About 4 days and 6 hours ago or so, I was advertising some goods for sale in zone chat. I had someone make an agreeable offer for some number of grain solvents and tempering alloys adding up to 21,000 gold. I asked if he would like to meet me at the bank to make the trade, and he replied to just COD them, stating that he would pay the postage. Being naive, I decided to go ahead and send it. Well, a couple minutes went by and I received no reply with my gold. I logged out and back in to see if mail was simply lagging. Still nothing. I messaged him again, and no response.
At this point, I knew that he wasn't going to pay and I just lost 5k in postage because of stupid COD rates. After some research, I found that most people said the item would be returned within 3 days if another person does not accept or reject a COD. So I shrugged it off, decided I would take the 5k loss and never use the COD system again, and simply wait for my items to return to me. However, it has been over 4 days and I have not received the items. I am also certain that the gold never came in (I would have noticed 25k gold in a mail). Is it untrue that items will be returned after 3 days? Or is it possible that he was somehow able to steal the items from the mail without paying the fee? Any insight would be appreciated.
Also, I remember the user's toon name, but won't post here for privacy reasons (because I know some companies are against that stuff).