Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous men for they may act their dream with open eyes, to make it possible.
The guild/buddy list not showing up happens often after patches. Not saying it's good practice but it *should* resolve itself after a few minutes/hours.
Are you getting this @ZOS_GinaBruno
Some things might be easier to miss on first impressions (such as the MM issue all of us on the forums are well aware of) but seeing incredible amount of lag is something every player will notice the first time they log in.
Sooner or later these issues will creep out from under the carpet that you so casually swept them under.
Yeah chat lag of 3-5 minutes for my guild too (PC EU). There's also a good deal of "normal" lag that makes combat a challenge and lock picking... difficult.
Addition. Initial log in takes 5 minutes and loading from character selection takes 3. Far more than I've otherwise had in this game. No, I'm not in Cyrodiil.