anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »WolfingHour wrote: »Do you usually completely disregard people that greet you in the street? Like literally turn your face and carry on with your life? If you go for a coffee, do you not greet the person behind the counter?
If you answer yes to any of this then I don't know what to tell except that you are being rude and inconsiderate. To be clear, I don't WANT you to do anything, but I do EXPECT you to answer. If you don't then I WILL judge, not at face value but rather from information you provided.
Well, it depends.
I used to live in a big city and now I live in a small village. In big cities, you don't say "hello" to people you don't already know. People in the streets will be scared if you do. They'll think you'll ask something, tell them your life, try to go to bed with you, or distract you while pickpocketing you. Stuff like that. You just don't say hello to strangers in big cities.
In a small village, you do. Everyone does. It sounds nice the first couple of days, but it gets old very quickly. It's something everyone does, but not out of courtesy or attention or politeness, but just out of habit, without really noticing they do it.
Same goes for people behind counters : they hear it all day, they don't care. An overall polite and respectful tone and attitude expresses more than a standard, anonymous greeting.
On the internet, I usually refrain from saying "hello" or "goodbye". Remember those IRC groups where nobody was saying anything and the chat box was just a succession of "hello" and "bye" or "brb" or "afk" over hundreds of lines ? That's just plain ridiculous, and ESO guild chat looks like that more often than not. I simply refrain from saying hi/thx/bb for that reason.
In a PUG, I'll avoid that too, but I will try to say something less generic and more personal, like if the run was fun or particularly efficient or nice for whatever reason. But not just simply hi/bb, which is imho worse than not saying anything at all.
I will answer if someone says hi, but there again, I'll try to add something.
TL-DR : greeting or not greeting in a PUG chat can mean anything, everything and nothing, depending on the person, and it is in no way a criteria to judge someone's level of courtesy. OP is in my opinion very narrow-minded.
Wow! You have a terrible idea of big cities. I've lived in NYC, Chicago, Miami, San Francisco, Paris, Munich, London and a number of other cities and I have never lived in silence and w/out acknowledging the presence of my fellow dwellers, nor have they me. We do not live in fear of others.
david_m_18b16_ESO wrote: »The worst is when you queue as tank. I always start saying Hi and ask if everyoens ready, so poeple have the time to swap pvp/solo items/gear for their dungeon setup.
Half the time their is a magicka DPS pulling it all.
Sheezabeast wrote: »LadySinflower wrote: »To be quite honest, when is there time to type a greeting? Any PUG I've ever been in, everyone immediately starts running and its all I can do to catch up. I don't have time to mess with text chat! If I tried to type a greeting the others would be halfway done before I got out "hello!"
Typing “hi” takes two key strokes and a third to hit enter. Let’s not pretend you don’t text on your phone at a much faster rate.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »Wow! You have a terrible idea of big cities. I've lived in NYC, Chicago, Miami, San Francisco, Paris, Munich, London and a number of other cities and I have never lived in silence and w/out acknowledging the presence of my fellow dwellers, nor have they me. We do not live in fear of others.
It's not an "idea" : it's the truth. And it surely applies to you, too. And it's not "sad", it's just a quantitative matter. Let's set NYC, Chicago and Frisco aside, since I've never set foot in those, but Paris, Munich and London I happen to know very well, and not only as a tourist. There are simply too many people there : do you really say hello to every single person you cross ? No. That would mean you'd frantically say "hello" every second for hours.
BretonMage wrote: »I also want to say that there is a big difference between doing a dungeon with 3 other people, and randomly saying hi to people on the street. In a dungeon, you're a team working on something together. It makes it far easier and more pleasant if you're decent and polite to your team members.
Sheezabeast wrote: »LadySinflower wrote: »To be quite honest, when is there time to type a greeting? Any PUG I've ever been in, everyone immediately starts running and its all I can do to catch up. I don't have time to mess with text chat! If I tried to type a greeting the others would be halfway done before I got out "hello!"
Typing “hi” takes two key strokes and a third to hit enter. Let’s not pretend you don’t text on your phone at a much faster rate.
Not true if you're on console--you have to access the chat menu and then use your stupid controller to scroll through letters, so this has happened to me. But I do try to have voicechat whenever I engage in any kind of group activity.
I plug a wireless keyboard in to my PS4. Makes chat so much easier.
Vuylstekeara wrote: »I usually don't greet in PuGs either. Don't take it personal, it's nothing against you, I just find it unnecessary. What's polite about that if nobody really needs it or cares that much anyway? Get in, do your job, get out, everyone is happy, or could be at least, greeted or not.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »
I'm not saying we shouldn't greet PUG fellows in dungeons. I'm saying we shouldn't judge people who don't. They're not necessarily the rude selfish people the OP make them sound like. And also, that "hi" and "bb" alone don't mean much.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »I plug a wireless keyboard in to my PS4. Makes chat so much easier.
Yeah, that's the funny thing about console players. They argue it's a cheaper and more convenient way of playing than on PC, that they can lay on the couch, etc... but then they have to plug in a mic, then a keyboard, and end up with the same load of peripherals that we PCers have on our desks ;-)
(Not wanting to start a PCMasterRace discussion here, but it just makes me smile ;-) )
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anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »WolfingHour wrote: »Do you usually completely disregard people that greet you in the street? Like literally turn your face and carry on with your life? If you go for a coffee, do you not greet the person behind the counter?
If you answer yes to any of this then I don't know what to tell except that you are being rude and inconsiderate. To be clear, I don't WANT you to do anything, but I do EXPECT you to answer. If you don't then I WILL judge, not at face value but rather from information you provided.
Well, it depends.
I used to live in a big city and now I live in a small village. In big cities, you don't say "hello" to people you don't already know. People in the streets will be scared if you do. They'll think you'll ask something, tell them your life, try to go to bed with you, or distract you while pickpocketing you. Stuff like that. You just don't say hello to strangers in big cities.
In a small village, you do. Everyone does. It sounds nice the first couple of days, but it gets old very quickly. It's something everyone does, but not out of courtesy or attention or politeness, but just out of habit, without really noticing they do it.
Same goes for people behind counters : they hear it all day, they don't care. An overall polite and respectful tone and attitude expresses more than a standard, anonymous greeting.
On the internet, I usually refrain from saying "hello" or "goodbye". Remember those IRC groups where nobody was saying anything and the chat box was just a succession of "hello" and "bye" or "brb" or "afk" over hundreds of lines ? That's just plain ridiculous, and ESO guild chat looks like that more often than not. I simply refrain from saying hi/thx/bb for that reason.
In a PUG, I'll avoid that too, but I will try to say something less generic and more personal, like if the run was fun or particularly efficient or nice for whatever reason. But not just simply hi/bb, which is imho worse than not saying anything at all.
I will answer if someone says hi, but there again, I'll try to add something.
TL-DR : greeting or not greeting in a PUG chat can mean anything, everything and nothing, depending on the person, and it is in no way a criteria to judge someone's level of courtesy. OP is in my opinion very narrow-minded.
Wow! You have a terrible idea of big cities. I've lived in NYC, Chicago, Miami, San Francisco, Paris, Munich, London and a number of other cities and I have never lived in silence and w/out acknowledging the presence of my fellow dwellers, nor have they me. We do not live in fear of others.
Realize that I am a very large and intimidating person (not on purpose, I just am) and no-one has ever feared to speak with me or return a smile.
That just strikes me as a very sad way to live.
anitajoneb17_ESO wrote: »WolfingHour wrote: »Do you usually completely disregard people that greet you in the street? Like literally turn your face and carry on with your life? If you go for a coffee, do you not greet the person behind the counter?
If you answer yes to any of this then I don't know what to tell except that you are being rude and inconsiderate. To be clear, I don't WANT you to do anything, but I do EXPECT you to answer. If you don't then I WILL judge, not at face value but rather from information you provided.
Well, it depends.
I used to live in a big city and now I live in a small village. In big cities, you don't say "hello" to people you don't already know. People in the streets will be scared if you do. They'll think you'll ask something, tell them your life, try to go to bed with you, or distract you while pickpocketing you. Stuff like that. You just don't say hello to strangers in big cities.
In a small village, you do. Everyone does. It sounds nice the first couple of days, but it gets old very quickly. It's something everyone does, but not out of courtesy or attention or politeness, but just out of habit, without really noticing they do it.
Same goes for people behind counters : they hear it all day, they don't care. An overall polite and respectful tone and attitude expresses more than a standard, anonymous greeting.
On the internet, I usually refrain from saying "hello" or "goodbye". Remember those IRC groups where nobody was saying anything and the chat box was just a succession of "hello" and "bye" or "brb" or "afk" over hundreds of lines ? That's just plain ridiculous, and ESO guild chat looks like that more often than not. I simply refrain from saying hi/thx/bb for that reason.
In a PUG, I'll avoid that too, but I will try to say something less generic and more personal, like if the run was fun or particularly efficient or nice for whatever reason. But not just simply hi/bb, which is imho worse than not saying anything at all.
I will answer if someone says hi, but there again, I'll try to add something.
TL-DR : greeting or not greeting in a PUG chat can mean anything, everything and nothing, depending on the person, and it is in no way a criteria to judge someone's level of courtesy. OP is in my opinion very narrow-minded.