F2P_savior_of_ESO wrote: »there is no real addictive in gambling - just your imagination and execuses
F2P_savior_of_ESO wrote: »there is no real addictive in gambling - just your imagination and execuses
Oh there is. Dopamine and the thrill of winning etc.
But the whole point of these crown crates is to erode your will. Eventually if you keep seeing them, their prizes dangling just out of your reach, you'll shell out for a couple. And 'a couple' over however many players means huge sales.
Integral1900 wrote: »Hello
A good friend had to leave the game he loves today.
He has struggled with an addictive personality all his life, spent a few years in an institution, gambling was one of the strongest pulls, in the past this need has sent him down some very dark paths. Addiction is not a matter of choice, it's a malfunction of the brains craving for risk vs reward, it's the will of the consciousness brain vs the primordial brute force of the subconscious. It is not a battle you win but rather a situation you attempt to understand.
He asked me to write this up as I have known him and his wife most of my life, I myself suffer from fairly extreme social anxiety and so I have some measure of the scale of the opponent he has to confront.
His wife knew the crown crates were coming, we had explained it in detail. So we were prepared when the proverbial storm broke. He has played eso casually as a storyteller, crafter, role player and dungeon fan since launch. He helped found two guilds, both of which are close to capacity. It's one of the few times his mind is totally calm. To use a term from anxiety it's a safe place. That is now over.
When the crates came out he simply couldn't help it, what followed was a stand up row with myself and the love of his life on one side, voices calm and reasonable and an addict fighting his own daemons on the other. He had already blown hundreds of pounds in crowns before we could reason him down. We had a talk and he came to a decision. He asked me to uninstall eso, change the passwords then change the email account to a new one, all with randomised passwords of which no record will be made. This I have done. He is sleeping upstairs now. We asked if we should look for a refund but he just gave a tired smile and shrugged. "Put it down to experience" he said.
He also asked if I would help him tomorrow to have a look for an equally good quality mmo without gambling, from what I hear that may be a challenge but I'm up for it.
Thank you ZOS, thank you so very much
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Integral1900 wrote: »Hello
A good friend had to leave the game he loves today.
He has struggled with an addictive personality all his life, spent a few years in an institution, gambling was one of the strongest pulls, in the past this need has sent him down some very dark paths. Addiction is not a matter of choice, it's a malfunction of the brains craving for risk vs reward, it's the will of the consciousness brain vs the primordial brute force of the subconscious. It is not a battle you win but rather a situation you attempt to understand.
He asked me to write this up as I have known him and his wife most of my life, I myself suffer from fairly extreme social anxiety and so I have some measure of the scale of the opponent he has to confront.
His wife knew the crown crates were coming, we had explained it in detail. So we were prepared when the proverbial storm broke. He has played eso casually as a storyteller, crafter, role player and dungeon fan since launch. He helped found two guilds, both of which are close to capacity. It's one of the few times his mind is totally calm. To use a term from anxiety it's a safe place. That is now over.
When the crates came out he simply couldn't help it, what followed was a stand up row with myself and the love of his life on one side, voices calm and reasonable and an addict fighting his own daemons on the other. He had already blown hundreds of pounds in crowns before we could reason him down. We had a talk and he came to a decision. He asked me to uninstall eso, change the passwords then change the email account to a new one, all with randomised passwords of which no record will be made. This I have done. He is sleeping upstairs now. We asked if we should look for a refund but he just gave a tired smile and shrugged. "Put it down to experience" he said.
He also asked if I would help him tomorrow to have a look for an equally good quality mmo without gambling, from what I hear that may be a challenge but I'm up for it.
Thank you ZOS, thank you so very much
For uk people the following details may be of help
Uk gamcare.com
Tel 0808 8020 133
I'm sorry to hear about that, dude. Unfortunately I can relate. I'm having a battle in my mind whether I can play or not. I'm going to try moving to another platform (losing all progress and past purchases) so I start with nothing. If I still start to feel pressured then...well, I've lost something that made me happy. I'm on Meds for now.
While I can sympathize with this, how does this person go through their lives walking past lotto tickets, scratch offs, carnivals, etc.
I mean, I get it, its an impulse you have to control, but the same way that alcoholics walk past bars and don't drink, gambling addicts must control themselves.
Letting someone be in a situation like this, with access to online funds that could be spent on a system known to be exploitative is reckless at best, if one is known to not have the ability to control ones self.
You don't let a pedo teach kindergarten or a recovered junkie work in a pharmacy, its just bad news.
Again, sympathy for your loss of a friend to play the game with, but they have bigger fish to fry I think.,
Edit:
You should block all access to credit cards from their access and let them open 2 a month (eso+) for the release if they need it, like methadone.
Letting someone be in a situation like this, with access to online funds that could be spent on a system known to be exploitative is reckless at best, if one is known to not have the ability to control ones self.
SolarCat02 wrote: »Integral1900 wrote: »Hello
A good friend had to leave the game he loves today.
He has struggled with an addictive personality all his life, spent a few years in an institution, gambling was one of the strongest pulls, in the past this need has sent him down some very dark paths. Addiction is not a matter of choice, it's a malfunction of the brains craving for risk vs reward, it's the will of the consciousness brain vs the primordial brute force of the subconscious. It is not a battle you win but rather a situation you attempt to understand.
He asked me to write this up as I have known him and his wife most of my life, I myself suffer from fairly extreme social anxiety and so I have some measure of the scale of the opponent he has to confront.
His wife knew the crown crates were coming, we had explained it in detail. So we were prepared when the proverbial storm broke. He has played eso casually as a storyteller, crafter, role player and dungeon fan since launch. He helped found two guilds, both of which are close to capacity. It's one of the few times his mind is totally calm. To use a term from anxiety it's a safe place. That is now over.
When the crates came out he simply couldn't help it, what followed was a stand up row with myself and the love of his life on one side, voices calm and reasonable and an addict fighting his own daemons on the other. He had already blown hundreds of pounds in crowns before we could reason him down. We had a talk and he came to a decision. He asked me to uninstall eso, change the passwords then change the email account to a new one, all with randomised passwords of which no record will be made. This I have done. He is sleeping upstairs now. We asked if we should look for a refund but he just gave a tired smile and shrugged. "Put it down to experience" he said.
He also asked if I would help him tomorrow to have a look for an equally good quality mmo without gambling, from what I hear that may be a challenge but I'm up for it.
Thank you ZOS, thank you so very much
For uk people the following details may be of help
Uk gamcare.com
Tel 0808 8020 133
I'm sorry to hear about that, dude. Unfortunately I can relate. I'm having a battle in my mind whether I can play or not. I'm going to try moving to another platform (losing all progress and past purchases) so I start with nothing. If I still start to feel pressured then...well, I've lost something that made me happy. I'm on Meds for now.
(((HUGS)))
I hope it works.
I love reading your posts, and I would miss them if you had to leave.
That said, do what you need to do!
I was really worried this would be the case, when the Crates came out.
I am sad at not having the option to purchase the mounts locked behind the Crates (not interested in any of the other stuff), but not as sad as I am that ESO is no longer a safe place for so many people.