Does this game make you impolite?

LegendaryMage

vamp_emily wrote: »

Typhoios wrote: »

It sucks. I just keep my head down and keep fighting. You can't force your alliance to play better. You can see the shift in zone chat when things get bad. People start blaming others etc... This only makes it worse and people start working together even less. Really, you just can't take it too seriously. If it is getting overly frustrating, leave. Either go do something else in game or log off and do something relaxing. Came back at it the next day. Cyrodiil will still be there.

Oh my, the more I talk about this the more I see my behavior.

I remember one time I woke up on the weekend and AD was at one of our home keeps ( Glade ), I get there and nobody was there. I get in zone chat and say something like "need help at glade", "nobody is here but me", "am I like the only one on right now?". Then some guy told me to chill and then we got into it. AD took Glade and I got upset and left. Two hours later we had Emp.

Maybe I should just take a break from PvP ( not the game ) and find some beach near Daggerfall and relax for a few weeks. I think that might be best for me.

What you are experiencing is just phase 1, the easy one. The easiest one. Wait until you make certain players rage so much that they develop a deep unexplainable hate passion towards you, that doesn't go away until they themselves go away from the game. That's stage 2.

Then there's stage 3, when people from stage 2 keep spreading rumors and bad things about you, report you in mass for every reason they can come up with and all kinds of other nasty stuff, so then after that you start getting more random players you never saw before doing the same thing for no apparent reason. That's stage 3 and it doesn't get worse than that. They are now not only calling you names, trying to turn your 'friends' against you, trying to report you, stalking you whenever they can, calling your spouse a 'b*tch' and trying to troll you at every step in the game because they have some kind of a sick obsession with you. They are doing everything they can to try and be 'in touch' with you, even though you've put them on ignore long time ago. It's a sick obsession and those people need serious help.

So to survive stage 3 (which I doubt many people can, without getting stressed out incredibly much), you must realize you are playing an online game with a bunch of losers (and kids) that can't handle getting beat on a continuous basis and that's never going to change no matter what you do or say to them. At that point your ignore list has grown considerably and the game kinda starts to feel nice again, when those people aren't appearing in your chat logs anymore.

The real friends also get filtered out in a good way and you can now pvp and pve with people you know for sure are good friends because they stood up for you over and over again no matter what. So out of everything bad that happens to you, something good happens eventually in some way(s). For me personally, haters show me that I'm doing something that's bothering them, something that they want to do but can't for any reason, and they also help me see who my real friends are, and which ones are just pretending to be, for whatever reason.

My only mistake is that I give them the attention they crave so much, but fortunately with little spoons occasionally, but lately I've been cutting out anyone I dislike entirely, putting them on block/ignore as they show up.

If I was 10 years younger or so, I'd be hanging out with them all the way and some of them don't know how lucky they are I'm a bit older nowadays

Speaking from personal experience here, PVPer since early betas.

Now seriously, ESO's community went downhill as soon as the game went b2p. When this stuff goes f2p, expect even worse with more and more 12 year olds infesting the battlefields. Not that I have anything against 12 year olds, but you know...

DenMoria

DeepPlayGamer wrote: »

DenMoria wrote: »

DeepPlayGamer wrote: »

yes , game's like this (MMO) can do this to people or at least trigger an obsession for it . I speak of self experience because i caught my self beeing an a+@ehole or stressed up to other people and others have been serious doucheb@g's to me as well.
It's the competition and the strive for perfection in a sence , also when we consacrate much time into a game every day we want to run it flawlessly . that in combination with headset com all the time can build up any stress ..

it's human

Some humans. I'm not competitive in the least. I'm an a**hat all the time.

ok , i admit .. i have a personality disorder

We should form a support group. The AHF (A**Hats Forever). Maybe a non-profit so we can take donations.

waterfairy

You sound young (I'm gonna guess 19) so you still have time to fix this before it's too late and you end up as a lonely old crazy cat lady
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yuw1W_AN1zk

vamp_emily

LegendaryMage wrote: »

What you are experiencing is just phase 1, the easy one. The easiest one. Wait until you make certain players rage so much that they develop a deep unexplainable hate passion towards you, that doesn't go away until they themselves go away from the game. That's stage 2.

Then there's stage 3, when people from stage 2 keep spreading rumors and bad things about you, report you in mass for every reason they can come up with and all kinds of other nasty stuff, so then after that you start getting more random players you never saw before doing the same thing for no apparent reason. That's stage 3 and it doesn't get worse than that. They are now not only calling you names, trying to turn your 'friends' against you, trying to report you, stalking you whenever they can, calling your spouse a 'b*tch' and trying to troll you at every step in the game because they have some kind of a sick obsession with you. They are doing everything they can to try and be 'in touch' with you, even though you've put them on ignore long time ago. It's a sick obsession and those people need serious help.

So to survive stage 3 (which I doubt many people can, without getting stressed out incredibly much), you must realize you are playing an online game with a bunch of losers (and kids) that can't handle getting beat on a continuous basis and that's never going to change no matter what you do or say to them. At that point your ignore list has grown considerably and the game kinda starts to feel nice again, when those people aren't appearing in your chat logs anymore.

The real friends also get filtered out in a good way and you can now pvp and pve with people you know for sure are good friends because they stood up for you over and over again no matter what. So out of everything bad that happens to you, something good happens eventually in some way(s). For me personally, haters show me that I'm doing something that's bothering them, something that they want to do but can't for any reason, and they also help me see who my real friends are, and which ones are just pretending to be, for whatever reason.

My only mistake is that I give them the attention they crave so much, but fortunately with little spoons occasionally, but lately I've been cutting out anyone I dislike entirely, putting them on block/ignore as they show up.

If I was 10 years younger or so, I'd be hanging out with them all the way and some of them don't know how lucky they are I'm a bit older nowadays

Speaking from personal experience here, PVPer since early betas.

Now seriously, ESO's community went downhill as soon as the game went b2p. When this stuff goes f2p, expect even worse with more and more 12 year olds infesting the battlefields. Not that I have anything against 12 year olds, but you know...

I might be on stage 3 or 4. I think i may have been t-bagged more than anyone in BwB ( or close to it ).
Someone even made a "Rip Emily" video, even though he died he typed in zone "It was worth it".

https://youtu.be/qN4uWDccXAk

NBrookus

vamp_emily wrote: »

Typhoios wrote: »

It sucks. I just keep my head down and keep fighting. You can't force your alliance to play better. You can see the shift in zone chat when things get bad. People start blaming others etc... This only makes it worse and people start working together even less. Really, you just can't take it too seriously. If it is getting overly frustrating, leave. Either go do something else in game or log off and do something relaxing. Came back at it the next day. Cyrodiil will still be there.

Oh my, the more I talk about this the more I see my behavior.

I remember one time I woke up on the weekend and AD was at one of our home keeps ( Glade ), I get there and nobody was there. I get in zone chat and say something like "need help at glade", "nobody is here but me", "am I like the only one on right now?". Then some guy told me to chill and then we got into it. AD took Glade and I got upset and left. Two hours later we had Emp.

Maybe I should just take a break from PvP ( not the game ) and find some beach near Daggerfall and relax for a few weeks. I think that might be best for me.

This sounds like you have trouble coping with pressure and are lashing out. Whether this is true IRL or not, I suspect you are taking what happens in the game too seriously. Situations like that should be frustrating, but play-frustrating. If it is really disturbing you and making you angry, you DO need to take a break. A day. A week. Whatever it takes to regain your perspective. DC will still be obsessed with Chalman when you get back.

The other side of the coin is how players treat you. That you should also not take seriously, because a lot of people are just a**hats online. When I get rage whispers, it's funny. A teabag is immature, but just a ritual that means nothing. There are players I "hate" in game who I'd probably enjoy having a beer with. Because none of it is real except that there are real people on the other side. We have no control over what they do, but we are responsible for our own behavior. You can be competitive, but still show good sportsmanship.

I have decided that henceforth all rage whispers will be responded to with, "Well bless your heart."

Skitttles

No but SoCal traffic does.