I expect that many of them want to lose the shyness, but find it hard to do so. Rather than being so brash - I mean seriously, daring someone to speak is not very nice or welcoming - showing an inviting and friendly attitude to encourage them to socialize them might help them break the wall they have built around themselves.

Stupid question.
But in that case why does people with friends play single-player games?

If they're more of a lone wolf, that's fine by me. They paid for the game too. What I have an issue with is solo players who get real pretentious about it and belittle people for not also playing solo.

I love the dichotomy of people sometimes...

Don't worry about what other people do, especially when it has no bearing on your game play.

But since you asked so nicely, I play by myself most of the time because ::spoiler alert:: I don't like/trust most people.

Also, I don't want to force my way of doing things on other people. Want to dw tank in light armor? See ya! Want to dps with S&B? More power to you... but find someone else to group with.

We are all allowed to have our own opinions. Therefore, until other like minded friends get online, I am solo.

An MMORPG is a "Massively Multiplayer Online Role Playing Game". Where in that definition does it say I have to socialize or group ?.

Coming from someone who has social anxiety... most of my forum posts dont even make it past the "post reply" button.

I am one of the players who joins a guild and never interacts. I join to socialize but I can't bring myself to. My brain refuses to let me socialize. I fear trying to hold a conversation and do but its hard for me. I had to ask my more confident boyfriend questions like "what do i do if someone on mic talks at the same time as me? Should i stop or keep going?" "What do i do if nobody responds?" (My biggest fear - being ignored and looking stupid talking to myself) I talk normal and fine when speaking with family or people im comfortable with but with anyone new my brain cant keep up with my thoughts and i will sometimes mix two words together when speaking or just plain out make no sense. And I dont know how to carry a convo out with a new person i meet. It doesnt flow naturally and I have to rely on the other party to be the convo leader. I just sweat, heart races, and I just feel awkward and uncomfortable the whole time. This is on mic though.

Edit: oh why i join in first place? I think "TODAY IS THE DAY I SOCIALIZE!" Nope. Doesnt happen.

Text chat a different story of course.

Encouragement and friendly vibes helps people like me. We need it.

And why I play mmo? I never had to rely on anyone else but myself on this game.

PVP and character progression.

I think you need to understand that everyone is different and has gone through different experiences and different situations that may equate to them being "loners" in video games.

I feel as though I socialize enough in the real world now, as before I didn't. As a kid and while I was growing up in school, I was made fun of to the point that people were telling me to kill myself among other things. One of the main reasons I was being made fun of was because my voice was still high-pitched then (this was back in middle school) and I have an accent that makes my voice different (Cuban). I have now graduated high school and although I have gained a lot of self-confidence in myself again, there are still times where I find it difficult to talk to others, whether it be online or in real life. Even if I'm just typing I find it difficult to talk to others in fear that I will have them make fun of me for whatever reason, even though the chance of it happening is slim. If I'm in a group and someone suggests voice chat, I immediately tense up without even thinking about it. Now that my voice has changed and I doubt others would make fun of it and I probably would joke about it even if someone did, that fear still resides in me.

As for the reason I play this game is rather simple. It's a fun game. Why does the fact that I'd rather be alone in this game so I'm not nervous all the time bother you to the point that you need to call out us "loners"? I intentionally quote "loners" for the sole purpose that, again, there are different reasons why people would rather be alone. They could be like me and have traumatic experiences where they find it hard to talk to others. They could be introverts and just find it tiring to have to talk to people all the time. They may just want to play the game in their own play style. Plus this game doesn't really require us to socialize, I've done raids, dungeons, etc. and I rarely have to chat with others and if I do, it's about strategy or something along those lines. I'm in a guild that I really don't talk with unless if I have a question, but I still may help them.

Please understand that it is my choice to play this game however I want to and that goes for others as well. It is true that this game is an MMORPG, but that doesn't mean I have to talk with others that I don't know. I've played MMORPGs before and I've made friends in them, so yes, I can be social, but that doesn't mean I have to. I could spend my time playing a singleplayer game, but why would I do that when I find this game fun? That's all that a game boils down to is whether it's fun or not. If it is, I play it, if it's not I don't play it. Any other factors I don't pay attention to.

Also, we are all different people. I'm a guy who generally doesn't like hanging out with other guys because I'm more feminine and other guys make fun of that. If I find someone who has the same interests as I do and isn't a ***, then by all means I'll be social and talk with them. I have yet to find someone like that in the game though.

Do you really want to follow me around as I feed my horse, set up my crafting research, do crafting writs, sneak around and steal a few things, spend a few minutes flipping through my quest log to decide which quest I want to do, choose a quest, and then notice a shiny and head off in a completely different direction?

And let's not forget that a non-zero number of people joined up because it's an Elder Scrolls game regardless of the MMO part.

I know that I for one wouldn't be here if it wasn't.

SirAndy wrote: »

GabiAlex wrote: »

I understand that some of you are socially awkward or really shy in real life, but why some of you chose to play games that require to socialize if you always refuse to do so?
Why are you playing always solo a multiplayer game while a single player one has always better mechanics and a more immersive story than a MMORPG?
Also why are you bothering to join a guild if you will never interact with any of your guild mates and try to do everything on your own? Why are you even keep a guild slot occupied if you aren't willing to participate in any guild activity?
I was just wondering why and bet that that most replies will be from people that actually like socialize and make new friends in game, but I dare you lurker that is wandering around but never talk to break your silence and enlighten us!

Could you please be a bit more condescending? I don't think it's showing enough yet ...

Exactly my thoughts too. Sure, there's nothing wrong with asking such a question. But goodness, this is almost a perfect example of how there's a right and a wrong way to go about things, this being an example of the latter.