Yes. "Grow a thicker skin" is classic victim blaming. It's also entirely beside the point.Op seems to be asking people agree with him/her whilst providing literally zero details other than "someone said something that hurt my feelings", which is amazingly subjective.
OP is asking to be able to manage the ranks of his guild like any guild leader on their own terms. That's something anyone would agree to. That is until murmurs of sexual harassment cause a bunch of reflexive chauvanists to pop out of the woodwork and scream "Totalitarian!", "Get a thicker skin!" and there's even a "you deserve more harassment for alleging harassment" up there. Hopefully, most of us see who the real triggered babies who have trouble managing their emotional outbursts are.
Well can you really blame people for wanting you to grow a thicker skin?
It's a bit rich to not know the content of the note in the same breath you're telling someone they're too sensitive to the content. It's also entirely beside the point.Look at how far people are taking this over nothing more than a dirty word or phrase on a guild member note. We don't even know the content of the note.
I didn't thoroughly read every single post in the thread - I skimmed some - but I didn't see anyone say the were going to send the ACLU after them? After whom? That's nonsensical. What would they even do? And to whom? What authority would the ACLU have? If this claim was made, it was obviously facetious. On it's face. Nobody made this claim. Not seriously at least. How could you even say this?The guild leaders removed the note and changed available permissions to prevent it from happening in the future, but could not find out who did it. So they went to support and asked for the name or for support to remove that person from the guild themselves. Support, in response, said they can't help because it's outside their jurisdiction, essentially. Everything up until this point, as stated, is perfectly reasonable. Beyond that is where things get heated with people screaming sexual harassment and sexism and chauvinism and "ZoS doesn't care". All the way up to people claiming they're going to send the ACLU after them.
This thread is a humble request for better tools. It predictably went in the direction it went because some awful people reflexively defend sexual harassment. That's on them.This thread could have been a humble request for some new or better tools for guild masters to better manage guild notes and discourage this kind of vandalism. I think you can at least agree that it ended up going in a very different direction.
This thread is a humble request for better tools. It predictably went in the direction it went because some awful people reflexively defend sexual harassment. That's on them.
This thread is a humble request for better tools. It predictably went in the direction it went because some awful people reflexively defend sexual harassment. That's on them.
No that is on the OP.
He did not make the request for such a tool in his post.
His initial post was nothing but a flame on ZoS for not fulfilling his initial request for special treatment beyond that which is provided to any other Guild Leader on the grounds that a member misused a tool, the OP provided access to, in order to commit sexual harassment.
Just because most of us would like such tools does not change the intent of the opening statement the OP made.
Imperial_Voice wrote: »Its a bit sad how many of you are asking ZoS to turn into the thought police and you know absolutely 0 details about what was even said. Youre just screaming for a ban based on the word of OP alone in a matter that should be policed within guilds.
This isn't anyone asking ZOS to be thought police. This has nothing to do with bans. You don't have any right to be in any particular guild. Guilds invite and accept you and police your participation on their own terms. That's definitional. Also, you don't get banned from the game when a guild removes you from their ranks. Obviously.
And it's worth noting here that this isn't merely the word of the OP as far as support is concerned. There is a textual record that support has access to. All the guild leader is asking is for support to tell them who used their guild tool to message the entire guild. That's something a guild leader should have access to on their own but they apparently don't. It's reasonable to ask support to fill that request and it's reasonable for support to do so.
It's also worth noting here that this isn't about the adjudication of an act of alleged sexual harassment and the OP isn't asking ZOS to step in and adjudicate that. This is about a guild choosing who its members are. No one is setting out to prove whether someone did something or whether that something amounts to a crime. The guild leader just wants to be able to tell who used a guild tool to do something that the guild has every right to decide is inappropriate for them.
^ All of that is entirely under the purview of the Guild Leader and NOT ZoS.
As such it is the Guild Leader's Responsibility as unfortunate as that may be to investigate and ensure they maintain the quality of player they seek.
Again Not ZoS's Responsibility.
If a Guild Leader cannot ensure the quality of its members then they should not allow those members access to tools that they might abuse and should limit the access of those tools to a lower population such as Officers by which the leader can limit such offenses. If a Guild Leader has not built the amount of relative trust associated with becoming an Officer with a player then that player simply shouldn't be allowed the position of Officer.
Again ^ Guild Leaders responsibility.
The guild leader doesn't have the tools to monitor comment changelogs. No one is asking ZOS to do anything but give them that tool.
OP is asking for ZOS to name the individual. Even by simply removing the player from the guild will expose who it was.
We're also assuming that harassment actually happened. Yes, I believe whatever was on the note was there. But it's just as possible the person edited their own note, no? Some people like guild drama, and will do anything to start it. Others like to play a victim even when they haven't been victimized. It's even within the scope of reason that someone could have done this to themselves to bring light the need for some badly needed guild improvements.
This thread is a humble request for better tools. It predictably went in the direction it went because some awful people reflexively defend sexual harassment. That's on them.
No that is on the OP.
He did not make the request for such a tool in his post.
His initial post was nothing but a flame on ZoS for not fulfilling his initial request for special treatment beyond that which is provided to any other Guild Leader on the grounds that a member misused a tool, the OP provided access to, in order to commit sexual harassment.
Just because most of us would like such tools does not change the intent of the opening statement the OP made. If the OP had simply made a request "Guild Leaders need a Guild Tool that tracks member note changes" then perhaps this would be different however because the OP opened with the idea of sexual harassment and his opinion that support failed to do anything that is what most people responded to.