Thanks for the tips, I ended up going with CraftStore.
Provisioning recipes can be done by ESO Master Recipe List
http://www.esoui.com/downloads/info1043-ESOMasterRecipeList.html
There is one for housing motifs as well but I forgot the name of it. This one has a tick next to the ones you know IIRC.
@Zinaroth @MW2K
Make sure you have the name of the Alt you want to track selected (you can do this from any Alt, by clicking on the name a list will pull up)
In there are various options for tracking crafting stuff. Check the Box for Tracking Recipes (or Motifs or Traits) and you will see an indicator when in the inventory for the recipes you do not know. If you choose the Alt name, then click on either the MOtif, Recipe or Furniture ICONs on the left in the main window, you can pull up a list of what you know or don't know for the selected Alt.
I think you also have to check the box to Mark Needed Items in the Global Config Gear, but do that last if it is not working with the above. Easiest way to see if it works is to go shopping for recipes/motifs.