why would anyone invite someone to a dating site on eso?!

Blinx

seriously, I play the game, to play the game, are people actually trying to get a hook-up on eso, cuz thats just sad imo.
I do not use a mic, or text much in game, so what would anyone find attractive about me?, I just lol'd, then got creeped out and logged.

LoneStar2911

.....Oooookay. Nice post.

SilverBride

All you had to do was say not interested.

spartaxoxo

Someone was interested in you, for whatever reason.

amm7sb14_ESO

1. I completely understand that none of us are here on ESO to find a date, and having someone approach you in that manner is very off-putting.

2. There are stories of people finding their love in video games all the time. A couple of my personal best friends are a husband and wife that originally met in WoW, progressed their relationship online off of WoW, and then progressed that to a real life relationship and have now been married for something like 10 years or something. I have personally made good friends that I keep in touch with to this day via MMO's. It can happen.

gariondavey

They must have been drawn to your _______ and your ______ or possibly even your ______.

VaxtinTheWolf

This is why I'm sometimes nervous about whispering a compliment towards a character whose outfit of overall appearance may have caught my eye for one reason or another. You never know how the recipient will react to it.

xeNNNNN

amm7sb14_ESO wrote: »

1. I completely understand that none of us are here on ESO to find a date, and having someone approach you in that manner is very off-putting.

2. There are stories of people finding their love in video games all the time. A couple of my personal best friends are a husband and wife that originally met in WoW, progressed their relationship online off of WoW, and then progressed that to a real life relationship and have now been married for something like 10 years or something. I have personally made good friends that I keep in touch with to this day via MMO's. It can happen.

Yep, love can blossom even in the most unlikely places or even in an unintended place, its what people call a happy accident.

I've made friends for life in ESO and through them met others. They even did a surprise visit and showed up at my front door years back, I was beyond shocked and so damned happy at the same time (they had planned it for a year and secretly using the where do we all live convo to get it going haha). I'm invited to one my friends weddings as well. Friendship, Love, it can all happen in a video game environment - people just need to be willing to bring it to the real world after it starts.

what_the

Blinx wrote: »

seriously, I play the game, to play the game, are people actually trying to get a hook-up on eso, cuz thats just sad imo.
I do not use a mic, or text much in game, so what would anyone find attractive about me?, I just lol'd, then got creeped out and logged.

or maybe its just the fist part of a scam...

Elsonso

Are they attracted to you... or your character??

I find that running around the game as an attractive female will generate more... ahem... interest... than running around the game looking like... well... Bastien.

(Edit: to be clear... the "interest" very rarely comes to asking her out on a date at the Rosy Lion. More the screeching to a halt, pausing, then continuing on)

Goregrinder

Well I'm guessing the Pandemic made everyone branch out to other avenues to look for love. I mean, I wouldn't look for love on ESO. I made that mistake in WoW and am now happily divorced. But you know, when you're young, you cast your fishing line out wherever you can I guess.

Blinx

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

Goregrinder

Blinx wrote: »

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

That's pretty much a Facebook bot roaming around on ESO.

xeNNNNN

Goregrinder wrote: »

Blinx wrote: »

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

That's pretty much a Facebook bot roaming around on ESO.

Easiest solution to that is just to block and report them lol

Goregrinder

xeNNNNN wrote: »

Goregrinder wrote: »

Blinx wrote: »

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

That's pretty much a Facebook bot roaming around on ESO.

Easiest solution to that is just to block and report them lol

Well yeah. My solution is to go in Offline status, so no one can whisper me.

SilverBride

xeNNNNN wrote: »

Goregrinder wrote: »

Blinx wrote: »

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

That's pretty much a Facebook bot roaming around on ESO.

Easiest solution to that is just to block and report them lol

Report them for what? For reaching out for a possible friendship? Nothing in that exchange was offensive. And the OP could have just said not interested and moved on.

Blinx

[quote="Goregrinder;c-7299121"That's pretty much a Facebook bot roaming around on ESO. [/quote]

the gamer is listed in my recently played with tabs, met doing one of the geysers in summerset, I don;t think bots actually play, but I could be wrong

Tesman85

Maybe they fell in love with your mad skillz?

Well, okay, to be serious that sounds rather weird if you haven't had any previous personal interaction with him/her. Might be a part of a romance scam, or someone who is desperately lonely and/or unstable (in which case it's rather sad and maybe even a bit sympathetic). Best to ignore that kind of thing or if you're feeling polite, just say you're not interested and leave it at that.

Elsonso

Goregrinder wrote: »

Blinx wrote: »

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

That's pretty much a Facebook bot roaming around on ESO.

I was going to say... obviously, some bot took a wrong turn and ended up here.

Danikat

amm7sb14_ESO wrote: »

1. I completely understand that none of us are here on ESO to find a date, and having someone approach you in that manner is very off-putting.

2. There are stories of people finding their love in video games all the time. A couple of my personal best friends are a husband and wife that originally met in WoW, progressed their relationship online off of WoW, and then progressed that to a real life relationship and have now been married for something like 10 years or something. I have personally made good friends that I keep in touch with to this day via MMO's. It can happen.

I met my husband on a music forum, so not quite the same but not entirely different in that I don't think anyone signed up there to find a date.

But I'd say there's a big difference between getting to know someone through a shared interest and the relationship developing over time and having a brief interaction with someone then asking them to add you on a dating site. "We were briefly in the same virtual space, how about a date?" seems very direct and off-putting to me. It makes it seem like they're just flinging invites out to anyone who meets some minimum criteria and aren't necessarily interested in you as a person at all, they're just hoping if they ask enough people someone will accept.

VaxtinTheWolf wrote: »

This is why I'm sometimes nervous about whispering a compliment towards a character whose outfit of overall appearance may have caught my eye for one reason or another. You never know how the recipient will react to it.

I think there's a clear difference between "I really like the way you combined those motifs, nice [whatever] theme" or even "that costume looks really good for your character, totally suits her aesthetic!" and "Hi, we just did X together, add me on this dating site!"

Jaimeh

VaxtinTheWolf wrote: »

This is why I'm sometimes nervous about whispering a compliment towards a character whose outfit of overall appearance may have caught my eye for one reason or another. You never know how the recipient will react to it.

Saying it in the /say zone is always a safe way to compliment someone's character. I've gotten both whispers and 'says' about my outfits, and I don't mind either, but when I want to tell someone that I like their character, I do it in /s zone, as not to trouble them. The other day I saw a toon that looked exactly like Sai Sahan, and was called 'Sigh Sahan' and I thought it was brilliant, so I just wrote it in zone, and hopefully the player read it

Lauranae

I met my husband on an old MMO called Asheron's call and we were even married in game by a Dev doing the ceremony, and giving us rings at the end.

I did not expected love on a game for sur, but it happened, and since my life has been only love.

i can understand it seems strange for some, but its not different that beeing suddenly accosted by someone in the street or in a coffee, or anywhere.

So dont creep, says no in a formal way or tell him you are married, you are not interested or as my husband use to answer : i am a tall fat man with a grey beard watching tv and you ? :P

amm7sb14_ESO

Danikat wrote: »

amm7sb14_ESO wrote: »

1. I completely understand that none of us are here on ESO to find a date, and having someone approach you in that manner is very off-putting.

2. There are stories of people finding their love in video games all the time. A couple of my personal best friends are a husband and wife that originally met in WoW, progressed their relationship online off of WoW, and then progressed that to a real life relationship and have now been married for something like 10 years or something. I have personally made good friends that I keep in touch with to this day via MMO's. It can happen.

I met my husband on a music forum, so not quite the same but not entirely different in that I don't think anyone signed up there to find a date.

But I'd say there's a big difference between getting to know someone through a shared interest and the relationship developing over time and having a brief interaction with someone then asking them to add you on a dating site. "We were briefly in the same virtual space, how about a date?" seems very direct and off-putting to me. It makes it seem like they're just flinging invites out to anyone who meets some minimum criteria and aren't necessarily interested in you as a person at all, they're just hoping if they ask enough people someone will accept.

VaxtinTheWolf wrote: »

This is why I'm sometimes nervous about whispering a compliment towards a character whose outfit of overall appearance may have caught my eye for one reason or another. You never know how the recipient will react to it.

I think there's a clear difference between "I really like the way you combined those motifs, nice [whatever] theme" or even "that costume looks really good for your character, totally suits her aesthetic!" and "Hi, we just did X together, add me on this dating site!"

Sure, I can certainly get that, and me currently being engaged aside, even if I wasn't I'd still be pretty off put by something lime that myself.

But after seeing the message that was sent, it was clearly a bot.

Marcus_Thracius

If someone whispers me , i just throw mud at them , ignore them then report them for harrasment !!!
When ppl say hi to me , they are in my personal space , so its immediately report , asking zos to ban then for life for hate crimes vs me ! we are living in 2021 after all

spartaxoxo

Blinx wrote: »

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

That actually sounds like a scammer. I'd have reported that.

Caligamy_ESO

I was at Chipotle yesterday having lunch on their outdoor patio and some car full of bros drove by and started screaming their phone number at the girl sitting behind me from 1/2 a block away.

Some people just be out there doin these things.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Chips_Ahoy

Blinx wrote: »

I was actually playing a male character, and the message sent to me was " Hi, I really enjoyed our game add me on (dating website), my nickname is (hot********), maybe we can get to know each other"

totally a scam attempt.

But if you are lucky enough to receive an email from some reptilian general named Chips_Ahoy and he asks you to send a lot of gold with the promise of giving you double back ...

It's legit, send the gold, do not hesitate.

Alucardo

Elsonso wrote: »

I find that running around the game as an attractive female will generate more... ahem... interest... than running around the game looking like... well... Bastien.

Bastian is kinda hot tbh. He reminds me of Tom Ellis.

jircris11

Blinx wrote: »

seriously, I play the game, to play the game, are people actually trying to get a hook-up on eso, cuz thats just sad imo.
I do not use a mic, or text much in game, so what would anyone find attractive about me?, I just lol'd, then got creeped out and logged.

Met my now wife on a mmo. Stranger things can happen. But yea i dont understand random solicitations of such things. Though might i recommend not lol'ing at them, my friend use to and eventually one if them not only hacked his account but found where they live. Trust me the internet us no where as anonymous as ppl think.

jircris11

Blinx wrote: »

[quote="Goregrinder;c-7299121"That's pretty much a Facebook bot roaming around on ESO.

the gamer is listed in my recently played with tabs, met doing one of the geysers in summerset, I don;t think bots actually play, but I could be wrong

[/quote]

They do and do not. There us always ONE live person contoling that train.

Blinx

ended up blocking the person/bot whatever, didn't realize when I posted they were also listed as one of my "followers"