I'd try not to be so personally offended by it, and just say no. It's easy to say no. I get why you feel like it's weird for them to message you about an item you got. But saying something like "I don't like spies" can come off as more aggressive and accusatory than asking for an item someone else has in the first place. I'm not sure if it's constructive to bash random groupmates on the forums. Hopefully you have better dungeon runs going forward.

Say no, then block them if you don't want any further interaction. There's no need to elaborate or antagonize them yourself. ZOS does allow those addons, after all.

A lot of players use those addons politely and responsibly. The few who don't give the rest a bad name.


If I had my druthers, my preferred compromise is that ZOS would make that portion of the API anonymous by default like they do for DPS so that players could see what had dropped for everyone but not see who had it. Then we'd have to ask politely in group chat and no one feels directly pressured to give up their item. Players who use the addon might feel that curtails its usefulness too much, but frankly, removing the individual targeting of the player with the item you want would go a long way to stopping the interpersonal conflicts that happen when someone gets too pushy or refuses to politely accept a "No" answer.

That add on should not be in the game. Never give anything too anyone that uses it.

I usually just ask for pieces from a set in group chat and offer a tip its up to the other group members if they want to trade or not, I can see what they got in there drops but don't go whispering or chasing after them.

The only reason I even have an add on that lets me see others drops is because it became a needed dependency or some such by a bunch of other add on's I already had, if those add on's worked without it I would uninstall it.

I dont know man. I think you might be being a little dramatic.

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In my opinion that addon is rude, and people using it and asking me if they can have what the boss dropped for me, before I even get a chance to loot the boss myself to find out what I found, are rude. It's an addon that promotes rude behaviour. If I find anything I'm not keeping, I'll let group know about it at the end of the run. People who expect me to just drop everything to reply to their requests mid-run, will be ignored for the remainder of the run by me, and if I don't need the item, I'll also make sure they are placed in the back of the line for it by the time the run is over. Simply out of spite for that entitled rudeness.

Something that is literally standard in other mmorpgs is considered rude to you? Im not sure that you know what the word entitled means. Bro if people need a certain piece of loot then they will for sure ask for it. You know what I hate in my mmorpgs? Communication with other people in my groups. [snip]

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To be honest the only rude and unappropriate thing I see here is to call someone a spy because a person saves time by using an add-on, looks kinda passive aggressive. Luckily I've never encountered such folk and simple item trading isn't something forbidden for a majority of players.