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Love_Daggerfall✭✭✭mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.0 -
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✭✭✭✭✭Love_Daggerfall wrote: »mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same. But if you care for yourself more, and are selfish, it won't.
Some put it in this form "happy wife, happy life".Edited by Lysette on June 28, 2016 9:29PM1 -
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Love_Daggerfall✭✭✭Love_Daggerfall wrote: »mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same. But if you care for yourself more, and are selfish, it won't.
Some put it in this form "happy wife, happy life".
So very true. I live by this.
But not ingame fantasy's different. LoL0 -
Xylphan✭✭✭✭Love_Daggerfall wrote: »mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same. But if you care for yourself more, and are selfish, it won't.
Some put it in this form "happy wife, happy life".
A good relationship is being bored out of your skull, but not wanting to be bored out of your skull with anyone else.2 -
jcaceresw✭✭✭✭✭mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Ok, just wanted to tell you, that you do not waste your time on something with basically no chance.
Ty for your answer. I think you are right. Nothing really changed since that day. Maybe I was too dreamy.0 -
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✭Love_Daggerfall wrote: »mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same. But if you care for yourself more, and are selfish, it won't.
Some put it in this form "happy wife, happy life".
I would say that's debatable.
I'd be more inclined to say that relationships are inherently selfish affairs. That "Happy wife, happy life" stems from the selfish desire to remain happy, the best means of attaining which is to ensure that your partner is equally happy. If one cares so much for their partner that they neglect themselves, said partner will be unhappy with -their- partner. At best, the relationship becomes co-dependent, each leaning on the other for everything.
A better way is to have two partners who regard one another as equals and team-mates; not elevating one over the other. Confident people who can stand on their own as needed, but also support their partner in a time of need. A relationship which regards all individuals happiness as equally important on selfish level; knowing that if one side is not happy it will not beneficial to the other. It's the selfish desire to have that other person in your life. Rational self-interest.
But that's just me and my happy decade+ of marriage talking.
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Love_Daggerfall✭✭✭Love_Daggerfall wrote: »mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same. But if you care for yourself more, and are selfish, it won't.
Some put it in this form "happy wife, happy life".
A good relationship is being bored out of your skull, but not wanting to be bored out of your skull with anyone else.
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vyrusb23✭✭✭✭✭vamp_emily wrote: »Love_Daggerfall wrote: »The most prettiest lady in ESO is a npc.
She sings in the Stormhaven Pub.
I love her voice.
I love her body.
I could marry this npc.
I work each day filleting my hundreds of fish as she sings to me.
She is so nice to watch her work that all bordom from filleting is replace with love for her.
I am in love with a npc ☺
umm..
I think..
ummm...
Not sure how to say this..
You might need professional help?
For the record: the OP has already said that he has mental problems. From the looks of how much he becomes depressed then is fine then becomes depressed then is fine, I'd say he is more than likely bipolar and/or manic depressive and unmedicated. Just an armchair opinion from someone who has worked in the mental health field for 20 years.0 -
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Love_Daggerfall✭✭✭The Topic of l am in love is starting to develop into a argument l am out of this thread....0
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✭✭✭✭✭mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Ok, just wanted to tell you, that you do not waste your time on something with basically no chance.
Ty for your answer. I think you are right. Nothing really changed since that day. Maybe I was too dreamy.
It has not necessarily something to do with your personality - it could be just lack of this special chemistry - and you can do nothing about that, it is like it is - this is what makes relationships so risky, which start online - both can love each other on a virtual level very deeply, but when they meet and their "chemistry" takes over and this says "not really", then there is no chance, despite that both might otherwise be a perfect match - but you cannot go against this low level chemistry thing.Edited by Lysette on June 28, 2016 10:39PM0 -
Tib✭✭✭ShedsHisTail wrote: »Love_Daggerfall wrote: »mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same. But if you care for yourself more, and are selfish, it won't.
Some put it in this form "happy wife, happy life".
I would say that's debatable.
I'd be more inclined to say that relationships are inherently selfish affairs. That "Happy wife, happy life" stems from the selfish desire to remain happy, the best means of attaining which is to ensure that your partner is equally happy. If one cares so much for their partner that they neglect themselves, said partner will be unhappy with -their- partner. At best, the relationship becomes co-dependent, each leaning on the other for everything.
A better way is to have two partners who regard one another as equals and team-mates; not elevating one over the other. Confident people who can stand on their own as needed, but also support their partner in a time of need. A relationship which regards all individuals happiness as equally important on selfish level; knowing that if one side is not happy it will not beneficial to the other. It's the selfish desire to have that other person in your life. Rational self-interest.
But that's just me and my happy decade+ of marriage talking.
Agree, 11 years relationship here and it's definitely the teamwork and being equals that this is about, at least for me and my bf.
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✭✭There is still selfishness in a good relationship. Keeping you partner/family/children happy is ultimately still in your own best interests, hence it still stems from selfishness at it's base. Sure you may not do or get everything you want but that sacrifice still pays you back tenfold, hence you still win.
It may sound a bit cynical but that is me and I must be doing something right - and my wife and I will be having our 20th wedding anniversary in 2 weeks.Australian on PS4 NA server.
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FerrumnCutem✭✭✭✭THIS THREAD WAS NEVER SUPPOSED TO BECOME SOMETHING PEOPLE!
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✭✭✭✭✭ShedsHisTail wrote: »Love_Daggerfall wrote: »mommadani907 wrote: »uhhhhh........there is some super weirdness going on in this thread......
I can tell you I really like several NPC (specially bosmer ones) but in real life I am in love with someone (althought is unrequited or one sided)
Hm, this leads to nothing, if you don't declare yourself to her - otherwise she will just put you in the "friends" category and once you are there, it is hard to ever get out of it again and you are just wasting your time. Friends and lovers are in distinct groups, I tell friends things, which I would never have told a lover - and the other way round - if you are in the friends category, forget about her - she will not have a relationship with a friend.
Offtopic:
Hey thanks for answering. She already knows it about three weeks ago. That´s why I said is a one sided love. She is not a friend really.
Love without friendship.
Is that even possible?
Affection yes attraction yes admiration yes
All these can be one sided.
But love that is a very confusing word as it has many meanings.
I love the singer in the Pub.
I guess l am a big fan of hers.
Walk out the Pub and the love turns off.
She is like love on tape when its needed.
I too must have one sided love.
It does not feel like a bad thing at all.
But in real life you need to concider other peoples feelings and care for there what ever.
Selfishness ignores this in real life.
Thats the diferance between real life and fantasy. In fantasy do what you enjoy without a care for anything else.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same. But if you care for yourself more, and are selfish, it won't.
Some put it in this form "happy wife, happy life".
I would say that's debatable.
I'd be more inclined to say that relationships are inherently selfish affairs. That "Happy wife, happy life" stems from the selfish desire to remain happy, the best means of attaining which is to ensure that your partner is equally happy. If one cares so much for their partner that they neglect themselves, said partner will be unhappy with -their- partner. At best, the relationship becomes co-dependent, each leaning on the other for everything.
A better way is to have two partners who regard one another as equals and team-mates; not elevating one over the other. Confident people who can stand on their own as needed, but also support their partner in a time of need. A relationship which regards all individuals happiness as equally important on selfish level; knowing that if one side is not happy it will not beneficial to the other. It's the selfish desire to have that other person in your life. Rational self-interest.
But that's just me and my happy decade+ of marriage talking.
Yes, that is actually how I meant this as well - I did not mean, that one should give him/herself up for the other, but that I keep things in balance. If we disagree, I have to see, is what I want making me more happy, than she will be unhappy by this. And the answer to this is often, I will not have that much fun with what I want, if I know, it will make her unhappy. And she evaluates her point of view in the same way - so when we discuss this a second time, we are more likely to find a compromise, because now we are not selfish in our view, but have seen it from the view point of the other - and we find a solution. I would not see it as a sacrifice though - if I really feel I'd had to sacrifice something and that is not balanced out by the good feeling, to have solved the problem, I would discuss it a 3rd time with her and let her know, what makes me unhappy with that solution - basically debate round 2 will start then.
And of course we have to be equals - it does not work, if one is above the other - she never gave me the feeling, that I would be less than equal, even she is hundreds of times more wealthy than I am. It does not matter to her, she has respected me from the very start as an equal partner. So you see, I am in your boat - but maybe I was not clear enough about it.Edited by Lysette on June 29, 2016 2:10AM0 -
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HEy mate i was going to place this on your latest post but it was closed before i can post it anyway thought i will place it here what i was going to say
"honestly mate considering what you are going through you don't need trolls and attacks and negativity in this forum i think you might be better off enjoying your life playing the game with your guild mates and come here to look up patches and builds and leave it at that.
in the end its your decision if its worth it by all means stay however if its getting to you , you don't need that in your life.
what ever you decide i wish you all the best mate.""By many i am seen as hero...as a savior of the Tamriel i will not stop until every Daedra every evil there is in Tamriel is vanquish by my hands..
However i do this for my own purpose to gain trust of mortals to worship me and to eliminate my competition i will not bend my knee to lead your army to serve you Molag Bal , i will simply just take it from you.."--- Forsaken Sin( Magica Sorc)Arise From Darkness Forsaken SIn
"You have been a loyal High Elf Magica Sorc
Conjure of Darkness, Master of Magic
Killer of Molag Bal and Savior of Ebonheart Pact
Until Dark Brotherhood killed you...
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DragonSamurai360✭✭✭I have to say this thread is super weird kind of reminds me of that movie where the guy was in love with his phone or something like that.0 -
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"If she does the same" is the tricky part of relationships...if the feelings aren't equal, or close to equal then things will be off balance.
Ok, I will tell you the secret behind a good relationship - it's simple actually - if you care for your partner more than for yourself, then it has a chance, especially if she does the same.
My grandfather used to say "never love anyone more then they love you" which I didn't fully understand until I felt it firsthand.
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