Hey everyone

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Long time forum reader, but first time post.
I know everyone's probably sick of reading about Stamina DPS posts - they seem to pop up quite often. But hopefully you all don't mind if I bug you again with one.
My issue is with poor DPS for what, as far as I have read, should be alot better. I have played ESO since day one along with my partner. I am a stamina nightblade and he is a magicka sorcerer. And we are both having the same issues. We are at our wits end trying to work out what we are lacking. We have researched and tried many suggested builds and combos. Yet our DPS is low and neither of us can beat VMA or even normal.
My CP is 361. He is in the early 400's.
When running dungeons I can only do around 10k - 13k DPS. However most of the time I am doing 10k (unless its a group damage situation). Ive tried everything and don't understand why I am so low. My partner does more than me but not as much as what people say you should at this point. I am still experienced with all dungeons and still do well. But don't think I have enough DPS to try trials yet.
So like many stam NB, I have followed most of Gilliamtherogue's build suggestions and gameplay. I have tried lots of other builds too and watched many gameplay videos. There has been improvement. But not seeing what everyone else seems to.
The Vet Maelstrom daggers are highly recommended for a stam nightblade like me, but I can't even beat it on normal mode? So getting that is a long way off for me. Trying to find a good build without the VMA daggers is difficult. But I haven't got vigor yet, so was waiting for that before I try again.
I should also mention I am a Wood Elf. Which I know isn't a very recommended race for stam NB. Not sure how this impacts me and if its worth swapping for a Kajit.
So my current build:
Attribute Points: All 64 points in stamina
Mundus Stone: The Shadow
Undaunted set (head and shoulders): Valkyn Skoria (one is heavy and one is light in divines, for health boost, as I haven't picked up medium divines yet)
Other main set: 5 piece Night Mothers Gaze (including my two daggers) all medium, yellow and divines
Other set: 5 piece sunderflame including all 3 jewelry. Medium, divines. (still purple as I was testing it)
I did have 2 piece hundigs rage and 3 agility for jewelry before but changed recently to sunderflame for the 5 piece bonus. The rest of the perks are basically the same. Still got a hundigs bow on my second bar I havent changed yet.
Moves (Bar 1)
Rapid Strikes, Rending Slashes, Killers blade, steel tornado, relentless focus (sometimes I swap it for Deadly Cloak) and ult is Rend.
Moves (Bar 2)
Rearming Trap, Poison Injection, Endless hail, Acid Spray (because I don't have caltrops yet), Siphoning Attacks and ult is Soul Harvest
I always run food which gives me 5395 health and 4936 stamina. When I got that up:
Max stam: 34394
Max health: 17951
Weapon crit: 59.7%
I appreciate everyone's suggestions and advice. Thanks

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