What you're showing here is evidence of humanity, not a problem with the group finder. It's just a symptom of sharing the world, even if it's a virtual world, with other people.
As with every slice of society some people will be truly benevolent, some will be complete ***, and most will fall somewhere in between. Game designers have no ability, and no obligation, to design around that.
Its more of a cultural shift. It started in 2000 and progressed 'downhill' for next 5 years to what we see now. When I played MMORPGs back in 2001. People were extremely tolerant of new players. So much so they almost sought them out. I remember playing a lowbie warrior in Everquest and didn't know what the term 'tank' even meant. Group I was in just told me what it basically (and I do mean basically) how to make it work and told me to do my best.
Well no one likes play with noobs. That's the reality.
"He's only 130cp!" Strike one.
"He's using two handed as a DPS!" Strike two.
"*votekick* *votekick* *votekick* *votekick*" STRIKE THREE! Anonymous whiny guy, you're out!
Seriously, I've had many smooth runs in PUGs filled with guys less than 100cp. It only really becomes an issue in the harder stuff like CoA2 or DLC dungeons.
And the part about two handed dps? WTF!? As long as stuff dies without too much fuss, I don't give a rat's ass what they use. They can use a board with a nail in it for all I care.
But the icing on the cake here is that even if this was in a DLC dungeon and the DPS in question announced to everyone that the only thing he was going to do was spam light attacks, the votekick guy had the wrong attitude.
Well I've not played for about a year and thought I would give it another try yesterday. I decided to go to a normal dungeon that I know well (Spindleclutch) to ease me back into my healing role.
The first group I joined we got a couple of pulls into the dungeon and the tank tried to kick one of the dps because they weren't doing enough damage. I wouldn't accept the kick, as I saw they were active and at least using abilities, so I got a torrent of abuse from the tank and he then left.
We couldn't find replacements so I left and tried another group later. This time I got the vote kick popup as soon as I entered with someone claiming the tank's CP was too low (about 50 from what I can remember). Again I didn't accept and again got abuse for not kicking.
This is the type of behaviour that put me off other MMOs and with the introduction of dps meter addons and assigning a "score" to a player is what mostly causes this type of behaviour. I might give it another go today but if this is commonplace then I can't see me staying around for long. The community used to be one of the main draws for me and it looks like it has gone downhill recently. If new players are not made to feel welcome then the playerbase will just stagnate and updates/expansions will be a rarity.
This week i landed atleast in one ignore list. For not carrying low cp. Im cp710+ myself
Queued to vWGT as tank. Had a pledge there.
Party had high cp healer. DDs were cp37 and cp330 or so...
This small convo happens:
Me: How is your dps?
Cp330: How is your skill?
Me: Im fine thank you
(I think asking for dps number was red cloth for the dd...)
I was going to start a votekick the cp37 but healer beat me to it. I vote yes, but it still fails. Apparently cp330 wants to take the cp37 in.
I TY for the party and leave.
Moment later the cp330 whispers me that i suck. I try to reply but he has me blocked.
I do like to help people and normally i don't kick low cp people. But i'm not going to take cp37 to vWGT.
The dude wanted to block me so i blocked him right back.
I'd dare to say that its the medium cp lvl people who are the most toxic in the GF.
Very high cp players simply stay away from it and those who use it are aware of the risks or don't mind the low cp.
I had another happenstance in vCoH:
I queue my best dps, a magplar, for pledge.
Party pops up and healer leaves immediately.
Tank and dd are at final boss.
So what do i do? Leave and take 15min timer or gank the boss? I know he is pushover for me.
I decide to gank the boss.
GF dispenses us a healer and we start the boss.
Tank didn't drag the adds away so they die to my aoe. (jabs, Grothdarr, Blockade etc)
Tank stopped action wanting to wipe and do the hardmode but me and healer just carry on so the hardmode fails.
I really felt that its not my job to carry these people any further and i wanted to get back to my own things.
Im sure they had their chances to complete the hardmode but they couldn't do it.
(They didn't whisper me afterwards though so i don't know how unhappy they were...)
So people, would you have acted differently?