Thanks to the guys here who helped with my questions and build. I just could not get to the point where I enjoyed my magicka dk, but I finally managed, using a lightning staff, no less. I've fallen in love with lightning blockade lava lash spam.
Before I just never really liked the overall character of the class, buy now that mix of fire and lightning makes my dk feel like a true mage (not dying all the time, and finally dealing respectable damage, help too).
For build refinement, I'm open to suggestions. Here's what I'm working with for basic soloing/cp grinding and pve group dungeons right now:
64 points into magicka
5 pc Julianos and 3 pc torugs pact, all training
Infused lightning staff w/ shock enchant
Precise Inferno staff w/ fire enchant
Willpower amulet/rings all with spell power enchants
Front bar (lightning)
Lava lash
Lightning blockade
Eruption
Dampen magic
Molten weapons
Destro ultimate
Back bar (Inferno)
Destructive clench
Engulfing flames
Searing grasp
Flex spot / volatile armor
Weakness to elements
Standard of might
Back bar is mostly just to apply dots/weakness to tougher targets. Mostly stay on front bar and aoe everything with eruption / blockade, heavy attack with the lightning staff, and start spamming lava lash once enemies start going off balance from the concussed/blockade combo.
Having a free spammable attack that does huge burst and heals me constantly is awesome.
PS4 / NA
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