Do you call game friends by their irl names?

Elvenheart

TechMaybeHic wrote: »

xilfxlegion wrote: »

my gf and i call each other by out gamertags --- we met in eso

and her parents call me legion even after i have told them my real name multiple times

I was about to say, Xilfx doesn't exactly roll off the tongue.

I don’t know…”EX-il-FEX”, the way I would pronounce it, does have a certain ring to it!

ArchMikem

Way back when I actually had "Game Friends", I still referred to them by their Gamertags. They weren't real Friends, we only played together in the Guild, and now they're gone.

Syldras

TechMaybeHic wrote: »

I was about to say, Xilfx doesn't exactly roll off the tongue.

Same level as Krrztrrb or Xxthauaa.

TheImperfect

Nobody ever asked but I don't give out my name - don't know their names either - it never came up in conversation.

shadyjane62

No.

thorwyn

Mesite wrote: »

Wait, you all have friends in real life?

I managed to unlock one or two during my time. Can't recommend, the story line is rather boring.
That being said, the majority of real life chars are NPCs and/or quest givers.

Daoin

i find it much better to keep a good wide seperation between what i call in game friends and rl friends. i think a name is ok along as theres that huge gap between what a rl friend and online friend is and how you interact with them. mostly though i have told people my rl name and 99% of the time im called by my in game name by them. like in my guilds and such.

SilverBride

I talk to my real life friends a couple of times a week and we text here and there. Getting together isn't as easy because we don't live very close to each other. But I talk to my game friends pretty much every day. Regardless, I still am not comfortable being called by my real name in game.

I finally got my game friend to stop calling me by my real name but the first thing he said was "Can I call you dear then?" I said "No." and he hasn't, but when I logged on the next day first thing he said to me was "Good morning, Sunshine."

I really don't understand the resistance to just calling me Silver but I'm pretty much done if it doesn't stop.

SugaComa

On the playstation you have two tier system for friends ... close friends allows you to share your full name usually I reserve this for family members and friends I met in the real world first but occasionally I'll share with someone I met online if I've known them long enough. But most people still refer to me as suga (sugar) or coma even if they know my real name

Warhawke_80

Personally I have always been creeped out by people wanting to know my name...just asking is a Block/Mute

This is the whole issue I have when any MMO developer tells me that they want forced grouping public Dungeons because they want you to meet "Lifelong Friends"

People in general are Horrible to Sociopathic so no thank you I play MMO's to play with my real life family/Friends I don't need some unknown up in my business'.

spartaxoxo

SilverBride wrote: »

I really don't understand the resistance to just calling me Silver but I'm pretty much done if it doesn't stop.

Perhaps yu should ask them exactly that. "Why can't you just call me Silver? That's what I want to be called."

Maybe they have like a bad connection with that name from someone else and want to differentiate you somehow. Or maybe it's just mindless.

Idk just what I would do.

SilverBride

spartaxoxo wrote: »

SilverBride wrote: »

I really don't understand the resistance to just calling me Silver but I'm pretty much done if it doesn't stop.

Perhaps yu should ask them exactly that. "Why can't you just call me Silver? That's what I want to be called."

Maybe they have like a bad connection with that name from someone else and want to differentiate you somehow. Or maybe it's just mindless.

Idk just what I would do.

I am going to if it happens again, but honestly I don't care why he does it as long as he stops.

TaSheen

Warhawke_80 wrote: »

Personally I have always been creeped out by people wanting to know my name...just asking is a Block/Mute

This is the whole issue I have when any MMO developer tells me that they want forced grouping public Dungeons because they want you to meet "Lifelong Friends"

People in general are Horrible to Sociopathic so no thank you I play MMO's to play with my real life family/Friends I don't need some unknown up in my business'.

Oh yeah. I too have that reaction....

I don't do grouping (forced or otherwise). Some of it's because I don't want "lifelong friends". And some of it's because my satellite connection isn't really going to implement that sort of interaction. Mega ping....

But really - it's that I'm not going to be interested in that sort of "group interaction". I'm.... a loner. I don't really interact with anyone outside of husband - except when forced. And when forced.... I hate it, and I'm not ever planning to go there again. I don't even have much interaction with my family, as none of them have any interest in what I enjoy.

Husband at least is perfectly happy to let me have fun my way....

Warhawke_80

TaSheen wrote: »

But really - it's that I'm not going to be interested in that sort of "group interaction". I'm.... a loner. I don't really interact with anyone outside of husband - except when forced. And when forced.... I hate it, and I'm not ever planning to go there again. I don't even have much interaction with my family, as none of them have any interest in what I enjoy.

That's me to a T only instead of Husband it's wife

I don't want to take this off the rails and I'm really new to this forums protocols so apologies to the OP ...but do you think that the devs are just oblivious ( I don't mean Oblivious as a pejorative I don't have too many words in my arsenal) to the state how online interaction works these days? As I said people in general are Horrible why would they want us to put ourselves out there when really bad things can and does happen if we do?

SilverBride

Warhawke_80 wrote: »

I don't want to take this off the rails and I'm really new to this forums protocols so apologies to the OP ...but do you think that the devs are just oblivious ( I don't mean Oblivious as a pejorative I don't have too many words in my arsenal) to the state how online interaction works these days? As I said people in general are Horrible why would they want us to put ourselves out there when really bad things can and does happen if we do?

The developers aren't telling players to call each other by their real life names.

TaSheen

Warhawke_80 wrote: »

TaSheen wrote: »

But really - it's that I'm not going to be interested in that sort of "group interaction". I'm.... a loner. I don't really interact with anyone outside of husband - except when forced. And when forced.... I hate it, and I'm not ever planning to go there again. I don't even have much interaction with my family, as none of them have any interest in what I enjoy.

That's me to a T only instead of Husband it's wife

I don't want to take this off the rails and I'm really new to this forums protocols so apologies to the OP ...but do you think that the devs are just oblivious ( I don't mean Oblivious as a pejorative I don't have too many words in my arsenal) to the state how online interaction works these days? As I said people in general are Horrible why would they want us to put ourselves out there when really bad things can and does happen if we do?

It's a problem. I've been online since the 90s. At first, I never gave any info to anyone. Then later (after finding people who played the same games I did)), I opened up to people with whom I felt a connection.

I've got very good friends now, who play this game, and others (well.... um.... they play the fallouts - thought I don't like them less for playing those..... I have a serious issue with post-apocolypse games which doesn't have anything to do with TES....)

Yes. People aren't.... um.... nice - in general, and online can be very bad. But you do meet people who ARE nice. And after years of contact, sometimes you have a neutral meeting ground.

I never discount the ability to think "outside my barriers". Some of the most rewarding interactions have been because I just decided to go with the flow - a feeling I had. And yes, I have been burned. But that's the price of living in this world today. I wouldn't change a thing though - except to wish I could have had a computer 20 years before my first one - in 1985...

And.... I'm not feeling well tonight - I don't sleep well when it's dark moon, and then I had a 140 mile drive today - and facing another 80 mile drive tomorrow because husband's hearing aids are not behaving.... and then kids over the weekend. Times like this I just want to run away - somewhere it's about 40 degrees and raining - or even 30 and snowing.

So - if I totally didn't make sense.... I'm sorry.

Warhawke_80

TaSheen wrote: »

Warhawke_80 wrote: »

Personally I have always been creeped out by people wanting to know my name...just asking is a Block/Mute

This is the whole issue I have when any MMO developer tells me that they want forced grouping public Dungeons because they want you to meet "Lifelong Friends"

People in general are Horrible to Sociopathic so no thank you I play MMO's to play with my real life family/Friends I don't need some unknown up in my business'.

Oh yeah. I too have that reaction....

I don't do grouping (forced or otherwise). Some of it's because I don't want "lifelong friends". And some of it's because my satellite connection isn't really going to implement that sort of interaction. Mega ping....

But really - it's that I'm not going to be interested in that sort of "group interaction". I'm.... a loner. I don't really interact with anyone outside of husband - except when forced. And when forced.... I hate it, and I'm not ever planning to go there again. I don't even have much interaction with my family, as none of them have any interest in what I enjoy.

Husband at least is perfectly happy to let me have fun my way....

SilverBride wrote: »

Warhawke_80 wrote: »

I don't want to take this off the rails and I'm really new to this forums protocols so apologies to the OP ...but do you think that the devs are just oblivious ( I don't mean Oblivious as a pejorative I don't have too many words in my arsenal) to the state how online interaction works these days? As I said people in general are Horrible why would they want us to put ourselves out there when really bad things can and does happen if we do?

The developers aren't telling players to call each other by their real life names.

sorry...I wasn't implying that

Munkfist

Even though my core group has met in person (from as far as the UK for a meetup in Toronto), we still call each other by our gametags, maybe out of habit, or just because it's a comfort for all of us. Outside of the game, we tend to use our IRL names.

It just keeps things consistent in games, and doesn't confuse others that don't know our names.

Holycannoli

I don't even want them calling me by my account name. Call me by my character name. If you have account names set in chat instead of character names turn it off and get my character name.

Ajaxcat

I don't give out my real name. The few people who actually know it know not to use it. I don't use theirs either. One guild I was in didn't like that so I left it within 24hrs (they would have kicked me anyway since I wouldn't tell them it). BTW I am just talking about Real First name. In general I don't volunteer much about RL, not even what I do for a living or where etc. Many I'm odd but I consider this a make believe world and I like keeping things separate.

SilverBride

Holycannoli wrote: »

I don't even want them calling me by my account name. Call me by my character name. If you have account names set in chat instead of character names turn it off and get my character name.

I use account names because I am not going to memorize who everyone's alts are.

SandandStars

I have no game friends. I come to ESO to kill.

😬

SithisKhajitiiLamae

I have an irl friend i met in high school before we started gaming together.


I accidentally called him his online handle at school but i never call him by his real name unless we are on the phone talking. If its on the game even if its just the two of us in a party we use our gamer names

Carcamongus

Depends on the friend and the circumstances. I call one of my best ESO friends by their game name, even though I know their real one. Meanwhile, another friend gets called by her real life one, possibly because her @name isn't very convenient for that purpose, possibly because everyone already called her by her real name. The rule of thumb for me seems to be to call people by their game names, and real ones are the exception. Very few people know my real name and everyone just calls me Carc, Carca, etc.

Marcus684

I joined a long-established guild in another MMO where everyone called each other by their real names, and even after 3 months I never got passed the confusion of trying to correlate every [game name] to every [real name] based solely on the sound of their voice, which I personally find difficult. After a few times of someone getting annoyed because I didn't know that [game name] was actually [real name] I gave up and left the guild. My ESO guildies all call each other by a form of their @ name and I greatly prefer this. I've picked up a few real names but would never dream of using them in public without their express permission stated desire that I do so, even though one guild founder is well known throughout the community by his real name.

Kappachi

I'd never give my first name nor any other part of my name out, therefore my in-game friends don't call me by those names but they may call me by names they've seen me use on other platforms like "Sachi", which I only mind if I'm streaming since I don't want people to go looking up my other game accounts if they see someone mention a name.

SilverBride

Well I've learned that no one else will get my real name in the future. Actually there are only 2 people I've met in ESO that know it anyway.

Zyva

lol, I've met some in-game friends irl, and still we called each other by our @ Names which might seem weird and awkward to other people outside the friend group, but those are the names we all know each other by. If anything, @names become your nicknames, just a part of who you are after years and years of going by them.

Dragonredux

Only two of my online friends knows my real name and that's really only because we wanted to send each other something through the mail. We still use our online name when chatting. It just feels weird using your real name when I haven't seen you in person.

FantasticFreddie

1) this person is not your friend

2) No, I call them by their in game name, and if they have a weird name I ask what they want to be called.