In German and many other languages there are no neutral pronouns that could be used for humans. They just don't exist. Sometimes some activists have started making pronouns up during the last few years, but outside a limited circle of like-minded people no one knows them or uses them and they are not considered official language/grammar. The whole cultural concept of genderneutral pronouns might be even completely alien to people because of that (which then also shows in English lessons, btw: in 9 years or so never did an English teacher ever use singular they, it was always "he or she").
Now ZOS has just used some of these activist or peer-group created pronouns for Tanlorin in the translations. The words don't make sense to the random native speaker of these languages who has no clue about this scene/subcultural vocabulary (let's call it what it is). It's confusing and immersion-breaking for many if there's suddenly special pronouns to be used for one specific character in the game, special pronouns that don't exist in that language naturally. They make as much sense as randomly saying Tanlorin's pronouns were flarb/flurb. How is the average player supposed to react to sentences like "This is Tanlorin. Flarb is a hulkynd. I really like flurb."? Does anyone expect people to pick that up just because someone says that's how to speak about this character? I can tell you how the discussions look in some other-language forums: People who want to be polite avoid Tanlorin's pronouns altogether. Most just write "she".
Not to be misunderstood: I'm not against establishing a gender-neutral pronoun in languages that don't have that yet (might be useful, also when talking about someone who's gender is unknown). But it's a fact some languages don't have that yet and that people will be confused or even adverse if it's suddenly put into a narration. Just throwing that at people and expecting them to accept it immediately and participate in it doesn't work.
The whole introduction of a char as 'first non-binary char' rubbed me off the wrong way, honestly. I miss days when the point of a character was who they were as a person, what their thoughts on historical events of a universe were and how they approached certain events rather than what gender identity they had and whom they wanted to sleep with as the main selling point... but hey, that's me. Back in ye olde days, we judged people based on contents of their character, not the contents of their pants.
Representation should be subtle, and done with tact. You see a person before you see a label.
AcadianPaladin wrote: »I view Tanlorin's sexuality as not an issue. She appears to be a lesbian or possibly bisexual to me.
I do have two problems with her though -
First is the they/them stuff. Every time I hear it, I'm looking around for where the (plural) others are. Every. Time. I don't know what the answer is. They/them is too confusing/vague. The term 'it' ensures singularity but that seems. . . insulting to apply to a humanoid.
Secondly, her personality seems in many ways to be a knockoff of Ember's (young, brash, undisiciplined, cutesy) but the problem is that Ember pulls it off well. Tanlorin's personality manifests as confused/inconsistent.
Who identify as an crocodile, and become one? The other I remember well it was an dunmer hanging out in an khajiit pub wanting to become an khajiit. You can also start this quest finding an bag in a delve, he become an argonian instead
This is the crocodile lady.
https://en.uesp.net/wiki/Online:Murk-Watcher
SteveCampsOut wrote: »You could all just do as I do and ignore their storyline and make your own up in your head. Once their main quest is over, you don't have to deal with the bad writing anymore.
PrincessOfThieves wrote: »AcadianPaladin wrote: »
First is the they/them stuff. Every time I hear it, I'm looking around for where the (plural) others are. Every. Time. I don't know what the answer is. They/them is too confusing/vague. The term 'it' ensures singularity but that seems. . . insulting to apply to a humanoid.
Actually English is one of those languages where you can easily use ambiguous pronouns. In more "gendered" ones such as German or French it is much more complicated and even native speakers are often not familiar with it.
The writing is just sad. With no lorefriendly introduction, the char looks like pandering rather than proper character we could care about. For example we could borrow one of the Coldharbour quests where there is one body forced with 2 souls inside, but instead literal 2 different souls, Tan got into arcane accident with stolen artifact or something and got fused with themselves from different timeline where they were born as different gender than in this timeline.
There, lore friendly non-binary character and some explanation for proficiency with soul magic.
PrincessOfThieves wrote: »This, to me, just shows how much of this discourse is American-centric.
AcadianPaladin wrote: »First is the they/them stuff. Every time I hear it, I'm looking around for where the (plural) others are. Every. Time. I don't know what the answer is. They/them is too confusing/vague.
The same with everything that is labelled trans now, by the way. Many Kathoey from Laos and Thailand are considered by Westerners to be "trans" but I'm very sure that the absolute majority of them would not be able to identify with the concept of "trans" - if they even know the word. And I'm quite sure that the Koekchuch would also be quite confused if they still existed...PrincessOfThieves wrote: »This, to me, just shows how much of this discourse is American-centric.
PrincessOfThieves wrote: »This, to me, just shows how much of this discourse is American-centric.
Anyway, I think it's a pity. TES is a fantasy story in a completely different world, so why does the feeling of "being neither male nor female" or "being inbetween" has to be portrayed exactly like it is typical in current modern time USA? I would have loved more creativity and more open-mindedness. So, yeah, I totally agree with you.
AcadianPaladin wrote: »First is the they/them stuff. Every time I hear it, I'm looking around for where the (plural) others are. Every. Time. I don't know what the answer is. They/them is too confusing/vague.
I had the same problem with Tree Boy in High Isle.
The whole story felt a bit flat to me. Her personal backstory, with her tattoos and wild magic seems like a more engaging plot. I know it is almost a double beat of the story from Greenshade, but I think I would have liked a simpler “family separation/acceptance” type plot, than the invention of two brand new factions that we will never hear from again.
The whole betrayal thing felt weak and forced. Who was your group (the garland ring (?)) rebelling against exactly? Why was what they were doing worth the time and attention of ANYONE? It felt like much ado about groups that hardly anyone would put much effort into caring about.
“Oh no! 5-6 Altmer want to break away and do their own thing. They are rebels without a clear motive, cause, or actual actions.”
“Oh? OK, and…?”
TheMajority wrote: »I'm upset because I come and do reading here, and I feel a great sadness that I think there are players on these forums who would have really done Tanlorin justice if the writings of Tanlorin and their dialogue was put in those players hands instead because there are players here who don't just understand LGBTQ+ emotions, but that they also have real actual passion for this world and could of made everything flow perfect for Tan.
.TheMajority wrote: »I'm upset because I come and do reading here, and I feel a great sadness that I think there are players on these forums who would have really done Tanlorin justice if the writings of Tanlorin and their dialogue was put in those players hands instead because there are players here who don't just understand LGBTQ+ emotions, but that they also have real actual passion for this world and could of made everything flow perfect for Tan.
Part of the problem that I see is that the real world and Tamriel are not the same place. If the intent is to explore the real world struggles of a non-binary person, then I am not sure that Tamriel is the place to go for that. Tamriel feels very much like LGBTQ+ does not have the real world emotions because none of this is really all that unusual. Maybe not common, but also not unusual.
"Tamriel, this is just the way the world is."
So, maybe the focus should not be on the emotional struggles of being non-binary. Instead, the lesson that ESO can bring is a focus on just being a non-binary in a world that doesn't really find that a problem.
.TheMajority wrote: »I'm upset because I come and do reading here, and I feel a great sadness that I think there are players on these forums who would have really done Tanlorin justice if the writings of Tanlorin and their dialogue was put in those players hands instead because there are players here who don't just understand LGBTQ+ emotions, but that they also have real actual passion for this world and could of made everything flow perfect for Tan.
Part of the problem that I see is that the real world and Tamriel are not the same place. If the intent is to explore the real world struggles of a non-binary person, then I am not sure that Tamriel is the place to go for that. Tamriel feels very much like LGBTQ+ does not have the real world emotions because none of this is really all that unusual. Maybe not common, but also not unusual.
"Tamriel, this is just the way the world is."
So, maybe the focus should not be on the emotional struggles of being non-binary. Instead, the lesson that ESO can bring is a focus on just being a non-binary in a world that doesn't really find that a problem.
SteveCampsOut wrote: »You could all just do as I do and ignore their storyline and make your own up in your head. Once their main quest is over, you don't have to deal with the bad writing anymore.
Homophobia indeed doesn't exist in Tamriel, which is, to be honest, slightly unrealistic. Even if there's no religion which condemns same-sex relationships, some cultural specifics would probably lead to some of TES' races not being happy with their offspring not getting into a straight marriage and producing heirs, especially when it comes to nobility.
I can understand the value of this tolerance in game for players who suffer from an intolerant environment in real life, of course (When it comes to internal struggles and self-doubts on the other hand, a thing I often hear of: That's something I never experienced and therefore can't relate to, so I'm not the best person to say anything about that). So, yes, this would be nothing I'd complain about, "realistic" or not. I can understand very well that people who are subjected to homophobia in real life want a break from that in game.
If we'd want to include themes like being rejected by the family for loving the wrong person, we'd have to consider other factors than the people's sex that would make sense in Tamriel. Something like enemy tribes, a cultural problem of some kind, of the usual Dunmer House issues (although at ESO's time it's much less serious than later in the 3rd era). Something that fits the lore.
Homophobia indeed doesn't exist in Tamriel, which is, to be honest, slightly unrealistic. Even if there's no religion which condemns same-sex relationships, some cultural specifics would probably lead to some of TES' races not being happy with their offspring not getting into a straight marriage and producing heirs, especially when it comes to nobility.
I can understand the value of this tolerance in game for players who suffer from an intolerant environment in real life, of course (When it comes to internal struggles and self-doubts on the other hand, a thing I often hear of: That's something I never experienced and therefore can't relate to, so I'm not the best person to say anything about that). So, yes, this would be nothing I'd complain about, "realistic" or not. I can understand very well that people who are subjected to homophobia in real life want a break from that in game.
If we'd want to include themes like being rejected by the family for loving the wrong person, we'd have to consider other factors than the people's sex that would make sense in Tamriel. Something like enemy tribes, a cultural problem of some kind, of the usual Dunmer House issues (although at ESO's time it's much less serious than later in the 3rd era). Something that fits the lore.
To be fair, homophobia /could/ exist in nobility (especially Altmer and Dunmer) and we just aren’t shown this possibly because of the current climate of “if you write about this you must be supporting it”. I don’t know how gender could be a problem in TES though. If ZOS wanted a “I can’t love you because we’re lgbtq+“ story, I feel like the best setting would be in nobility. Instead of being a hulkynd, “Tan” could’ve been of high status betrothed to another Altmer (male). Could’ve had a plotline about trying to get out of this marriage only to find the to-be-Husband is also gay and in the end the two can have a lavender marriage (a marriage for social reasons, particularly to hide that one or both partners are gay).
Edit: or if ZOS really wanted to focus on the nonbinary, make a nonbinary argonian grappling with the male-female cycle granted by the Hist. Could be genderfluid, often going to the Hist and changing sex. Could be agender, struggling to feel right no matter what sex they choose. I mean, prime real estate here, argonians literally can and do change their sex, not just their gender.
Elvenheart wrote: »SteveCampsOut wrote: »You could all just do as I do and ignore their storyline and make your own up in your head. Once their main quest is over, you don't have to deal with the bad writing anymore.
I’ve had to do this with Tanlorin’s story as well. A much better story would have been exploring why they couldn’t control their powers and working with/mending the rift between them and their family. To be honest, that is what I expected, not this old hackneyed spy ring/betrayal from within plot that’s been done thousands of times everywhere else with some real-world politics sprinkled in to add edginess. It could have been someone in their family was jealous and sabotaging them magically, or they could have been cursed at an early age by some strange artifact, or even a Daedric Prince could have been in involved.
This is a bit off topic, but after saying what I just said, I do have to say that Zerith-Var’s story has been one of my most favorite in all the years I’ve been playing ESO. No spoilers, but it actually made me weepy in the end! 🥲
Elvenheart wrote: »I wonder if with some changes to the story it would have been better to have made Tanloren a Bosmer?