Can I play with you?

chriss23

As a new mmo player, I'm a bit shy and not too confident about joining in with a group but I know this would make the whole game experience more satisfying and fun. Could other players comment on their own experiences? I guess I'm afraid of letting the other members of a group down due to inexperience although I enjoy the combat side of the game.

Crumpy

tbh I used to get quite freaked out by not wanting to f-up a group situation. And, as does happen sometimes, could be quite disturbed when I got 'yelled' at for being not as good as others in the group felt I should be.

However, I have since had many great group experiences in a range of games and have learnt that sometimes some rude idiot will decide to have a go at you but - on the whole - people are decent and you should take the plunge, enjoy and get used to having fun in groups.

One day you'll look back and wonder why you were ever worried at all. Everyone has to start somewhere!

Orizuru

I'm on the NA Megaserver. Character name is Nacirema Diputs. Feel free to look me up. I usually run around and play solo, but if you ever just need someone to chat with or ask questions or even just need help with a quest fee free to send me a message.

I wouldn't worry too much about letting people down in a group. If it's a group of people you don't even know, chances are you will never see them again anyways, but even if you do, I think most people understand that the game is new and has brought a lot of new players that aren't the regular MMO crowd. While gamers in general do tend to be a little crass and rude in dealing with new players, we were all new once and there are far more players who are willing and able to help out and be friendly I think. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and hope for the best. When it doesn't go the way you had hoped, just try again.

Happy gaming!

demendred

Well, the group dungeons I did, we died, and no one complained. If it got too much, we just said we need to get better eq and try again. Those who would rage over such a thing really should be nurtured.

Don't allow that to hinder you wanting to join group dungeons. You'll do fine, I got faith in ya.

RylukShouja

If you why away from grouping experiences, you will never learn. While not my first mmo, healing in this game has been difficult for me to pick up on. I am an excellent healer in other games, but even running fungal grotto caused me grief until I had a handle on how my abilities worked.

Long story short you have to play to learn, and if group content is something you want to try, don't let fear keep you back. Go! Make mistakes! I'm an electrical apprentice irl, and my journeyman often says "if you don't make mistakes, you're not working." The difference between a good worker and a bad one is whether you can learn from mistakes, not whether you make them.

If you're on the NA megaserver, hit me up if you have questions. My main is Ky'terath and while I won't pretend to have all the answers, I'll do my best to help you out.

Chryos

@‌chriss23

I play on NA server, Ebonheart Pact, The Society of Shadow, we run PvP and PvE. We encourage the use of a headset for pvp to make things easier, you dont have to talk, just listen to movement commands, or u can play without headset and we will work with that. We have some good people. If your on our alliance I'll give you an invite to our guild and you can try us out for as long as you like. We take care of our own, gear up on own etc. You wont let us down so long as you try and work with us as a team. No one expects perfection, just giving us your best for the team. We can train and mentor you. If your game.. I am Chryos and you can whisper me and talk with me, we can group or whatever. I dont take blind friend requests without first "seeing who it is" so lemme know its you in game. Like I said, I'll invite you in, and help set you up.

rawne1980b16_ESO

You can play with me anytime you want sailor.

NovaMarx

I know how you feel, as I am pretty new to the whole mmo scene myself.
But so far my experiences have been positive, and I feel I'm getting better and better for every time I'm in a group.
There will always be those who may write stupid or hurtful things if they feel others aren't living up to "their standards", but they are usually just miserable b's
Most ppl are sympathetic if you tell them you are inexperienced when it comes to grouping, and will usually give good tips and help you out. Just join a group and try it out, and hopefully you'll be as positively surprised as I was

DragonMother

You are more than welcome to join me on my own adventures, hatchling. MMO's aren't as wild and crazy as some people make it out to be.

Slash8915

You'll easily find people that are patient and willing to help. I'll admit, this community seems to be hit or miss as far as maturity, but helpful players are definitely out there.

Rosveen

I'm an MMO newbie with social phobia. If I survived, so can you.

Chances are that a group you join for the early dungeons with will be just as inexperienced as you. The first time I ran a dungeon, we were all new to it and had to be extra careful because we didn't know anything about the enemies. We died, revived, tried again, died again, without any griefing because it was a learning experience for each of us.
Well, technically it wasn't the first time because I was there in a beta, but with a terribly mismatched, underleveled group and we were mauled by the first boss. :P But we had fun closing dark anchors earlier.

You never know who you'll come across. So far I've grouped only with friendly players, so I don't know how I'd react if someone started yelling at me, but the fact is that you'll probably never meet these people again (unless your adventure goes exceptionally well and you become friends!). So try not to let it bring you down. People who lose their temper over a game and treat you rudely aren't worth your time. Remember that it's okay to make mistakes. Even if you *** up really badly, you'll learn something from it: see how effective each of your skills was, improve your reaction time. Every next time will be easier.

For practical advice, if you group of for a dungeon, try to be at the high end of the level range. It's always nice to have a bit more health and skills to work with. It's also simpler if you're DPS. Healers often get blamed if people die, even if they did nothing wrong.

Lalai

I'm on the NA megaserver (Daggerfall currently, though I have an alt in Ebonheart), character name is Lalai. Feel free to hit me up if you need help with anything. I'm more than willing to help out

As far as random groups go.. if you're talking group dungeons, this early at launch everyone is still kinda new. So likely you're gonna get a bunch of inexperienced people as you are leveling up. You're probably gonna wipe sometimes, and that's normal. You're also probably gonna run into a jerk or two that likes to yell at the party (they're in all MMOs). Try to brush them off, and if you ever need help with anything and don't want to run with randoms.. ask some of the folks in this thread

Drachenfier

NaciremaDiputs wrote: »

I'm on the NA Megaserver. Character name is Nacirema Diputs. Feel free to look me up. I usually run around and play solo, but if you ever just need someone to chat with or ask questions or even just need help with a quest fee free to send me a message.

I wouldn't worry too much about letting people down in a group. If it's a group of people you don't even know, chances are you will never see them again anyways, but even if you do, I think most people understand that the game is new and has brought a lot of new players that aren't the regular MMO crowd. While gamers in general do tend to be a little crass and rude in dealing with new players, we were all new once and there are far more players who are willing and able to help out and be friendly I think. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and hope for the best. When it doesn't go the way you had hoped, just try again.

Happy gaming!

are you a stupid American?

Willow

I have a bunch of low levels gals in AD. I have not tried Banished Cells because I am learning my characters and just know I will wipe a group.

If you have patience I would love to be added .
NA Server
Character name : Willow Mosshaven

I am currently running around with a character named Migea so feel free to send a whisper.


The best time for me to attempt groups is after 9 pm est.

Crumpy

Drachenfier wrote: »

NaciremaDiputs wrote: »

I'm on the NA Megaserver. Character name is Nacirema Diputs. Feel free to look me up. I usually run around and play solo, but if you ever just need someone to chat with or ask questions or even just need help with a quest fee free to send me a message.

I wouldn't worry too much about letting people down in a group. If it's a group of people you don't even know, chances are you will never see them again anyways, but even if you do, I think most people understand that the game is new and has brought a lot of new players that aren't the regular MMO crowd. While gamers in general do tend to be a little crass and rude in dealing with new players, we were all new once and there are far more players who are willing and able to help out and be friendly I think. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and hope for the best. When it doesn't go the way you had hoped, just try again.

Happy gaming!

are you a stupid American?

This is the kind of prick you might be unlucky enough to group with.

mutharex

The only important thing to remember is that it's a game, you are here to have fun, not to compete or prove yourself. Have fun, do your best, don't freak out if you f up or something goes wrong and if people are being an arse about something just add them to your ignore list.

Drachenfier

Crumpy wrote: »

Drachenfier wrote: »

NaciremaDiputs wrote: »

I'm on the NA Megaserver. Character name is Nacirema Diputs. Feel free to look me up. I usually run around and play solo, but if you ever just need someone to chat with or ask questions or even just need help with a quest fee free to send me a message.

I wouldn't worry too much about letting people down in a group. If it's a group of people you don't even know, chances are you will never see them again anyways, but even if you do, I think most people understand that the game is new and has brought a lot of new players that aren't the regular MMO crowd. While gamers in general do tend to be a little crass and rude in dealing with new players, we were all new once and there are far more players who are willing and able to help out and be friendly I think. Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and hope for the best. When it doesn't go the way you had hoped, just try again.

Happy gaming!

are you a stupid American?

This is the kind of prick you might be unlucky enough to group with.

LOL well...Look at the character name of the guy I quoted It's "Stupid American" spelled backwards.

For the record, I'm American

Crumpy

Oh *** sorry I stand corrected! *gets off high-horse*.

Dorgon

rawne1980b16_ESO wrote: »

You can play with me anytime you want sailor.

Hawt.

@OP My main guy is Jekhar Mokhan, AD, NA server. I am usually on around 10pm - 3am CST and Noon Sunday and Monday. Feel free to look me up if you need any assistance.

Gedalya

You can message me; I have a lvl 25 DF and lvl 8 AD characters and always could use some company. That goes for everyone.

cubansyrusb16_ESO

OP it would help if you mentioned your server XD

Meeting people in an MMO to play along-side is easy ... unless your a solo player, although we solo players do like conversation as well when we play and build up a small circle of "trusted associates" or close friends .

Im always up for meeting new people and helping others out which i enjoy immensely, i just find killing or clearing something alone really rewarding ... That does not mean i don't get involved in random group activities though.

Some of my most memorable times in MMO's are being stuck in a dungeon for 3 hours hacking away at it with players you never meet till you entered, clearing and leaving as friends is good.

Yes i said 3 hours ... anyone else remember these ? XD

PBpsy

I am also a kind of inexperienced group player and would like to find a understanding group to level up ,do dungeons and maybe some pvp. I have VR3 NB in the Pact and I am trying to start two new alts in the other factions.
My main name is Laevynne on the NA server. I am available most nights from 7:00EDT

chriss23

I probably should have mentioned that I'm on the EU server but thanks all of you out there for your offers of help!

rotiferuk

chriss23 wrote: »

I probably should have mentioned that I'm on the EU server but thanks all of you out there for your offers of help!

I also play on the EU server, I'm in the Ebonheart Pact and my characters name is Branis Settrnis (level 22 Breton Templar). I generally play mornings / evenings (GMT) and would be happy to group.

JJDrakken

chriss23 wrote: »

As a new mmo player, I'm a bit shy and not too confident about joining in with a group but I know this would make the whole game
experience more satisfying and fun. Could other players comment on their own experiences? I guess I'm afraid of letting the other members of a group down due to inexperience although I enjoy the combat side of the game.

If your looking for a leveling buddy, look up @jjdrakken in game. I will gladly make a new toon to start out with you, show you ropes, etc.. I am a patient person, taught many many peeps throughout more MMOs, that I can count on all appendages on my body, the ropes.

nudel

I would not be afraid of letting the group down. The only time inexperience bothers me is when it's joined by arrogance. You know the 'Don't tell me what to do. I've been playing tanking for 11 years' type. As long as you're open to advice, you'll find helpful players will give it.

I can't tell you that you'll never encounter a pigheaded *** on the server. That promise would be just as empty as telling a child nothing bad will ever happen to them. However, I can tell you that for every one troll I've encountered, I've found 5 more decent, understanding players.

I too was a little cautious of involving randoms in my first instanced dungeons in the live game. I'd read some horror stories in guild chat and on the forums. I completed all three of the first few today with an assortment of different players from zone chat. And honestly, I couldn't have asked for better groups. Across the board, they were considerate, pointing out chests and making sure each player was able to open the same amount. One was even understanding when my friend mentioned that we're deliberate gamers and like to poke our noses in every corner to make sure we didn't miss anything. He waited while we listened to dialogue that he'd skipped through and didn't complain.

Given your anxiety, I would suggest starting out slow. There are options for grouping outside of the 4-man instanced dungeons. World bosses and dark anchors can be great sources of impromptu co-op. You don't even need to group to work together. A simple 'thank you' or 'nice job' at the end can suffice. If you're struggling in a quest area or boss and you see other players nearby obviously working on the same objective, consider sending them a whisper, asking if they'd like to group. ESO facilitates this in that you can run up to someone in the world and hold 'F' and get all kinds of interactions at a glance. Whisper/ trade/ invite to group. My first grouping experiences came from seeing someone approach something I'd just died on and whispering them for help. These are a lot less of a commitment so it may help you overcome the initial performance anxiety.

Lastly, if (more like when) you do encounter a *** who complains about your performance/ playstyle/ build/ appearance/ choice of toothpaste, just remember that not everyone is like that. Their impatience says a lot more about them than it could ever say about you. As the saying goes...the people who judge don't matter and the people who matter don't judge.

Csub

I am also on EU megaserver, feel free to add me @Csubi90, I am in the EP alliance. At the moment I am lvl 30 so I can't really go questing with you but I can help in questions or with any tougher mobs/dungeons you might encounter but cannot find people to. I could also join you in instanced group dungeons although I might make it too easy. Then again, I am a healer and people don't 2 hit mobs much lower level than them luckily anyway. Others can also add me if you want to

And, as others said, don't be afraid to do group content, most people are sort of new here.

Audigy

You will need a thick skin for sure sadly. Maybe try to find like minded players in a guild, but not one of those advertised in game but here at the forum.

Sadly many people in online games are rude but not All!

demendred

New players, look for Sukeisu in AD. I enjoy helping new players, either with in game stuff, or questions about add ons. NA server. I know Im weird on these forums, but Im really a nice guy.....really!

Jessabella

I find most groups are pretty relaxed. I don't often group up since I am still coping with Morning Sickness and have to suddenly afk a lot. But if I explain it to the group they understand. This game is filled with many mature players who have RL situations and in my experience groups are not as "hardcore" as they were in my early days of MMO's.

You can also look for a guild that is fairly casual too and start by grouping up there to get your feet wet. I think one of my fav memories out of PTS testing was chatting with guild mates one day about how we were so social and friendly but all were scared to death of grouping! Long story short, it took a few hours but eventually we made a huge group and got all the "group" areas done that we had all skipped being so terrified.

lupusrex

The game is still pretty new, so jump right in. Use the P key in-game to use the group finder for dungeons or whatever. If your group members are offering suggestions on your play in a polite way, you would be well advised to listen. If someone's being a jerk about it, that's all it is.

We are all still figuring out the game. I've had a lot of fun with groups, even (or especially) when we all die in the process of observing boss mechanics and hammering out a strategy. Eventually it will all be figured out and well-known, so enjoy this period of mutual discovery.