way things are, just stating that the perceptions aren't always true.

Plain and simple, most people can't seem to fight the animal instincts they have. Which is odd being that humans have such a "developed intelligence". SWAT teams and such have to train to fight their base instinct to flee from danger.

Hofi814

Guppet wrote: »

Some of the advice here will give you lots of time to play games, because you will end up single. Never take relationship advice of a single person, they are single for a reason.

Um or some of us have not found someone. The jump from "Never take relationship advice from a single person, they are single for a reason." makes you look like a prick.

I know plenty of awesome guys, who would love to have someone. But don't due to the lack of interest in nice guys.

example: I just finished courting a female I was invested in for about two months. I took her out on dates, we had a good time. We got along on several levels, same views on many things. Didn't work out. My games took a break because I wanted to make an effort. BUT it didn't work. Some times stuff just does not work. We are not "...Single for a reason.". You happen to be a prick for a good reason though.

Good day sir! I SAID GOOD DAY!

AlexDougherty

IKilled007 wrote: »

Tips welcome!

Um, Duck and cover!

NorthernFury

[quote="Heishi;1100450Plain and simple, most people can't seem to fight the animal instincts they have. Which is odd being that humans have such a "developed intelligence". SWAT teams and such have to train to fight their base instinct to flee from danger.[/quote]

Most of us that go into this line of work did so because our 'lizard brain' conditioned us into 'fight' mode instead of 'flight mode' during stress situations Just sayin.

Guppet

Hofi814 wrote: »

Guppet wrote: »

Some of the advice here will give you lots of time to play games, because you will end up single. Never take relationship advice of a single person, they are single for a reason.

Um or some of us have not found someone. The jump from "Never take relationship advice from a single person, they are single for a reason." makes you look like a prick.

I know plenty of awesome guys, who would love to have someone. But don't due to the lack of interest in nice guys.

example: I just finished courting a female I was invested in for about two months. I took her out on dates, we had a good time. We got along on several levels, same views on many things. Didn't work out. My games took a break because I wanted to make an effort. BUT it didn't work. Some times stuff just does not work. We are not "...Single for a reason.". You happen to be a prick for a good reason though.

Good day sir! I SAID GOOD DAY!

Life's hard in school kid. It gets easier.

Also I am known to troll, quite a lot, so don't get too offended by my opinions.

SDZald

My wife of 30 years just gave up on me and learned to accept my game addiction, and not just computer games. Along with that came my ability to know when she says to me, "Stop playing that game, you have to do this." that she is serious and I stop.

I have to admit there was some rocky points early in the marriage like the time my nephew came over on a Friday afternoon and we broke out the new and ground breaking game Myst and didn't stop playing tell Sunday afternoon, I don't think she talked to me for weeks and my nephew was on the "not allowed to visit list" for months

mumok

Dayv wrote: »

Try praying to the Night Mother.

OMG! LOL!

Fuzzylumpkins

Complete useless waste of forums space and a tosh sarcastic topic, does it get closed by forum mods? Nope. Commented on and moved. Yet countless threads pointing out the utter crap state of the game and lack of useable mental facilities by the devs, are closed nonstop with mods commenting on them: this doesn't pertain to game discussion, closing thread.


Knee deep in fail. GG on the topic that points out what an inept partner you are and how lucky we are to have you off the market, so we don't end up stuck with a hot pocket devouring pop swilling basement dweller

Hofi814

Guppet wrote: »

Hofi814 wrote: »

Guppet wrote: »

Some of the advice here will give you lots of time to play games, because you will end up single. Never take relationship advice of a single person, they are single for a reason.

Um or some of us have not found someone. The jump from "Never take relationship advice from a single person, they are single for a reason." makes you look like a prick.

I know plenty of awesome guys, who would love to have someone. But don't due to the lack of interest in nice guys.

example: I just finished courting a female I was invested in for about two months. I took her out on dates, we had a good time. We got along on several levels, same views on many things. Didn't work out. My games took a break because I wanted to make an effort. BUT it didn't work. Some times stuff just does not work. We are not "...Single for a reason.". You happen to be a prick for a good reason though.

Good day sir! I SAID GOOD DAY!

Life's hard in school kid. It gets easier.

Also I am known to troll, quite a lot, so don't get too offended by my opinions.

School? Lol get a grip dude. Been out of school now nearly 7 years. I know life isn't fair, never said it had to be. But people like you are pricks. Example you are a prick, more than likely with a mate. Sad times we live in.

Also not afraid to admit I am single online, in person, over the phone. I don't feel like any less of a man. It's nice to be single. Only two people I have to answer to are my left and right hands. They don't get mad at me, I mean I even bring them with when I game.

Also I SAID GOOD DAY!

Guppet

Hofi814 wrote: »

I know plenty of awesome guys, who would love to have someone. But don't due to the lack of interest in nice guys.

That right there is what's wrong with them, they assume being a nice guy is what's keeping them single. They are using being nice as justification for their failure.

You can be very sucessfull with women and be a nice guy, you just need a bit of confidence. You just have to try and stop that becoming arrogance.

I was a nice guy, now I'm arrogant, I also don't care lol.