People. We're why we can't have nice things.


I've had one memorable healer with a bad attitude who was an actual healer, not a fake. And while I found his derogative comments in chat dreadfully annoying as a real tank, I couldn't hold much of a grudge because as we really were doing more damage than either of our two DDs. We ended up leaving them dead during the final Crypt of Hearts 1 fight because they would not obey the mechanics and finished it ourselves. Not something I do often, and I detested admitting that the jerk had a point, but he did.

Maybe he just couldn't find any puppies to kick that day

ArchMikem wrote: »

stefan.gustavsonb16_ESO wrote: »

I would not even have bothered to kick a person with that attitue. I would have just left the group. Some people just need to be left alone to their rage.

In the OPs scenario your decision to just leave would inconvenience the other two good players.

I know. I'm sorry to say it, but I just don't have the energy to care. I'm too old for that, and I prefer not to spend time bothering with jerks. I do not play a game to get involved in drama.

Screenshot or never happened.

That’s not a healer thing, please don’t group that person in with us. That’s just a straight up idiot thing. Would’ve been a kick from me.

I've only encountered one rude healer in my PUG experience and he was...something else.

It was vICP HM and the healer only had around 12k health so of course he couldn't stay alive and he didn't understand the synergy mechanic to avoid the boss' one-shot. The fight was taking much longer than it needed since our DPS spent most of the time rezzing the healer instead of attacking the boss. It eventually got to the point where we just left him dead and continued on with the fight since we had enough self-heals for the fight. By the end of the fight he was yelling at us (in all caps) to rez him and that we were being useless teammates. The irony of him calling US useless was incredibly funny. After the dungeon was finished he continued sending me messages about how useless of a teammate I was so I pointed out to him that it wasn't my fault he only had 12k health and didn't understand the mechanics to the fight despite the fact that we repeatedly explained them to him. I then mailed him some Witchmother's Brew to let him know that he should be using food such as that, but he then blocked me and declined the mail.

Each role can have toxic players I don't really come across such toxic players when on my main DPS or alt DPS. But when I'm on my Healer I come across more a--hole tanks who either instantly dip on the group or get toxic with DPS.

I have a number of characters that I play. I have a dedicated healer that I only play with friends and friends of friends. The main reason for being a dedicated healer is because she depends on the tank and DPS' to protect her and in return she is expected to at least keep everyone healed.

We have gone into situations where we didn't have either a good amount of DPS, know the mechanics well enough, etc. and we called it with everyone in agreement. Almost, also with a vow to come back another day and try again. But I would never want to take her out again with a random group of people not knowing their skill. The few times I have, I found its really hard to heal dead people.

I guess I have been lucky that someone took the time to teach me how to be a decent healer and its rewarding when others who would like to make a healer come and ask advice.

Last of all I guess that the only thing that really gets my goat is queuing as a DPS and getting a fake healer. I don't mind someone who is trying to learn, but to go into a random dungeon with a supposed healer to find out they don't even have a resto staff and maybe only one healing skill (and this at CP level) doesn't sit well with me.

So here's to a long life dungeon crawling with a good healer :-)

Ofc we can, it happen to me too over the time.
Was used to tolerate a lot of different player level and attitude, carry the most I can by slotting dps skill/gear or even Taunt and Tank when needed, explaining strat all this kind of thing.

But I just can't anymore.
To much people are just dumb, doesn't matter how much you help or explain, LOT of player don't care at all and expect a carry.

When I was finding myself to be angry while playing I just stopped, stopped, pug, and now stopped healing, I'm now a solo player and do most dg hm way faster alone than with some group I had.

I've clear every vdg/trial trifeca (execpt gh/gs no time for that sadly) so not really sad to stop healing in this game.
Good player don't need us anyway, and with pale order...

When I wanna group as support I play with guild and friend only.

I can be an a$$hole healer if theres another player ignoring mechanics or standing in stupid after pointing it out to them numerous times. If it happens and they arent with the group ill purposely stop healing them.