If you have people criticizing your play, put them on your ignore list and find the many more who won't.

no need. just ignore group chat.

If it affects your ability to react to certain things fairly quickly, or prevents you from executing precise but important gameplay mechanics, I think it's best for everyone that you mention it, because that way your team will (hopefully) understand and adapt to the situation. No matter what the context is (dungeon, trial, battlegrounds, cyrodiil), it's impossible to tell whether someone has no idea what to do, they are simply not experienced enough, they had to go afk due to emergency, or they have an IRL condition like you do that affects gameplay. Saves a lot of headache for everyone.

Unfortunately you can never tell how people would react if you mentioned your problem, my personal opinion is that if anyone discriminates you for this reason, you shouldn't even bother talking to them afterwards. If your friends are about to do something more difficult then they will probably wait for you to feel better or ask you how you are doing that day. Other than stuff like no death runs, leaderboard score runs or whatever, there should be no problem and any decent human being would understand.

Whether or not you share your disability, is totally up to you. Having said that, I don't think I'd share in your situation because simply put; it's not anyone's business to know why your play-style is affected that day, and what is affecting it.

I'd suggest finding a friendly guild to play with, those groups generally are a lot more understanding amongst themselves - and have a much better atmosphere in which to share your disability, should you choose to do so. If you're on PC/EU, I am part of a guild with very nice and understanding members (some of which have disabilities of their own if I remember correctly): http://thereapersesoguild.guildlaunch.com/. We'd love to have you!

I think most people would be accepting of this. If it's causing you trouble on a given day, it might be worth a mention that it's the reason why.

You'd be surprised how much people are willing to adjust if they don't have to assume. You'll just have to ignore the occasional ***, which you'd have to do regardless of condition, because *** are ***...

I do agree that a guild is more likely to be your best bet. You simply never know what kind of person you're going to get on the other end of a random.

I would say, it depends on where and when. Pug groups, absolutely not. In guild, I feel most people are more accepting of limitations, especially once more is on the line, like interguild personal relationships.

Some people raised fair points, it's also important to mention that you don't need to have a condition or disability to have a bad day, sometimes you just don't feel the game, forget a mechanic or two, mess up bar swaps, make a bad positioning, general mistakes, etc. Hardware/software issues can also chime in. No matter what the reason is, I personally think it's nice to tell the group what's up, so they can adapt. I have a friend who randomly goes afk for 2-3 seconds, apparently because of connection issues. And you know, if you feel insecure about it (you shouldn't), or just don't feel like mentioning it, you can blame it on your connection or whatever. We all make mistakes, if I personally make one I just apologize to the group afterwards and tell them it was my mistake: could be a brain glitch, losing focus for a second, etc.

Echo the comments above. The great guilds don’t care if you have a disability. I’m sure ultra competitive guilds might act differently, so it’s about finding a good fit. We all have issues, we all have good days and bad days. I’m in a great social guild and we happily accept all comers who are good people, enjoy chatting and have fun play8ng the game. Hit me up if you want an invite.

I’d leave the Sharing of personal details to the people your more familiar with and I’m sure they will and can adjust to help you out...as the game itself has disabilities we all adjust to.

I say "no."

This is your escape and playground. Some people will change their thinking and it'll label you. The world has nice people, but not 100%.

You have a right to take breaks, just tell folks you're not feeling it today and you'll catch'em later.

If you're with a guild doing stuff like trial progression or dungeon progression and you have days where your disability is just not letting you play. It's time to speak up about it. You owe it to yourself and the people you're playing the content with.

Just be cautious of how you present yourself and your disability. Most good natured people will immediately sympathize and try to help you out, but there is always bad apples who just won't care.

You need to try your best to forgive ignorant people who scold you. I know its tough, I really get that. But please try to forgive them in their ignorance if they don't understand your disability.

Always try to surround yourself with people who will help you regardless of what day it is.

I think its what makes you feel comfortable at every turn. Those of us who do not have a disability can afford to be inconvenienced a bit, it is fleeting. You have to live with it.

I doubt in your shoes I would bother telling a PUG, they aren’t entitled to that information. I’d be more apt to blame it on lag or my cat or whatever, so that I don’t have to waste my time explaining something they don’t need to know. Guildies I may run with multiple times or form friendships with I’d likely be open with. And if one guild was snarky or turdlike then Id find a other.

But I don’t know, I’m conjecturing. I do know you should feel no guilt no matter how you handle it.

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I also feel like mentioning it would put people off inviting me to groups (except the people I know well!)

Not to anybody that you'd want to be around. Whether or not you choose to disclose it is up to you, but in my opinion there's no reason to hide it or be ashamed of it. There may be other reasons why you, or anybody else, wouldnt want to mention it, but having a disability in and of itself shouldn't be an issue at all.

I'll take a team of various peculiar levels of physical and mental ability, but good attitudes, over an all-DPS-or-bust high strung leaderboard crew any day.

Last week, I watched a trial group demand that someone join them on voice chat, until he pointed out that there was a reason his @ began with "deaf". He's been in the guild for months, guys...

We've all got limitations. Bring them up when appropriate so that nobody gets caught flatfooted, and ignore the people who freak out. It's just an MMO, we're almost all here to have fun.

I can't count the number of times I've said "sorry guys, I can't see the color of the telegraph very well" or "sorry, my hands aren't working today", or even "sorry we wiped, I'm just not thinking very quickly tonight". Yet, somehow, I have no shortage of people to play with.