It is a part of every pvp mode in every mmorpg. I have received hundreds of hate whispers, been called a lot of things. If people are salty because of you killing them etc., that is what the ignore button is for. Alternatively, you can remain in offline mode while in such situations. Of course you can choose to report them if it gets you that bad. But, if they were to ban everyone for calling each other pejorative words regarding their gaming skills, intelligence etc., the game's population would be drastically lower than it already is now.

Just use ignore button more efficiently or remain appearing offline during such situations where the defeated player may get infuriated for one reason or the other.

I really don't want my post to be victim blaming.

But, in my 6 years of playing, a lot of which has been PVP, I can count on one hand the number of people that have directly reached out to me, and like 2 of those times was negative.

I truly think that the people who seem to get ridiculously flamed in PVP are doing something to call that attention to themselves. T-bagging, bragging, engaging in a back and forth in some way. Something to stand out and actually be targeted in some way.

Either that, or Xbox players just generally have better things to do than messaging random PVP players.

jaws343 wrote: »

I really don't want my post to be victim blaming.

But, in my 6 years of playing, a lot of which has been PVP, I can count on one hand the number of people that have directly reached out to me, and like 2 of those times was negative.

I truly think that the people who seem to get ridiculously flamed in PVP are doing something to call that attention to themselves. T-bagging, bragging, engaging in a back and forth in some way. Something to stand out and actually be targeted in some way.

Either that, or Xbox players just generally have better things to do than messaging random PVP players.

Agreed, in most circumstances. The exception I've seen is players who are simply known females...that's all it takes to receive unwelcome attention online sometimes.

You're already doing what you need to do by playing offline when in PvP land.

Other than that significantly heinous messages that aren't just basic salt nonsense should be reported, even if it feels like nothing will be done about it.

I can assure you that this game doesn't promote toxicity in PvP land. Toxic people just standout more than others.

kity wrote: »

Is it normal to get lots of hate, threats, bullies, trolls, information leaked or worse in The Elder Scrolls Online?

As someone who's played a significant amount of PvP long after reaching max alliance rank to obtain my precious Elder Scroll furnishing, your idea of normal is not normal.

Yes people will t-bag, make threats, criticize you, troll zone, say racist/sexist things, etc. However, this is not the norm and is just something that'll happen every now and then. If you want to play online and someone is being toxic for no reason just block them. The PvP community isn't as bad as some players make it out to be.

Thank you for posting this @Kity.

I understand removing the name but I kind of wish the post hadn't been quite so heavily moderated. I would have liked to have understood the gist of what was being said. Many people troll and abuse online and I think there is not enough recognition or discussion of the impact that can have on some of us. It actually makes on line social interraction difficult if not exclusionary for people with anxiety. I believe it should be treated similarly to other forms of abuse. At a mimimum, you should know if action was taken against the person concerned so that you are not left with a sense of injustice. I can understand how you feel when you see him wandering around.

I will say that I have encountered some of this, but it is greatly offset by what is on the whole a fabulous and supportive community. Players and veteran players especially on here rarely let a cyber bully get past them and will almost always have your back.

I'm sorry you had to live these awful experiences, @Kity. One shouldn't have to be on offline mode to be able to enjoy the game.

In many years playing PvP on and off I've been contacted by enemy players a few times. Curiously, most of these involved helpful comments on my build and in one case (which to this day I can't comprehend), one of them even sent a friend request. It was only a month or so ago that I got my first hate whisper, which derided me for using a "broken set" and called me a kid. Far from being offended, that flattered me, as it meant I was going in the right direction. But that was my experience.

Unfortunately, PvP's very competitive and that can expose people's ugly sides. On the other hand, as my odd examples above show, you can occasionally have pleasant contact with enemy players. It's a good thing you started this discussion, as more people might feel inclined to share their experiences. I hope all the support you've received here will convince you to keep playing.

Edit: Now that I know a little better about the nature of what happened to you, I can say that's absolutely abhorrent. It's not just some generic and uncreative insult, but something designed to be disturbing. I hope ZoS does something about this sooner rather than later.

Boring. Block the people, ignore them. If ye don't want drama, don't be a part of it.

Generally it is all just ordinary humans playing what is an already somewhat aged MMORPG with a lot of "normals", a few "hardcores", many friendly and some not so friendly players. So most of the time, your actions will be the cause of the reactions you get. That's it.

Are there exceptions? Maybe. But if it really would have been "real" bad, I dunno - support would have done something.