Have you tried loading in without any add-ons enabled?
Without add-ons everything is fine, it works great...
Of course AFTER you managed to get in by overcoming the queue obstacle.
This means that, at the moment, the server is not able to provide enough performance for the game supporting, at the same time, the weight of the add-ons.
Obviously, this is not tolerable.
Until they solve the server issues, I recommend playing without add-ons, otherwise you will always have infinite loading times and crashes.
As a temporary solution, it can also be fine to play without addons if there are no alternatives until they fix the server.
So let's hope they fix the server issues as soon as possible.
People choosing to play the game differently to you are not wrong, bad, stupid or playing too much, or too little. They are just playing it differently to you, they don't need you to "correct" them. No one is playing the game wrong unless they are cheating or hurting others.