I'm having such a bad day!!

ZOS_CoriJ · September 2016

Organizing inventory is a stress relief for me since I'm a hoarder.

Otherwise I make a new character, gear up one of my lowbies, or (like others) do some collecting while I enjoy the scenery and get some good screenshots.

Sometimes I will also go back to some old areas to see if there are any non-essential quests I skipped on my first playthrough. Some of the shorter quests are some of the funniest.

There are already plenty of great ideas on the thread. Sounds like you have a lot to deal with so I hope you find an experience that helps you unwind.

Rohamad_Ali · September 2016

ZOS_CoriJ wrote: »

Organizing inventory is a stress relief for me since I'm a hoarder. Otherwise I make a new character, gear up one of my lowbies, or (like others) do some collecting while I enjoy the scenery and get some good screenshots.

Sometimes I will also go back to some old areas to see if there are any non-essential quests I skipped on my first playthrough. Some of the shorter quests are some of the funniest.

There are already plenty of great ideas on the thread. Sounds like you have a lot to deal with so I hope you find an experience that helps you unwind.

Oh gawd inventory day ... I just went through it . So painful wanting to keep everything but no room left .

ZOS_CoriJ · September 2016

Rohamad_Ali wrote: »

Oh gawd inventory day ... I just went through it . So painful wanting to keep everything but no room left .

But sooooo good when you're done.
Think of all the new things that'll put your bank in trouble this time.

[edit because quotes are hard]

Dromede · September 2016

I once got kicked from a pretty tight group of players - we were in TS almost every night laughing and drinking and having fun, and then one day i was told to not use this ts anymore

Was pretty heartbroken, got emotionally sick at work the next day, even had to leave early.

None of those fools play now, and look i'm still here doing my thing

People who don't get us are not our kind of people, and it sounds like they just freed some of your time to make better connections and friendships

Use it wisely my friend, and go collect some flowers while listening and dancing to a jolly tune

Hallothiel · September 2016

Lost a close family member earlier this year and it still hurts. But it will get better over time I promise. Just don't let idiots get to you - yes sometimes easier said than done, I know

but in the grand scheme of things those idiots are unimportant.

All I can do is send a hug.

And do go fishing. It's a fab way to waste time. Music & fishing. Makes me smile.

wayfarerx · September 2016

Today is the anniversary of when I lost a very close family member. It was many years ago but it still hurts, probably always will, but it does get easier with time. Just take it day-by-day.

On another note, this:

ZOS_CoriJ wrote: »

Organizing inventory is a stress relief for me since I'm a hoarder.

OMG. Inventory cleanup day is probably the most stressful thing for me in ESO. WHY? Because I always miss something. There's the one Rubidite cuirass I didn't deconstruct, or that monster helm I forgot to transfer to a mule. It drives my OCD tendencies crazy.

However I do agree that a clean and empty bank is a beautiful thing, I just hate getting there.

UrQuan · September 2016

MissBizz wrote: »

As many have said though, staying away from PUG's is generally a smart thing to do on bad days. There's a chance you'll meet some amazing people, but on a bad day, the chance of meeting some not as nice people isn't worth it

This is true.

On the flip side, there have been a couple of times when I've been having a bad day and didn't really feel like doing anything, and then a no-pressure dungeon run with friendly guildies has made my day better.

Mattock_Romulus · September 2016

Sometimes, when bad things happen all at once it's easy to lose sight of the good in the world. Truly sorry to hear about the loss of your family member.

Try to look for the bright spots each day and remember, you have a community of caring people that are there for you....

Unless I run into you during PVP...then it's on!

Take care,

Moonscythe · September 2016

ZOS_CoriJ wrote: »

Rohamad_Ali wrote: »

Oh gawd inventory day ... I just went through it . So painful wanting to keep everything but no room left .

But sooooo good when you're done.
Think of all the new things that'll put your bank in trouble this time.

[edit because quotes are hard]

I'm glad even the official people think quotes are hard because I sure have trouble with them.

Actually, relaxing is one reason I want to swim and climb. In Skyrim, when i just wanted to chill I would go to Riften and swim in the lake in the very early morning when the mist was still on the water. I might catch a few small fish but mostly it was just to relax. Or, I would go climb a mountain. There is one thing I do in single player to relax that can be done in ESO and that's go take a ride. I just hop on my horse and ride around looking at the scenery. I find places I haven't been before because a quest didn't take me there. It's very zen.

Hope you feel better soon, Cazzy, though healing takes longer coping is the first step.

BTW, I love the little black & white rag mop of a puppy. Is it Moo because it is cow colored?

sekhem · September 2016

Cazzy wrote: »

So I'm feeling like there's a bullet in my stomach coping with the loss of a family member, foolishly I decide ESO would cheer me up. Normally it does but today I've been kicked at a final boss after 45 minutes of fighting through a dungeon, laughed at, sworn at, been trolled and kicked from a guild without knowing why xD

If I don't laugh I'll cry. A lot.

So! What do you do in ESO to relax? Any funny stories? What have you called your pet or mount?

I like fishing in ESO. Realistically though, when I'm in a bad mood my chinchillas distract me and I can't focus on ESO. Here ya go...

FLuFFyxMuFFiN · September 2016

Losing someone close to you is the worst feeling in the world. This past summer was one of the worst times of my life. I almost lost the love of my life because of my own stupidity. I was over protective over something stupid and it caused me to over react over dumb little meaningless things which caused her to become distant and she didn't want to be around me. Over the course of 2 months I could hardly eat and couldn't sleep well and I started getting anxious all the time because I did not know if I would still be marrying her or not. It felt like I was constantly being punched in the stomach and it even caused me to stop gaming which normally helps me during tough times. While I can't say I fully understand the pain you are probably going through right now @Cazzy because losing a family member probably hurts a hell of a lot worse than breaking up with someone but just surround yourself with the people who care and they can help you through the tough times. And from what I see here on the forums there are a lot of people here who care about you. I don't think I have ever really interacted with you here on the forums or in game but I am sorry for your loss and truly hope things get better for you.

scorpiodog · September 2016

Start a new character, find some newbies in zone chat and run a Dungeon with them. It's like watching keystone cops. And side benefit you can run a whacky build an no one knows enough to even bat an eyelid, like Redguard Nightblade Healer, lmao.

mdylan2013 · September 2016

ZOS_CoriJ wrote: »

Organizing inventory is a stress relief for me since I'm a hoarder. Otherwise I make a new character, gear up one of my lowbies, or (like others) do some collecting while I enjoy the scenery and get some good screenshots.

Sometimes I will also go back to some old areas to see if there are any non-essential quests I skipped on my first playthrough. Some of the shorter quests are some of the funniest.

There are already plenty of great ideas on the thread. Sounds like you have a lot to deal with so I hope you find an experience that helps you unwind.

I love organising my inventory space, I've been known to deliberately mess up my bank just so I can sort through it all.

Crazy, I enjoy murdering the townsfolk and robbing their houses, I also find healing vet trials relaxing.

I think I'm strange.

Tandor · September 2016

Sorry about the family loss, Cazzy, I hope the pain eases with time as it usually does.

Judging by the other comments, it seems to me that if you're feeling low and not really in the mood for aggressive gaming then this isn't a bad place to come to. Plenty of friends here, regardless of what your opinions or their opinions may be, there's a community spirit here that you won't necessarily find in any game - which is ironic really, given that it's forged from our mutual love of the game

!

RAGUNAnoOne · September 2016

Mashille wrote: »

I go to the Forums and talk to Cazzy. One of my favourite ESO community Members

Yup same here! also I talk to my friends either ingame or through party usually one of them is drunk enough to be hilarious. One time my friend party bombed me and made chicken noises just to embarrass me

LadyLethalla · September 2016

Sorry to hear of your loss, @Cazzy *Hugs* A furry friend can really make a difference.

If you haven't already found a new guild on PS4 EU, I'll happily send you an invite to our friendly little group. I missed the event but some of the guildies were naked Dolmening on Friday...

Look after yourself. It will get easier.

catsgomeow · September 2016

i relax with my irl khajiit and farm durzogs in wrothgar

Or i just get them to do the farming for me

Ummm no wait that must be a nap break...

disintegr8 · September 2016

Go into some low level PVE zone and trash some mobs for the fun of it.
When my work gets me down I go home to my wife and Rosie the beagle cat who always love me regardless....

newtinmpls · September 2016

Cazzy wrote: »

What have you called your pet or mount?

Hey Cazzy, I'm sorry your day is [self-censored]. Your presence on the forums is always a welcome one.

As for pets... I'm leveling a Breton Templar named Valentine Stowier (I probably spelled it wrong - but yes, younger sister of the banker). Who in my universe is also the younger sister of Alvard Stowier who was originally the second (partner) of my Battlemage Mol gro Durga (yes I know waaay too much about my characters).

Anyway, she and her partner/second were in Wrothgar last night/yesterday exploring a Dwemer quarry that Neramo (we all remember how thoughtful he is and NEVER has unexpected fallout from his experiments/explorations - riiigght) had discovered under an Orsimer quarry (and it's a long story which I won't go into) and she was feeling so sad because all the constructs really seem alive and they have purpose and so she was kind of apologizing to them as we swept through.

Then Neramo disables their violence protocols and she and her partner can leave.

And one of the spheres followed her out.

For morrowind fans.... she tried to figure out what he was called, and as near as she can make out (he doesn't talk, but he writes, but it's really really ancient "aldmeris"):

Coherer Maintenance

Serjustin19 · September 2016

Not sure if it helps. It is and is not eso related. When I am down, sad and or lonley. I make up odd stories. Write them down. All my feelings on paper. Everything. All the sad, the funny the awkward. It helps me become more happy.

Everytime I do this. I feel as if I'm whole. Not a shell. But a real human being. By doing this also. As I keep writing. I get to learn more about my characters. Whom they are. What purpose do they have. What special role would they play. Most of my stories I wrote at these times of need are currently on the forums.

From these stories thta I posted on ESO forums. I fell in love with them so much. I actually made my ESO Characters based on my stories.

Princess of Dreams, Princess Justine, Dreams of Dragonwhales... They help make me feel better. They are all part of me. Not sure if this helps. But try and write stories even via text chat. Writing helps me. I to hope helps you. I am sorry also.

OtarTheMad · September 2016

Sorry for your loss first of all.

When I am having a real bad day, I will go into PvP and do some of the dumbest crap I can and just laugh about it. Even though you can't do it anymore I one time look off my armor, put on a costume and did Dragon Leap/Steel Tornado into a group of like 10... (you can't do it because I did it from the top of Nikel to the front door siege) it was so hilarious because I also did Proxy (which obviously sucks on a stamDK) I died so fast but took one of them with me somehow lol.

Another time I ran around in PvP on my sorc and used primarily Trapping Webs from the Undaunted skill line and trolled sooooo many players. I also usually have my partner and my guinea pigs right to me to talk to between fights. They're awesome.

CapnPhoton · September 2016

Sorry for your loss.

Lately I have been watching my character relax while waiting near the giant and his mammoth in The Rift. I can't take it alone. After so long sitting in the grass I wonder if anyone remembers he is here...

trav2609rwb17_ESO · September 2016

This one sneaks back to the starting island in AD and checks what all the cats are up to - I enjoy how they all have names and there is one that dashes around the town checking up what everyone is doing. I like how in each town there are little events that are easy to miss but can have you laughing out loud when you find them. Yep fishing can also be a lot of fun - pity dwemer explosives are not usable to do express fishing when one is very hungry.

Seratopia · September 2016

CapnPhoton wrote: »

Sorry for your loss.

Lately I have been watching my character relax while waiting near the giant and his mammoth in The Rift. I can't take it alone. After so long sitting in the grass I wonder if anyone remembers he is here...

Before I reply I want to say I'm sorry to hear about your relative Cazzy, loss is something you can never fully heal from. I'm still grieving over some loved ones myself so I know what you are going through. I wish you and your family well.

(This is a response to the actual quote) - Sounds like something I do but not exactly. I love some of the sceneries in Cyrodiil and I like traveling to where there are lakes, it's very calm and peaceful. But does feel lonely after awhile if alone. I set my character down on a high rock that over looks the water and I always silently wish that one day a traveler from my own alliance or anothers would come along and sit with me. Maybe we would have a chat about everyday life or whatever comes to our mind. Or have silence, I'd welcome any company. It never happened yet but it would be a nice break from war and real life stresses. I don't have any family where I currently live and just have my significant other, he works 5 days a week 6am to 7pm so interaction with players is nice to have when I have nobody around.

Knootewoot · September 2016

When I want to relax in ESO I just sit in an Inn and read what the RP'ers type, listen to the bard (if it's a bad song I kill him) and cook foods. Sometimes I play my own Big phat lewt and chat with guildies or friends.

Or, I just log out and go play battlefield 3.

Edit: sorry for you loss. when my father died 5 years ago I was playing Vanguard Saga of Heroes. After the passed away I could not bear to log in for a few months. Nothing could cheer me up in game. Instead I went more outside taking walks. That really helped me.

SantieClaws · September 2016

Khajiit she finds a bit of quality time by the fireside of The Rosy Lion to be quite relaxing.

Watching the comings and the goings and the bar fights and chatting the chit chat with others who may pass by.

Yours with paws
Santie Claws

CapnPhoton · September 2016

Seratopia wrote: »

CapnPhoton wrote: »

Sorry for your loss.

Lately I have been watching my character relax while waiting near the giant and his mammoth in The Rift. I can't take it alone. After so long sitting in the grass I wonder if anyone remembers he is here...

Before I reply I want to say I'm sorry to hear about your relative Cazzy, loss is something you can never fully heal from. I'm still grieving over some loved ones myself so I know what you are going through. I wish you and your family well.

(This is a response to the actual quote) - Sounds like something I do but not exactly. I love some of the sceneries in Cyrodiil and I like traveling to where there are lakes, it's very calm and peaceful. But does feel lonely after awhile if alone. I set my character down on a high rock that over looks the water and I always silently wish that one day a traveler from my own alliance or anothers would come along and sit with me. Maybe we would have a chat about everyday life or whatever comes to our mind. Or have silence, I'd welcome any company. It never happened yet but it would be a nice break from war and real life stresses. I don't have any family where I currently live and just have my significant other, he works 5 days a week 6am to 7pm so interaction with players is nice to have when I have nobody around.

While I sit there waiting for someone to eventually come along so I can finish Cadwell's silver, I have thought about the location and if the giants were not there it might be a nice place for a house. But then I remember the swamp just to the south, and think...mosquitoes.

Ilsabet · September 2016

It's funny you mentioned pets, my pet goat Snorri always cheers me up with his inappropriate noises. He's named after the guy who wrote the Prose Edda, the big collection of Norse mythology. (This was after a big discussion about the goats that pull Thor's chariot and how their names are a bit too ungainly.) But Snorri is a boss and is the best, especially when he's making burpy noises during some dramatic dialogue.

My horse is Lydia because she carries my burdens.

My Dwemer spider is Sprocket after the dog from Fraggle Rock.

My jackal is Skitter because that's what he does.

My baby netch is Babbyganetch. (Wasn't even trying to be lore-appropriate with that one, but maybe they have baba ganoush in Hammerfell.

)

Also I'm not sure I'd recommend Cyrodiil when you're having a bad day, but one of the best laughs I've had in ESO was running with a pug semi-zerg that didn't really know what we were doing, and we decided to attack the corner of a keep because it was already partially damaged. It wasn't until after we had knocked it down that someone pointed out that you can't get into a keep through the corner.

It's the sort of thing that would make a person mad if they were taking it seriously, but we just thought it was hilarious (at least most of us did, and if anybody didn't then they kept it to themselves).

So I'd recommend something noobish and low-stakes where you can let loose a little and not care if it goes horribly wrong.

You like Dwemer stuff, right? Could always pick a Dwemer dungeon to go bum around in for a while.

It might also be relaxing to catch up on some of the stuff in the Eidetic Memory library that you always said you'd go back and read later (if you're anything like me).

Avezack · September 2016

You can take a sorcer and farm kuta´s with bolt scape. When you take the somebody´s kuta..... that fealing..

ZOS_DaryaK · September 2016

Cazzy wrote: »

So! What do you do in ESO to relax? Any funny stories? What have you called your pet or mount?

My masked bear is called Honey Badger. To relax in ESO, I craft, to relieve stress, I go beat up harpies...it's a long story.

I'm having *such* a bad day!!

I'm having such a bad day!!