ESO community Support through at tragic event

prettypony

My husband (Fantom2k) and I met in ESO about six years ago. We got married in 2019. We both ran the Kitty and Killer Rainbow Dash together. Fantom died sudden and tragically from a brain aneurysm this weekend. He was an amazing father to our 3 kids. This is the hardest thing I have ever been through.

I would like ZOS to know how much the whole ESO community has supported me through this. People do not realize even though this is a game, the community is much more than that. I have had support from not only my guilds, but other GMs have reached out to help me.

My kids, and I have been reading all the supportive messages I have gotten. It has really helped them heal a little bit seeing how loved Fantom was by this community.

Please give your loved ones a hug today.

Thank you ZOS for building much more than a game

BretonMage

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, prettypony. Sending much love your way.

Vonnegut2506

I am so sorry for your loss, but I am glad that a video game community can actually do some good for your family at a time like this. I hope your healing continues.

blktauna

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Ariont

Sorry for your loss. ESO community has always found a way to bring people together in so many terrific ways. Through joys and sorrows know that your fellow community is with you at this trying time.

Sarannah

My condolences!

Though it may feel as a loss, and it is... eventually you will remember everything a person gave you. How they shaped your life, how they made you smile, how they changed your life for the better! Those things are never lost, which means the person you lost will always be with you!

Roztlin45

Please.except.my deepest condolences. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

SammyKhajit

Very sorry to hear about your loss. This one hopes that the ESO game and community will continue to be a source of support for you and your family.

TaSheen

So very sorry for you and your family. You join those I already hold in thought, sending love and hope for healing in the future.

bbrown0770

Please.except my condolences. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Holycannoli

That's awful, absolutely awful.

When someone has a condition or disease and the end is inevitable at some point in the future you at least have time to prepare mentally and legally. This though is awful.

I lost my grandmother that way in 1999. Here one moment on the phone with my aunt then gone in an instant, still on the phone, like the snapping of fingers. Unexpected, no warning, nobody to hold accountable, nothing.

Awful for you to have to go through this

shadyjane62

You will be in our prayers.

Celephantsylvius_Bornasfinmo

Be strong for your kids. Remember him through them.

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family, it's never easy and I hope our words can help you heal.

Coatmagic

Very sorry for your loss & happy the gaming community has been supportive to you in your time of need.
& condolences to you and your family.

Tandor

Deepest sympathy to family and friends.

AoEnwyr

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I can't imagine how devastating that would be. I'm glad to hear that you and your children have found some small comfort in the community and game that brought you both together.

I'm sure you are surrounded by wonderful guild mates right now, but if there is any support that I can offer in game, please don't hesitate to reach out

Cendrillion21

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I am glad to hear that this wonderful community has stepped up in your time of need.

markulrich1966

the game itself can help.
5 years ago the woman I wanted to marry died from a short but strong cancer, just 34 years old, much younger than me.
I was destroyed for 3 years.

Started soon gaming to distract me, after the first year found ESO, and it really helped to deal with this difficult time.
I think you never will be able to completely recover from such a loss, but after a certain time you learn to live with it, and it is at least no longer dominating any moment. Yes, you can even laugh and make jokes again, though it is not the same as before.

The worst problem I think is this first phase, where you feel like under drugs. Standing beside yourself, almost not able to stop thinking about it.
This is, where the game can help. It is so immersive, that for some moments you can focus on something different. It also allows to do something in memory of the lost person, e.g. I placed an Alinor Sarcophagus in the psijic villa, rose leafs, a memorial. And decorated other places having in mind it could be a place where her spirit might go to relax from wherever she is now.

My condolences for you, I am glad that you got positive support from other players, and hope you will be able to get over the first heavy year(s) without giving up. Scars remain for the rest of your life, but by time they get less visible. Take care.

Dolphinsgal

I'm so sorry for your loss, I found the eso community helpful through the grieving process as well.
Something I think a lot of people forget is that there are real people they are communicating with through the game, tragedy seems to remind everyone of this fact.
I've been dealing with my own medical issues for years and use eso for an escape and to connect to the outside world. I've been able to help others with chronic medical issues. After the grieving you'll be stronger and able to help someone else who loses a family member.

Rowjoh

I don't know you, but I'm so very sorry to hear about this.

I know it will be very difficult as you try to come to terms with your incredibly sad loss, but stay as strong and as positive as you can, not just for the kids but for YOU.

And I hope that it doesn't take too long to move on and rebuild your life - it's what you husband would want and what your kids will need.

I'm sure you're surrounded with love and support from family and friends, but please dont hesitate to message me if you need some extra support or advice

Carcamongus

I'm very sorry for your loss, but at the same time I'm glad you and your kids don't have to face these awful times alone. Yes, the ESO community can really do great things, such as several people trying to make a depressed player feel better in zone chat a few days ago. Devs do their part, too: there's a sleeping bear somewhere in northeast Cyrodiil that's a homage to a player who unfortunately passed away.

Paralyse

As someone who lost both his parents to sudden death events 5 years apart, and way too soon, please accept my deepest, most heartfelt sympathies and condolences for your loss.

Perhaps your in-game friends and guilds could do some sort of in-game memorial event at some time if it's not too painful.

SimonThesis

I'm sorry for your loss. The community in this game is top notch and there for each other even in places you wouldn't expect.

Drammanoth

I do envy you meeting your significant other here, but...

Ah, "always sad when someone has to die".

As Nefas said in some of his vids - ESO, Tamriel here is like home. THIS is why we fight with toxins - be they elitists or casuals.

To feel at home. To have a place where we can find comfort. Consolation.

You have my deepest sympathy and accept my condolences.

SianTamzin

Sorry for your loss.

merevie

These are our guild leaders and they have given so much to our guild community over many years. Really fun people, 1000% committed to ESO family & always there for KRD. Thank you so much to Fantom2k and Prettypony.

Call_of_Red_Mountain

🥺❤

Anony_Mouse

So sorry for your loss

redlink1979

@prettypony I'm sorry for your loss. May Fantom2k rest in peace.

Katheriah

I'm so sorry to hear about your sudden loss. It's good to hear the community is there to support you. It must be really tough with 3 kids, and some thing will be expected to go on. Do you have enough help around you right now or do you need anything?

And remember... At this moment you will mostly feel heartbreak and healing will take it's time... The amount of time it takes is different for everyone and that's perfectly fine. Eventually the good memories will stay, because they're about all the things you did together. I can only hope that you will eventually be happy when you recognize your husband and your shared dreams in the things you and your kids will do in the future.

Even if you don't feel it now... You will be okay in the end, no matter how tough it's going to be on the road to being okay.

Taryn57

So sorry for your loss prettypony, RIP Fantom2K.